You are nothing

Every day before going to bed, she would recite her unique language to my father and me: Peppa Pig goes to sleep, George goes to sleep, no beeps, no beeps, sleeps hahaha. Sleep, Makabaka, sleep... Every time she said something, she asked me to repeat it again, so I became her repeater before going to bed every day. When she had said enough, she would say to me: "Mom, DG Wuwu, Wuwu go to bed."

One night before going to bed, Wuwu thought about it for a long time, and she suddenly said: " Mom doesn’t care about anything (yes), dad doesn’t care about anything (yes), Dada doesn’t care about anything (yes), Nono doesn’t care about anything (yes)…” Dad and I found it very interesting, so we asked her : "Wuwu heard who said it was nothing?" Wuwu said clearly: "Dada said Wuwu, Nuonuo said Wuwu." I remembered that I had indeed heard my brother and sister say this to Wuwu in the past few days, Sometimes Wuwu would snatch things from his elder brother or sister, or hit them. The elder brother and sister would pretend to be angry and say to Wuwu: "You are nothing." Wu would also angrily reply: "Dada is not careful about anything." Yes), Nono doesn’t care about anything (yes).” At the beginning, we really took this as a joke, and it was quite funny watching the three of them fighting.

Today I thought about it carefully and found that this sentence is very bad. It contains a great negation of a person, and it is a comprehensive negation.

I remembered that there are many teachings about speech in SJ:

Do not let any dirty words come out of your mouth, but only speak good words that build up others according to the situation, so that those who hear will benefit.

Good words are like honeycombs, sweetening the heart and healing the bones.

If you speak well, you will be happy; if you speak at the right time, how beautiful it is.

A gentle tongue is a tree of life; a perverse mouth breaks the heart.

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Children may really mean it when they say it, but such words are very unedifying. When we see the situation of our children, we also think about ourselves. Do we carelessly say words that are not edifying to others in our lives?

Homework to do recently: Be careful with your words, practice deposits, build each other up, don’t deliberately emphasize what you do wrong, and positively reinforce the correct approach! Let’s look up the teachings on speech in SJ and post them on the wall to remind ourselves all the time.

The whole family needs to resume the weekly ritual of kindness: share the week’s highs and lows, and make deposits with each other! Start the suspended favor ceremony again.

Come on! Children, handsome dad and handsome mom! Let’s work together!