Do you think it is appropriate for the woman to ask for 99 thousand fare on the wedding day?

Qian Zhongshu's words in Fortress Besieged tell us all about people's thoughts and practices before and after marriage.

He said: Marriage is like a besieged city. People in the city want to escape, and people outside the city want to rush in.

This is the reality of naked marriage.

But there are still many people, people who are eager to love each other, who have entered the marriage hall.

However, in the process of entering the marriage hall, some traditional wedding customs and etiquette are likely to become a stumbling block to marriage.

Because from sweet love to daily necessities marriage, the test itself is material conditions.

Xiaolin's marriage should have had a good start, but who would have thought that Xiaolin was so angry that she gave up on the spot on the wedding day. After reading this story, you will know why he is angry.

Kobayashi, 30, comes from an ordinary family. Both parents are ordinary employees. Others say that the sooner children from poor families take charge, the better. Kobayashi was very sensible when he was a child. The college entrance examination was admitted to a key university and I studied management.

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After graduation, Kobayashi was admitted to a civil servant in his hometown. Although his salary is more than 4000 yuan a month, he can basically live a good life in the county.

Seeing that he is 30 years old and hasn't talked about his girlfriend, his parents have been urging him to find someone quickly. Afraid of her parents' worries, Kobayashi met a girl named Xiao Yi under the introduction of a friend. She was five years younger than herself.

Small art conditions are good. She has good features and her parents are civil servants. After graduating from college, she successfully entered the bank and lived a petty bourgeoisie life.

Because love at first sight, naturally become lovers. Xiao Lin is a mature and steady man. Xiaoyi sometimes has a big girl's temper, but Kobayashi will choose tolerance, but occasionally there will be differences because of different views on money.

After being in love for half a year, when Xiaolin proposed that she wanted to get married, Xiaoyi readily agreed, which made Xiaolin very moved and determined to take care of her for life.

After meeting each other's parents, both parents were satisfied and began to prepare for the wedding.

Kobayashi's parents saved money to help Kobayashi buy a house in the county, and also paid a down payment to make a wedding room for his son.

In order to show his love for Xiaoyi, Kobayashi took the initiative to add Xiaoyi's name after discussing with his parents.

Xiaoyi was deeply moved to learn that she really loved the right person.

Yi Shu said: A man likes a woman and can do anything for her. He will try his best even if he can't reach his ability.

However, in order to prove how much Kobayashi loves himself, Xiaoyi asked Kobayashi for a bride price of 200,000 yuan, which stumped Kobayashi. 200 thousand, for a family who just bought a house, the pressure is still quite great.

Marriage costs money everywhere, such as banquets, wedding photos, motorcades, hardware and so on. Everything is on the wedding itinerary. These add up to a lot.

Coupled with the previous house renovation, there is still a mortgage of more than 2,000 yuan per month, which makes Kobayashi somewhat powerless.

For the bride price, Kobayashi and Xiaoyi discussed whether they could be less. Xiaoyi told her parents about the actual situation at Kobayashi's home.

Xiaoyi's parents disagreed at first. Where does a son-in-law ask for a lower bride price? Isn't this a bitch daughter? Sell? have you finished?

Finally, under Kobayashi's bitter complaint, Xiaoyi's parents finally relented and changed it to 1.8 million, saying that it was indispensable, not to mention that this figure was a lucky number.

Including Yi, and finally, if you love me, you will find a way to give this gift, right? Once in a lifetime. ?

In the end, XiaoYi added:

My parents were right. They pay attention to good luck in everything. They only have a daughter like me, and it's for me. Do you think you should tell your parents to borrow some from relatives and friends? After the wedding, we will collect the money and return it. The gift money is also for my parents' pension. Do you think it's okay for me? ?

Xiao Lin can't stand Xiao Yi's poor eyes, so she has to reluctantly agree. So with his good interpersonal relationship, Kobayashi raised more than 65,438+in a few days, plus some money given by his parents and his own savings, which was enough1800,000.

