"I'm warning you not to run to your parents' house if you have nothing to do. That's not your home." Are you willing to let your parents follow you and be afraid?

There have always been inexplicable and unclear entanglements between husband and wife regarding the issue of supporting their parents. Many couples who originally lived a peaceful life start to get emotional and quarrel when it comes to the issue of supporting their parents. In life, such things are not uncommon.

Many selfish husband-in-laws take it for granted that after a girl gets married, she should no longer care about her biological parents. The reason given is: "The married daughter will be thrown away." "Water". From the day a girl gets married, it is her parents-in-law that she should fulfill her obligation to take care of. Her biological parents can only be regarded as relatives. They can just think about it during the New Year. It is her husband's family that she should devote all her time, money and energy to. Go ahead and take care of it.

What is even more difficult to understand and accept are those men with double standards.

Since Milan got married, her husband Wu has been limiting the number of times she can return to her parents’ home.

When she first got married, Wu expressed her expression more tactfully, using some words that seemed very caring and considerate to persuade her: "You always run to your parents' house when you get married, and others look at you for a while. If you gossip, people will either say that you are ignorant, that you are a married woman, and that you still act like an unweaned child, always running to your parents' house. Most importantly, you will make your parents worry about you for no reason, thinking that you are. It’s not easy to live in your husband’s family, so you always hide away. Are you willing to let your parents worry about you?”

It sounds like what Wu said makes sense, and Milan doesn’t. Think more, just call your parents if you miss them.

However, making phone calls and visiting home are two different things after all. Therefore, during the May Day holiday, Milan thought about going back to her parents’ home to visit. Wu persuaded her: “I just came back during the Spring Festival. How long has it been? My sister and brother-in-law are still coming to the house. You, the sister-in-law, have gone back to your parents’ house, and it’s as if they are not welcome to leave. Come back during the Mid-Autumn Festival. I’ll accompany you.”

Milan thinks it’s okay, May Day is not an important holiday, Mid-Autumn Festival is the Reunion Festival.

In this way, I spent a short vacation with my parents-in-law and my sister-in-law, and took my parents-in-law to visit several scenic spots. Everyone is very happy.

However, as the Mid-Autumn Festival was approaching, Milan asked Wu if you wanted to go back with me. Wu repeated his old trick:

“Look, the Mid-Autumn Festival is a very important day, and it is also the first Mid-Autumn Festival after you married into our family. Is it too much to leave my parents at home? It’s appropriate, how uncomfortable the old man is. Besides, my sister and her family have agreed to come back. As a son, how can I not stay with my parents during such an important festival? How unfilial.”

Milan thought for a while and said: "That's okay, then I'll go back by myself. You stay at home with your parents, and entertain your sister's family by the way. I haven't been home for almost a year, and my dad Mom misses me too.”

“You won’t listen to good words, right? I’m warning you, don’t run to your parents’ house if you have nothing to do. It’s not your house if you leave your parents-in-law alone. , I’m not afraid of being laughed at when I say it. A married girl can just go back to her parents’ home in the first month of the year. It’s not over yet.” Seeing that Milan was determined to return to her parents’ home, Wu suddenly burst into anger.

Milan was shocked when he suddenly yelled like this, and he didn't come back to his senses for a long time. The female colleagues and classmates around me have to go back to their parents' homes at least three or four times a year when they get married. How can their husbands happily accompany them? Why did I meet such an unreasonable person like Wu when I got to her place?

Just as he was thinking about it, Wu’s phone rang. It was his sister-in-law, saying that they would be back on a certain day, and that this time it would be with the National Day holiday and they would have to stay for a few more days. I asked Wu to clean up the room in advance.

Milan suddenly thought of a way to deal with this double-standard "scumbag". She was not angry. As usual, she said to Wu in an understatement: "Okay, I will listen to you and won't reply. This time I will treat your sister well."

Wu Ting I am happy and feel that I have won again. My parents taught me rightly. A husband should behave like the head of the family. He cannot just let his wife do whatever he wants. A woman must listen to her man.

On the day of the Mid-Autumn Festival, my sister-in-law and her family came in time for a meal.

At the dinner table, Milan was eating the meal carelessly while chatting affectionately with his sister-in-law. Suddenly the conversation changed and he said: "Your brother wants me to tell you something. He said he doesn't know how to speak. What about me? I paraphrased it exactly as it was: "I'm warning you, don't run to your parents' house if you have nothing to do. It's not your home. If you leave your parents-in-law alone, you just want to run to your parents' house. You won't be afraid of being laughed at by others. You're a married girl. It's the first month of the year." Just go back to your parents’ house, it’s not over yet.’”

Everyone at the table fell silent, all eyes focused on Wu. Wu's face was not ordinary ugly at that time, and he denied everything on the spot. Claiming that it was said to Milan.

Wu didn’t know that what Milan wanted was his own admission. She asked a few questions directly to the people present:

To the parents-in-law: You also have daughters. If you have something to do every day, you will call your daughter back. Three or four times a month. A few, right? Your daughter is also the one who threw the water away, and has been doing so for so many years. Moreover, it is said that her parents-in-law are still sick and need help. How come she, the daughter-in-law, can't tell the difference between the seriousness and the seriousness? Why are you so heartless? How could you leave your parents-in-law at home so cold-bloodedly?

To Wu: Your sister can go back to her natal family frequently. Unless it is absolutely necessary, your brother-in-law still has to accompany her. She also has a son there. If other people's parents are as selfish as yours, or if your brother-in-law listens to his parents' instigation in everything like you and restricts his daughter-in-law from returning to her parents' home on the grounds of "throwing water from a married daughter", then what authority does your sister have at this time? Show up in this home. On this kind of family reunion day, she should stay at her husband's house, which is her relatives' house.

"Sister-in-law, you are absolutely right. Their family has such double standards. If I hadn't done it for the sake of my children, I would be such a woman who spends time at her mother's house every day and doesn't care about her parents-in-law or the children. , I divorced her a long time ago. If my parents hadn't persuaded me to let her go, I wouldn't have come here with her. I'm a little out of sorts today. Please bear with me, sister-in-law. We are all outsiders in their family. Back." My sister-in-law's husband walked away.

My sister-in-law also went crazy and slapped herself twice. "Together with my parents and brother who you can't understand, I have done so much evil in my previous life. Double standards? My sister-in-law's words are not true." It sounds good, but I'm absolutely right."

"Don't listen to her nonsense, what she said is not human at all!" Wu blushed with anger.

"Shut up, you are a long time old. Your nephew is already in elementary school. You finally deceived a wife and came back. You bully others because of their young age. Wake up. You don’t know anymore. Repent, just wait until you're single," my sister-in-law cried with tears streaming down her face.

For the first time, the parents-in-law were so quiet that they did not speak to help. They were not willing to hurt their precious daughter. Over the years, in addition to teaching their daughter that she has no obligation to support her parents-in-law, it seems that the only thing they can't do is spoil their son-in-law.

I asked Milan where he spent New Year’s Day. She said, of course, at her parents' home, because she had been waiting for the day when she and Wu would officially get divorced.

As a couple, if you have selfish motives and use double standards to measure your obligation to support your parents, your life will definitely be difficult. Only the unity of husband and wife is a necessary condition for family harmony, not one of them. If the family is not harmonious, how can we talk about family support?

It is unrealistic to support both parents in a bowl of water, after all, the blood relatives are there. However, I believe most people can understand and accept the difference between 100% and 90%.

To put it bluntly, the wisest thing is for the husband and wife to work together to take good care of the elderly on both sides.