How many difficulties do you think you have to overcome to become a mother?

It is generally understood that being a mother is not only a change of identity, but also the responsibility of educating children. However, what kind of responsibility and bitterness is hidden behind the mother's heavy identity?

The difficulty of becoming a mother can't be simply measured by numbers. Difficulties come out from time to time, which makes novice mothers in a hurry. Mothers always have an endless heart. I think once they enter the role of mother, they are always overcoming difficulties.

during pregnancy, many mothers may have encountered the first difficulty-the great change in appearance. Being a mother means we have to give up our looks and figure. Women pay more attention to their appearance than men. Pregnancy "ruined" their appearance. The weight is bound to increase, and the body shape will become fat. Most of them are manifested as the hips will become warped and the hips will become wider. The face is covered with chloasma, the nose is widened, and the stomach is stretched out with long stretch marks. Skin pigmentation may occur in the early pregnancy, especially in the late pregnancy.

The pain of childbirth, I remember a cold joke that the first degree of pain is bitten by mosquitoes, the tenth degree of pain is giving birth, and the eleventh degree of pain is being bitten by mosquitoes when giving birth. This gives us a preliminary understanding of the pain of giving birth. However, general medical experts divide the pain into 12 grades, and when giving birth to a child, it belongs to the 12-grade pain, which is the highest value of pain, because when giving birth to a child, it needs continuous contractions, and the uterus keeps contracting to help the fetus excrete, and the pain will gradually increase until the moment when the fetus gives birth. This kind of pain is difficult for ordinary people to experience, and after delivery, there will be 2~3 days of uterine contraction pain. Therefore, we should be psychologically prepared to have children and be prepared to endure pain. Until that moment, we personally realized the greatness of our mother.

I often feel embarrassed and need to put aside my sense of shame. For a normal-term fetus, if you want to get out of your mother's stomach, you have to go through the Gongkou checkpoint. Opening the cervix is what we often say, also known as cervical dilatation. Doctors use their fingers to help expectant mothers open their fingers, and sometimes they feel surrounded. This is very embarrassing for normal people. Also, urinary incontinence generally occurs in mothers who give birth naturally. Some mothers will have a very embarrassing situation when they sneeze, cough or jump after giving birth to their babies: urine leakage. I may need my own husband to help me deal with it. In this case, mothers will really feel their dignity is lost.

After giving birth, the mother faces a new difficulty-taking care of the children. How many people can stand children crying all the time, get up in the middle of the night to put the crying children to sleep, and can't sleep well for months. As children grow up, mothers encounter different difficulties, worrying about puppy love, not knowing how to get along with rebellious children, worrying about children's study, work, marriage and having children ... < P > In this way, many mothers will be misunderstood as "mom bugs". In the TV series Jin Zhiying Born in 1982, what is the most uncomfortable place for Jin Zhiying as a full-time mother all year round? Is it the crying of children, the burden of housework and the sacrifice of personal life? No, what breaks her down most is the incomprehension and malice of the whole society-the hard work of a stay-at-home mother is not seen, and even regarded by young people as a useless "mom bug". It is considered that it is good to do housework and take care of the children at home all day, which is very relaxed. Just ask your husband for money. If there is a choice, if it is not the love for children from the heart, which woman is willing to choose to abandon her personal life and work hard to be a full-time mother, and even have no confidence to ask for money. Therefore, I think all mothers should be brave. Being a full-time mother is also a job that men can't do. Don't underestimate yourself. "Full-time" doesn't mean that we have to bear all the burdens on ourselves. Dad also has the responsibility to take care of children.

it sounds like being a mother is really tiring. But there are still many people who are happy with it. Because these "pains" have been diluted by other more meaningful things. Having children makes us experience the meaning of life. It is not easy to create a life, and it is even more difficult to raise it. So as to respect and cherish life more. Deepen the feelings with parents, and better understand the love of parents, especially mothers. Deepen the feelings of husband and wife, so that two people who are not related by blood have a blood bond. Blood relationship is the most unbreakable relationship of human beings.

Motherly love is not a natural feeling, but a heartfelt love and protection. Being a mother means taking responsibility, just like carrying a cross and carrying a load.