Who knew that Xiao Yi was angry instead? Why did you say there was no money when you said 200 thousand bride price before? Raising money is easy. Don't you love me? ?

In the face of Xiao Yi's aggressive questioning, Kobayashi explained it again and apologized that it was all borrowed money. It was also because of her popularity that others borrowed it. She kept coaxing Xiao Yi, and she finally agreed to get married.

I thought things could finally be finished. Unexpectedly, on the wedding day, Xiao Yi's request made Kobayashi completely angry.

Before the wedding, Xiao Yi asked 20 cars to pick up relatives.

The motorcade is even, the people who pick up relatives are odd, and the people who return are even. This is luck.

Kobayashi said that they didn't actually have that many people, so they could change their numbers to avoid wasting money on car rental, but Xiaoyi just couldn't, so Kobayashi had to obey her.

On the wedding day, Kobayashi greeted Xiao Yi with a beaming motorcade. When I arrived at the little artist's downstairs, I met many relatives who blocked the stairs and asked for red envelopes.

In fact, Kobayashi prepared 1 1,000 yuan of red envelopes of different sizes.

Moreover, only bridesmaids and sisters usually give big red envelopes, but Xiao Yi's relatives are unreasonable, and they have to be in 50 yuan to let him go upstairs.

Finally, I couldn't help it. It was almost half an hour before he was allowed to go upstairs and take the bride down. Xiao Lin feels very tired on the big day.

I finally received Xiao Yi. On the way back, Xiao Yi thought about giving each other one last problem. As long as it is over, she will feel at ease.

When the motorcade arrived at Xiaolin's door, Xiaoyi refused to get off. She said to Xiao Lin, don't we have a custom? When I get off the bus, you have to give me a 99,000 red envelope, which means a long time. Did I tell you to prepare red envelopes before? ?

Xiaolin remembered this. Fortunately, he prepared another 5,200 yuan red envelope, so he smiled and handed it up quickly. Who knows xiaoyi cried when she saw it, because it was too far away from her request.

Kobayashi quickly comforted and explained that she didn't tell him the specific number before, and now she wants him to take out more than 90 thousand, even if cutting meat is not enough.

There are relatives and friends outside, and he doesn't want others to see jokes. Stubborn xiaoyi insisted on not getting off the bus, saying: Without this red envelope today, this marriage could not be concluded. ?

Xiaolin's parents cried and begged her to come down, saying that they would make up for it immediately after drinking the wedding banquet.

Seeing his parents worried, Kobayashi was heartbroken and angry at the thought that his beloved was so unreasonable.

Looking at Xiao Yi dismissive expression, Xiao Lin directly? Bang? Shut the car door with a bang, the marriage is not over yet.

Finally, what could have been a happy wedding turned into a farce that made everyone laugh. A good couple of mandarin ducks just broke up.

Afterwards, Xiaoyi sent a message in a circle of friends:? Say good for a long time, say good and son grow old together, or let go easily. Is it really not true love? .

She implicitly wanted Kobayashi to come back, but Kobayashi saw that she was directly hacked and threatened that she would rather be single than marry her for life.

It can be said that Xiao Yi personally ruined his happiness. Maybe she is holding a good morality and simply wants to prove whether the other party loves her or not by getting off the bus fare.

No matter how important the implication is, it is not as important as marriage itself, and it is impossible to use marriage to test whether the other party loves him or not. Wedding customs can exist, but enough is enough.

Even if the test was successful, I finally lost to my character and the respect of the other party. Such a marriage is doomed to be short.

It's not easy to meet someone who really loves you. Don't hurt his heart with excessive temptation. The initiative of love is always in your own hands. People who really love you will do everything for you without temptation.

What's more, true love doesn't need to be fought by some unimportant customs and etiquette, and money is not the touchstone to test true love.

Lev tolstoy said: Only love can sanctify marriage, and only a marriage that sanctifies love is a real marriage. I hope that when you walk into the wedding hall, don't test people's hearts at critical moments, let alone use money to measure true love.