At the beginning of junior high school, I was scolded by my family, and I couldn't do anything well without any encouragement. I don't have confidence in my study now, and my grades can't go up. What

At the beginning of junior high school, I was scolded by my family, and I couldn't do anything well without any encouragement. I don't have confidence in my study now, and my grades can't go up. What should I do? The following are excerpts from parents' practices, which you can have a look at. The simplest and feasible method for children with poor grades: Is there a simple and easy method that every family can operate? There is no fixed teaching method. Every family is different and students are different, but there are laws to follow in education, and the laws of education are the same. Next, I will share with you the most effective, simple and feasible educational methods of our time. One way: communication. With the growth of age, the communication between parents and children is less and less, and misunderstandings are more and more. A mother, when her child was in the first grade, the teacher told her that your child's brain is not very smart and his response is slow, so pay attention. She wondered if the child was mentally retarded, and later she was sent to a school for mentally retarded people. The child was in the sixth grade and took part in the unified examination for mentally retarded students in the whole region, and won the first place. However, after examination, the child is not mentally retarded, with normal intelligence and invalid grades. What a confused parent this is! But are there few similar examples? Some parents suspect that their children have bad behavior, so they peek at their children's diaries, don't allow their children to contact with others, and even lock their children up for study on Sundays for fear of accidents. Do you understand how children feel? We all know that things in captivity are not delicious. Children are living people and growing people, and they need to get in touch with nature and society. There is a girl who has lived up to expectations since she was a child, and her grades have always been excellent. Finally, she passed the TOEFL test and successfully studied abroad. The night before going abroad, my mother threw everything aside to talk to her daughter, but what her daughter said surprised her. The daughter burst into tears and poured out all the grievances in the past ten years. Her daughter remembers clearly when her mother wronged her, when she broke her heart and when her mother did something wrong. Who would have thought that a daughter who has always been obedient has such a big grievance in her heart? Parents and children must communicate. Some parents say that we communicate a lot, educate him every day when we go home, and educate him when we eat. Communication is not what parents tell their children. Communication is two-way. Parents talk more, but children talk less. Smart parents should guide their children to speak and let them speak, not let them speak for themselves. Use less declarative sentences and more interrogative sentences. Ask questions to make children think and answer. Ask why and how, not tell him how to do it. For example, I failed the exam this time. Some parents lose their temper and even beat and scold when they see their children's grades are not high. Some adults feel depressed when they are dissatisfied with their jobs. Every child wants to get good grades. It's painful enough for children to fail in the exam. What is most needed at this time is comfort, not scolding. Smart parents will communicate with their children kindly and encourage them with a smile. It doesn't matter if they fail in the exam. The key is to sum up experience. What questions are well done in Chinese, what are wrong answers, why are they wrong, and what should I do next time? Let the children speak for themselves. By summing up, children are educated and have the hope of learning. When a child makes a mistake, he must feel guilty. If his parents scold him rudely, the child will no longer feel guilty, from guilt to anger, from anger to resistance. Children who make mistakes go home and no one is ready to quarrel with their parents. However, due to the parents' scolding and beating, the child left angrily and never came back. My daughter, a sophomore at home, didn't come home until eleven o'clock in the evening. What should parents do? Don't open the door at once when the child knocks. Open it later. My daughter came back and said nothing. Let her see what time it is and let her rest quickly. The next day, her father asked her to tell her mother that she was worried about you and didn't sleep well all night. Mom asked her to tell dad that he searched all over the streets for you, and he was so anxious that he had high blood pressure again. Feeling very guilty, the daughter went to her parents to cry and made up her mind to go home on time. Father said it was not easy to change, right? Can you change it? My daughter immediately said, I'll show it to you, and it won't worry my parents. Family is a place to talk about feelings, with the warmest affection in the world to influence children, let children take the initiative to change their hearts. If parents don't have a set of methods, it is difficult to educate their children well. Method 2: Shut up. Why does the child hide in the room as soon as he comes home? What are children afraid of? Afraid of parents nagging. If the wife is cooking in the kitchen and the husband is nagging, put salt and oil. If the fire is too big and I need to wash the dishes, will my wife be annoyed? If you are at work, will you be bothered if your colleagues tell you to do this one minute and that another? Some parents said that every time I reason with my child, he just won't listen. What should I do? I want to ask, is your reasoning effective? If the treatment failed, would you choose another method? Similarly, your nagging will annoy children. Have you ever thought about changing your method? A mother has a nodule in her throat. After the operation, she was told that she must keep silent for a month. If the child doesn't do well in the exam, come back and tell her mother that if it was before, she would definitely criticize the child loudly and nag. But this time she couldn't speak, so she had to put her arms around the child and touch it with her hands. For the first time, the child found that his mother was not nagging and very kind, and suddenly felt very happy. In this way, after a month, the mother did not complain about the child, and the child's performance actually soared. So some people say that if a mother in a family shuts up, then two people in this family are free: one is the father and the other is the child. The third method: appreciation. This is a universal educational method. Someone interviewed a Nobel Prize winner and asked him what was the reason for his brilliant achievements. He said I wanted to thank my mother, and then told a little thing that happened when I was a child. He said that once he accidentally knocked over a bottle and spilled milk all over the floor. Mom came and squatted down to touch his head and said to him, son, you can help mom. When you grow up, you will soon become a man. To reward you, let's play with paper boats. Exquisite paper boats float on white milk and have fun. Then my mother taught me how to dry the floor and how to hold the bottle. He said that I have learned two lessons since then: turning useless things into treasure; Don't be afraid of failure. These two points are of great help to my scientific career. Why do children get poor grades? In the final analysis, it is because of lack of confidence. In the face of fierce learning competition, children need someone to love, support and encourage him unconditionally behind their backs. In order to promote children's learning, every parent can be desperate, but the method is wrong and the direction is wrong, and the effect is often counterproductive. Find the bright spot of children, give them sincere encouragement, let them see hope and have confidence. This is what parents should do.