On the wedding day, the bride refused to get off the wedding car: "My parents said the fare was 5 thousand." what do you think?

Ni Kuang, who once wrote a chapter "Days of Ba Long" for Jin Yong's generation, is probably the most famous writer in this life who was blind in A Zi's eyes.

However, he has a famous saying, but it is not under the "Dragon Eight Branches" of his generation. That is: "People who keep using calculators, regardless of gender, will not have true love."

This sentence has always been regarded as a treasure by men and women in the secular world.

Indeed, if there is only calculation in a relationship, it must be the lack of the temperature of love, leaving only cold mutual suspicion. Rich people will think, are you interested in my money? Good-looking people will wonder if you don't like me because I'm no longer young.

Calculation makes love ugly and embarrassing.

But some people often don't care about this. Every time they run a relationship, they should try their best to get benefits from each other. Their purpose is often not to find true love, but to put money first.

A casual search on the internet, coveting each other's premarital property, asking for sky-high bride price, and defrauding women of dowry money to decorate premarital property, these cases abound, regardless of gender.

For these phenomena, my view has always been that marriage needs to talk about money, but don't over-calculate it. Overcalculating this behavior is like marriage is a pile of business, and the other party has been sincerely concerned about how to make a profit, which not only tramples on the other party's true feelings, but also exposes Ta's ruthlessness.

Just like a case I once saw, one party was too calculating, which led to a mess at the end of the wedding, and two people broke up.

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The hero of this case is Dong Xiang.

Dong Xiang was born in an ordinary family, and his father was an ordinary decoration worker, who decorated with his boss all the year round. His mother is just a small vendor in a vegetable market.

Neither of them has a pension. According to the old saying, "one build what did not build, and make a living."

However, although the days are poor, Dong Xiang's parents are very satisfied. Now their greatest wish is that their son will marry a daughter-in-law and the family will live a stable life.

Influenced by his parents, Dong Xiang was very sensible from an early age and yearned for a stable life.

His life creed is: just live hard and work hard, just have money. If not, it is enough to be worthy of yourself. It is more important for a family to live a stable and healthy life than anything else.

After graduating from Dongxiang University, he first found a part-time job in the town, and then began to take an examination of institutions wholeheartedly. After several efforts, I was finally admitted to a public institution in the town in the second year. Being able to stay in the town to honor his mother and have a fairly smooth and stable development, Dong Xiang feels very satisfied. But his girlfriend's family doesn't think so.

Dong Xiang has a girlfriend who has been planning to get married. Although we met on a blind date, we hit it off. She talked for a year.

Both of them recognized each other and accumulated a lot of feelings. However, the girlfriend's family has always had a little objection to this marriage, thinking that the daughter can find a better one.

What is better here is not better or more reliable, but richer.

In fact, Dong Xiang vaguely found that his girlfriend's family is very patriarchal, and his girlfriend has a younger brother, so the prospective father-in-law very much hopes to marry his daughter to a richer person and ask for more bride price.

The problem is that their family conditions are not even as good as Dong Xiang's, but they think about what rich people their daughter can meet all day. I've been thinking about it for so many years, but it hasn't come true. In the end, they can only agree that their daughter can associate with Dong Xiang.

Originally, Dong Xiang had nothing to do, and he didn't marry his parents-in-law. But when he was planning to get married, he realized that he underestimated the influence of family on a person.

Girlfriend's family has strict rules since childhood, not the rules of any big family, but the idea that men are superior to women is very serious. Girlfriends have been taught from an early age that "listen to your father at home, and the eldest sister is the oldest".

After visiting her home several times before, Dong Xiang found that his girlfriend's younger brother, who was several years younger than her, could boss her around, but his girlfriend got used to it.

I thought I would marry my girlfriend this time, and my girlfriend will definitely think about herself and their family in the future.

As a result, when talking about this matter at the dinner table, the old father-in-law held out two fingers with a cigarette in his mouth and said, "Son-in-law, I don't want much, just two hundred thousand bride price." This sentence simply frightened Dong Xiang. Isn't that enough?

Dong Xiang never denies that the bride price is particularly high in some places, but in their place, the bride price is 70 thousand to150 thousand, and the old father-in-law wants 200 thousand at a time, which really puts a lot of pressure on him. My family is not rich. Do you want to empty my parents' money for marriage?

Besides, if the bride price is given, isn't it necessary to organize a banquet and a wedding car afterwards? Didn't my father-in-law think about this?

I thought my girlfriend would say something for herself. After all, this is her wedding. I never thought my girlfriend would say, "My dad raised me this big, so just promise him. The bride price of200,000 is not too much. "

Dong Xiang later sent a message to his girlfriend on the pretext of leaving, saying that it was not that he refused to give the bride price. The problem is that the bride price will seriously affect their future life. His girlfriend replied, "Then find your parents to do something."

