When I was a child, I often said to my children, "You were picked up by your mother." What harm will this do to my children?

I believe that many parents have faced a problem in the process of their children's growth, that is, children will always ask themselves where they come from. Then some parents will say, I sent you on the phone and you picked it up in the trash can. However, if you often tell your child that you picked it up, it will actually do great harm to your child's growth.

One, the personality becomes passive Nuo Nuo When he knows that he has been taken away, he may feel that he has no position in the family during the war, because in his heart he will feel that his relationship with his parents is not close. Therefore, her personality will become passive and Nuo Nuo, and she is good at reading people's eyes. What many children want is not their parents' answers, but to tell them where they come from. Some parents feel that the real answer can't be said, so they will use this joke to prevaricate, but this kind of words will do great harm to their children.

Second, he is not confident. When the child hears his parents say that he was picked up, on the other hand, it shows that he was not born to his parents, so he will feel very lost. This is true for any child. We can imagine what we would think if our parents told us you were here when we were young. Children are very naive. So they basically believe what their parents say, because some parents may think that such words are just a joke, just a joke, but they never thought that their children would really believe them.

Third, there is a sense of distance from parents. Once a child is sad, when he speaks like this, he will feel distant from his parents because he feels that he is not a part of this family. Therefore, parents should not answer their children with such words when they ask questions. Even if they maintain his young mind, they will also maintain the relationship between parents and children. For children, it is very easy for them to believe what others say, especially what their parents say, so parents might as well tell their children directly where they come from.