What should you do when your child is nicknamed by others?

First of all, parents should value their children and not think that their children are like that.

If parents also think deep down in their hearts that their children are dark, have small eyes, and look a bit like little black dogs, isn’t it justifiable for others to give their children such nicknames? For children, the most serious harm must come from their parents.

Some parents say: "I don't think so!" Wrong! It's really possible that you think that.

If you have a very low self-esteem, want to be strong, and are very anxious, fearing that your child will be delayed in the future because of his dark appearance, then you will show some degree of worry and dissatisfaction in your words. Even if they don't show it on the surface, they care in their hearts, and children can feel their parents' hearts.

Therefore, we cannot change others, but we can change our own attitude towards our children. The first thing we need to do is to accept the child from the bottom of our heart and never make it worse for the child.

Secondly, provide crisis intervention to the child.

The first step: understanding and feeling sorry for the child.

Son, it must be very uncomfortable for you to be nicknamed by your classmates. It makes your mother feel bad to see you in pain.

After speaking, sit quietly next to the child. The child may cry for a while, or he may cry and tell his mother. Of course, the older the child, the more likely he will remain silent. Express your emotions in your own way. For example, clenching hands, gritting teeth, or eyes wandering, trying desperately to control tears.

At this time, parents can gently hold the child's hand and touch the child. Parents must relax and don't feel like the sky is falling. What we are facing at this moment is an injured child, and we must use our shoulders, hands, gentle eyes and a tearful heart to accompany him.

The second step: comfort the child.

When the child is willing to speak, parents should listen and don’t say too much, but give him body language. When the child has finished speaking, the best way for parents to comfort the child is to tell him:

If I were you, I might beat him, or tell the teacher that I am not as good as you. You didn't beat him up or find a teacher, but you knew how to hold back and think of a better way to solve it at this time.

This is what we call emergency intervention.