The implication is that, to paraphrase the popular "Xue Ming" recently, this is your problem and you must solve all the problems. I don't understand you, and I won't accommodate you.

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Dong Xiang was left helpless by his girlfriend and went back to discuss with his parents. As a result, without saying anything, his parents began to find a passbook to sell things, and some bracelets left by his grandmother to his mother. Finally, they borrowed tens of thousands to collect enough money for the bride price.

After collecting enough money, Dong Xiang went on to talk to the old father-in-law and said that the bride price money was available, but what about the banquet?

Dongxiang doesn't want any dowry. He just wants his girlfriend's family to get together and make the wedding a success. As a result, my father-in-law said directly, "All the money in our family is for our son, and there is nothing we can do about the wedding banquet."

This sentence simply doesn't treat my daughter as a relative. I thought I had gone too far, and my girlfriend would react a little. As a result, my girlfriend showed neither support nor opposition.

Finally, in private, she told Dong Xiang: "After all, it is my parents and my brother. I can't turn my elbow out, can I? "

This time, Dong Xiang gave up all his money for this family. He gritted his teeth and said, "I'll borrow it again." But in the end, he was afraid of another moth in his girlfriend's house, so he asked, "There won't be any other place to ask for money, will there?" This matter is settled? "

The old father-in-law patted him affectionately on the shoulder: "No way". How can you be insatiable? "

Facts have proved that what the old father-in-law said is "fart".

On the wedding day, when you get off the wedding car, your girlfriend will never get off again. Dong Xiang was almost shocked and asked, "What are you doing?" My girlfriend whispered, "My parents said the fare was 5 thousand."

Dong Xiang's brain was exploding at that time. I didn't say it before. Now, isn't he forcing him to give it in front of everyone?

If we continue to waste time, will the wedding be held? Dong Xiang always thought that the old father-in-law was just insatiable, but in fact he was insatiable.

Moreover, my girlfriend said "what my parents said" sentence by sentence, as if she had no thoughts, which really made people angry. Dong Xiang endured anger and quickly received five thousand cash for her at the scene.

Unexpectedly, the moth is not over yet. It's time for the bride to come in and offer tea. According to the rules, the bride should call her parents.

As a result, before this, a bridesmaid took the time to say to Dong Xiang, "Our rule is that the change fee is 20,000. You'll give it later and serve tea immediately, lest she change her mind later and everyone look ugly. "

Dong Xiang really lost his mind this time. His anger is not only that the bride's family tramples on his bottom line again and again, asking for his money.

In fact, if he didn't want to give the bride price, he wouldn't borrow money for the wedding. But the attitude of the bride's family is too chilling. They never consider their married situation. Their soon-to-be-married wife actually helps them exploit their husband, as if she would not stop until she drained his blood. More importantly, if we talk well at the beginning, we will do nothing. Serve tea right now, saying that you want to change the charges, rather than explicitly saying that it is a calculation.

He just shouted, "Get out!"

This roar didn't let the wedding go on. The guest didn't know what happened inexplicably. The bride said with tears, "Didn't you say you love me?" Is that how you love me? "

Dong Xiang sneered: "Then I want to ask you, do you want money in another way, marry or sell yourself?" They treat your daughter as a commodity, and you speak for them! "

Finally, the two sides broke up in discord, and the wedding became a joke in the town.

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Judging from this case, in fact, Dong Xiang is not a stingy person. What saddens him most is the attitude that the woman's family has been calculating for him.

In fact, who doesn't want more protection when getting married? Whether for his son or his daughter, Dong Xiang didn't want to give a bride price of 200,000 yuan at first. Although he stood on the position of his future marriage quality and didn't want to empty his parents, he also understood that although the father-in-law's family was too outrageous, he still had his reasons.

It's just that there is no banquet, no dowry, and then the fare and change fee, and the nature of this matter has gradually changed.

To put it bluntly, the woman's parents didn't treat Dong Xiang as a son-in-law at all, but found a big head to kill him. As for my girlfriend, my feelings for myself are cheap because of this calculation.

Dong Xiang finally gave a bride price of 200,000 yuan, which proved that he was sincere. It's a pity that he treats others with sincerity, but others treat him with calculation.

So, I separated as soon as I got married.

In fact, this is true in both human life and emotional life. How can a greedy person who calculates you everywhere be liked by others?

Shakespeare said: "If love is mixed with calculations that have nothing to do with itself, it is not true love."

I hope we don't live too calculated.