How to talk to your parents-in-law when you meet them for the first time (if it is also your first time to go to your mother-in-law’s house)

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Some time ago, a netizen asked if he had ever experienced the other party’s parents inviting you to meet them. Many readers also I asked in a private message that I don’t know what details I should pay attention to when meeting parents for the first time.

Most of my friends are very nervous about what can be done and what should not be done. After all, it is the first time, and the first impression is also very important, and it is likely to affect them. future life.

Some people say that when you first meet, you should talk as little as possible. If you don’t know something, you can ask your boyfriend for help.

If the other person’s parents take the initiative to invite you, at least they recognize your identity as your girlfriend. You only need to behave at a normal level, and you can also restrain some of the habits of young people in the past, and have more respect and understanding for your elders. , the elders will not be too harsh on you.

But when you go to your parents' house for the first time, the most important thing is to pay attention to the attitude of your husband or your boyfriend, because his attitude directly determines your status in the other person's family.

After all, the other person is his parent, and as a son, he will be more understanding and familiar with it. A good boyfriend will definitely deal with it so that you will not be as embarrassed as you imagined.

Because some people say it’s OK, but don’t lower your stance. I’ve picked out some of his important topics for your reference. First: Pay attention to appearance

I have seen many girls show great grandness when they meet their future mother-in-law for the first time, and of course they are particularly concerned about this meeting.

Therefore, paying special attention to your appearance, especially dressing, makeup, and jewelry matching is also for the most part.

You must know the phrase "everything must be reversed". Many things are inappropriate because they are not suitable for you, and you will often make more mistakes if you are not in the field you are good at.

There was a reader before who was one of the cooler girls I know. Although the boys don’t seem to be as trendy as expected.

But at least she is not inferior to girls. A very big embarrassment happened when she went to her mother-in-law's house for the first time.

I am used to wearing dark clothes, but for the first time I wore a beautiful dress and exquisite-looking high-heeled shoes. I accidentally fell down when I just entered the house.

This was embarrassing for everyone. Her boyfriend hurriedly came over to help her up and help her organize her clothes. Fortunately, her parents did not laugh at her as they expected, but comforted her by asking Are there any injuries?

The girl said that although the meeting was not very pleasant, fortunately, the warmth of the other person's parents made her feel recognized by others, and they later became happily together.

However, the attitude of some people’s families is not as gentle as expected, especially from the moment you step into their home, they will look you up and down.

Every move you make, every smile you make, every word you say is extremely harsh, just like you are in an exam interview.

But actually it’s not that stressful, just show your most ordinary and normal side. Second: Be humble and courteous

"It's the first time you meet your parents and go to your future mother-in-law's house. Do you want to take the initiative to help wash the dishes?" People also have different opinions on this issue.

Everyone has their own ideas. Many mothers-in-law think that it is a good thing and extra points for their daughter-in-law to help them on their first day here. More mothers think that as their daughter’s first time at home, she must have a certain attitude. To be in place, there may not necessarily be imaginary actions.

To put it simply, when you go to your future in-law’s house for the first time, you should behave appropriately and take the initiative to help with housework, but just talk about it, and then help with some small things. .

If there is no need to intervene at all, just try to maintain your attitude and choose to take the initiative to help, but without any actual actions.

Because you have to know whether to take action or not, this matter is also related to your future married life.

If the other party’s parents-in-law take the initiative to ask you to do work as soon as they come up, it only means that their character is not very good. But if your boyfriend chooses to help you at this time, it means that your boyfriend still cares about you. Not bad.

If you say you want a hug, but your parents say no, and let your boyfriend wash the dishes or they wash the dishes themselves, you will sit on the sofa, watch TV, and chat like a guest. This is the most basic thing. respect.

Your current experience does not necessarily determine that you will get married in the future. Therefore, before your identity is confirmed, you are just an ordinary boyfriend and girlfriend. Friendship and marriage are two completely different things. concept.

When you go to your parents-in-law's house, you must correct your attitude. When facing your elders, you must be humble, polite, and educated, and you must not be unreasonable or indulgent.

However, you should not act too humble in the eyes of your in-laws, as this will lower your status in their eyes, as your parents-in-law think.

Since you will choose to work when you come up, you may still be commanded by your son after you get married. Third: Keep your posture correct

Many people think that mothers-in-law will like such troublesome daughters-in-law. In fact, many mothers-in-law look jealous when they first meet their daughter-in-law. .

Women’s natural hostility is most vividly displayed. At this time, you must maintain your posture and don’t be arrogant. Second, you must understand that you and your mother-in-law are equally matched, and you are willing to take care of her son. Mother-in-law.

But you must also tell your mother-in-law that you take care of her and are willing to respect her because of her son. Lowering your position may not necessarily make your mother-in-law like you, but will instead make you a target for bullying.

But don’t be too forceful. Your mother-in-law can beat you to death with a stick, leaving your boyfriend in a dilemma.

That is, you can go ahead if you have a good attitude, but you must also have your most basic principles and bottom line. Small update:

Actually, I want to tell all girls, don’t be too afraid of meeting your mother-in-law for the first time, because after all, there are many kind-hearted mothers-in-law in the world.

Today’s society has been developing, and many mothers-in-law have also been here since they were young. They can better understand the hard work of being a woman.

As a last resort, you should respect your mother-in-law. If you really meet the so-called evil mother-in-law, don't be too nervous. You have to know that there are more men in this world than just your boyfriend.

Don’t show off in front of your mother-in-law. Don't be too pushy from your hair to your toes, thinking that you can support the whole world on your own, and don't get carried away.

On the contrary, in front of your mother-in-law, you have to "rely on the small and sell the small things" and show weakness at the right time.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is essentially a struggle between two women. Never treat your mother-in-law as your biological mother. You must always keep a distance and have a good sense of proportion. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can also be handled properly.