What should I do if my 5-year-old daughter wets the bed? Huang Lei's emotional intelligence coping style won 290,000 praises, so learn quickly.

Hello, I'm Wenwen's father! I believe everyone has had the experience of wetting the bed. Wenwen's father wet the bed for the last time after attending elementary school, and it was at someone else's house. He got up early to "escape home" after discovering that he was wetting the bed. Fortunately, no one has ever mentioned it, and Wenwen's father is very grateful for it so far.

Some time ago, my 5-year-old daughter, who was in the middle class, suddenly began to wet the bed frequently. Seeing the "map" she drew on the bed, her daughter said with tears, "Dad, I wet the bed".

While comforting my daughter, I said, "It's okay. Dad used to wet the bed when he was your age. Just let mom wash the sheets. "

Although I don't care, I have been thinking, "A daughter who rarely wets the bed after she was 2 years old, how can she still wet the bed when she is 5 years old?"

I didn't know how to deal with it correctly, so I began to search for other people's coping methods on the Internet. In the process of searching, I found Huang Lei's coping style. After reading it, I can't help but sigh: there is a reason why children are so excellent! What she said to her daughter after wetting the bed was praised by 290 thousand.

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Huang Lei's five-year-old daughter got up and asked her father, "Do you know how I wet the bed?" Dad Huang Lei's reply made my little daughter admire him very much.

Across the screen, Wenwen's father was laughed at by Huang Lei's father and daughter. At the same time, I admire Huang Lei's high emotional intelligence. In the face of his daughter's bed wetting, his coping style not only didn't embarrass her, but made her admire.

Compared with Huang Lei's high EQ coping style, Wenwen's father remembered his childhood and was often reprimanded by his parents for wetting the bed. Years later, I often think of my father's sarcastic and threatening words.

I still remember living in a big yard when I was a child, and many people lived together. After occasionally wetting the bed, my parents sarcastically said, "You are not ashamed to wet the bed at your age!" " It's really embarrassing to open a cup alone in the sun. "

Wenwen's father felt very ashamed when he saw the neighbors' ridicule. I secretly vowed never to wet the bed again. Awkward. In order not to wet the bed, Wenwen's father just opened his eyes, but when he fell asleep, he woke up and found that he wet the bed again.

Then came the father's threatening voice: "Wet the bed every day, what's the matter?" Cry in bed tomorrow and see what I can do to you. "

Then there was no suspense. Wenwen's father wet the bed again. After wetting the bed, he was not only beaten by his father, but also punished for not eating or drinking at night. Finally, he didn't wet the bed.

But for bed wetting, like a curse, it often appears in Wenwen's father's ear. Everyone around me knows that I wet the bed, and I was laughed at in primary school and junior high school, until I went to high school.

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After learning Huang Lei's coping style, combined with his own personal experience, Wen Wen's father was obviously more calm than his parents when his 5-year-old daughter wet the bed. When his daughter wets the bed, Wenwen's father first learns from Huang Lei's way, encourages her, and makes her feel that wetting the bed is a trivial matter.

My 5-year-old daughter is embarrassed to wet the bed. She is afraid of her parents' scolding and jokes. So she is always timid after wetting the bed. Later, after communicating with the teacher, it seems that I found the reason for wetting the bed. My daughter was criticized by the teacher for fighting with her good friend in kindergarten.

Generally speaking, a 5-year-old child's nervous system is well developed, his ability to control his bladder will become stronger, and he will not wet the bed often.

According to relevant statistics, 15%-20% of 5-year-old children will wet the bed; 10% of 7-year-old children will wet the bed; /kloc-5% of children aged 0/0 will wet the bed.

Therefore, when a 5-year-old child wets the bed, parents should avoid holding their breath, and do not fight, scold or punish. You know, no child will intentionally wet the bed. Therefore, it is more important for parents to find out why their children wet the bed.

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Generally speaking, it is normal for children to wet the bed occasionally, but if it is too frequent and lasts for a long time, parents should pay attention. As for the reasons why children wet the bed frequently, the book China Parenting Encyclopedia mentions two major reasons: objective reasons and psychological factors.

As far as objective reasons are concerned, it is mostly related to factors such as heredity and disease. According to relevant statistics, if one parent often wets the bed as a child, the probability of the child wetting the bed is as high as 47%; If both parents have the experience of bed wetting, the probability of child bed wetting increases to 77%.

The reasons why children over 5 years old wet the bed are mostly related to emotional and psychological factors. For example, after her daughter had a fight with her good friend in kindergarten and was criticized by the teacher, she felt wronged and stressed subconsciously, so she was relieved by wetting the bed.

Wenwen's father had a high school classmate who was often scolded by his parents for wetting the bed when he was a child, which caused a serious psychological shadow. Later, he saw a lot of doctors and took a lot of medicine, but it didn't help.

After the college entrance examination, he could have gone to a key university in Beijing, but he was afraid of living in a dormitory, so he chose a general university close to home. It can be seen that bed wetting itself is a trivial matter, and the wrong coping style of parents is a major event.

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In the face of his daughter who often wets the bed, Wenwen's father did this:

After learning that his daughter was criticized by the teacher for fighting with her good friend, Wenwen's father also communicated with the teacher about the child wetting the bed. I also hope that teachers will encourage and enlighten children in kindergartens, create conditions for the two children to make up, and reduce the psychological pressure of their daughters.

At home, Wenwen's father and daughter analyzed this matter: "Although she pushed you, you also hurt her face. You did something wrong. If you apologize to her, maybe you can become good friends. "

Later, her daughter called her and invited her to play at home, and the two children made up again. The situation of my daughter's bed wetting has also been greatly improved, and she hardly wets the bed.

Parents can help their children in this way when they wet the bed.

First of all, take the child to the hospital for examination to see if he has enuresis or other related diseases that affect urination. Parents should pay attention to children who are older, wet the bed more often and last longer.

Secondly, pay attention to the child's activity during the day, try not to play too tired, so as not to sleep too hard at night and wake up in time after peeing; At the same time, drink as little water as possible after 8 pm.

Finally, help children develop the habit of urinating independently. When children frequently wet the bed, parents must praise them in time and give them some rewards to enhance their self-confidence in urination.

Most importantly, parents should not blame their children for wetting the bed. Wenwen's father thinks that no child wants to wet the bed. Parents' blame will only aggravate children's psychological counseling. The best way to keep children from wetting the bed is to seek medical advice in time, and parents should be patient with them.

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