What should I do if my girl gets angry when a joke told in love is too much?

In love, in order to better express their affection, young men and women often attach great importance to what should be said but not much care about what should not be said. As a result, they unknowingly wander into a minefield. Affect the further development of the relationship, so what should not be said in love? "You really should lose weight" - Feng Xiao went bald at a young age and looked much older than his actual age, but his girlfriend Yin Meng didn't care. She valued Feng Xiao more. character and talent. One Sunday, the two of them went shopping and went to a restaurant to eat. Feng Xiao took the recipe and said, "I'll order a dish for you. I heard that eating this dish regularly can help you lose weight. I think you should really lose weight." Yin Meng I was in a good mood, but after listening to Feng Xiao's words, my pretty face darkened and she said, "Don't come to me if you think I'm fat. I haven't said that you 'are supporting the central government.'" After saying that, he rushed out of the hotel, no matter what. No matter how Feng Xiao persuaded her, Yin Meng was determined to break up. Men and women in love are very concerned about each other's evaluation of themselves, and they are very secretive about their shortcomings, especially congenital deficiencies, for fear that the other party will mention them. In the above example, Feng Xiao said to his girlfriend: "You should really lose weight." Maybe the speaker didn't mean it, but the listener did. He thought his boyfriend was exposing his shortcomings and thought he was fat, so he had a psychological reaction. Unbalanced - I didn't think you were bald, but you thought I was fat, so you got angry and broke up with me. If Feng Xiao had paid more attention when speaking and considered the other person's feelings, why would his girlfriend insist on parting ways with him? "We can make the wedding a decent one" - "Jiao" is a simple and profound statement. Soon after falling in love, Qiudong brought his girlfriend to his home. Qiudong's parents were very satisfied with the meeting. Qiudong said to his girlfriend on the second day: "My parents were very satisfied with you yesterday and said that they would sponsor us when we get married. Then we can have a decent wedding." After hearing this, his girlfriend There was silence after that. After a while, his girlfriend said: "Are your parents eager for you to get married? I think our relationship has not been established for a long time, and we don't know each other very well. No one can say for sure what will happen in the future, such as weddings." It's better not to worry yet!" What his girlfriend said made Qiu Dong very embarrassed, and a gap developed between the two of them. During the relationship, the content of the discussion between the two parties should be gradual as the relationship develops, and should not be rushed. If you "take out" the words that should be said in the love stage or the marriage discussion stage in the early stage of the relationship, you may put yourself in an awkward position. situation, and even affect the development of the relationship between the two parties. In the above example, it is indeed inappropriate to say "hold a wedding" in autumn and winter not long after falling in love. It is no wonder that the other party will be alert and give an explanation. If Qiudong only said that my parents were very satisfied with seeing you yesterday, it would not cause embarrassment later and cause a gap between the two. "I was diagnosed with infertility during a physical examination last year" - If the test goes too far, the beautiful Li Hui finally met the young man she admired at the age of 26. The two quickly fell in love, and the sisters all I was thinking that she should get married this time, but they broke up later. It turned out that Li Hui once lied in order to test the love of the other party and said: "There is one thing I can't hide from you anymore. During the physical examination last year, I was found to have infertility. It seems that we will become a "DINK family" in the future. Unless we adopt a child..." After listening to Li Hui's words, her boyfriend's parents are very traditional and cannot accept the fact that the family is "broken". He was very filial, but in the end he had no choice but to reluctantly break up with her. Li Hui was glad at first not to marry him, but then the more she thought about it, the more unhappy she became. After spending half a year in regret and sadness, Li Hui finally let go of herself and looked for her partner, but she already had a new girlfriend. In love, some people always like to make jokes from time to time to test the other person, say some exciting words, and see how deeply the other person loves me and how true they are.

However, if the test words are excessive, it will not only affect the other party's mood, but may also cause serious consequences. In the above example, Li Hui failed precisely because the words of the test were too exaggerated. Her boyfriend's family is a "three-generation single generation" and his family attaches great importance to continuing the family line. However, she said that she was suffering from infertility, which was tantamount to challenging the other person's psychological bottom line, which eventually caused her boyfriend to leave her. "Your parents are not very good at housework" - derogatory words about parents. One weekend, Song Qiang took his girlfriend Zhao Xia to his home to play. Because Song Qiang's parents were busy with other things at the time and did not clean in time, the house seemed a bit messy. After coming out of her boyfriend's house, Zhao Xia said to her boyfriend: "It seems that your parents are not very good at doing housework!" Song Qiang said angrily: "You are not in love and getting married with my family. My family will Is it important to you that you can't do housework?" Zhao Xia suddenly blushed and didn't know what to say. Song Qiang was neither cold nor indifferent to Zhao Xia in the next few days. During the conversation, lovers will inevitably bring the topic to the other person's parents. At this time, you must be careful when speaking. Use more words of praise and don't say derogatory words. Otherwise, you will inevitably arouse the other person's resentment. After all, no one wants their lover to look down on their parents. In the above example, if Zhao Xia did not "criticize" Song Qiang's parents for doing housework but said more words of praise, such as "your parents are so kind" and "your parents can raise you even though the conditions at home are not well-off" If you praise her like "You are really great", your boyfriend will definitely be very happy, so why would he "choke" her with his words? There are more than the above four things that should not be said in love, so I won’t give examples one by one here. The success of a relationship certainly depends on many factors, but being able to speak is undoubtedly a very important part of it. Young friends who are on the road to love, when you talk to your lover, you must pay attention to the first and fourth words before speaking. Don't let the beautiful love be overshadowed by inappropriate words! ! , The above article is excerpted from Issue 390 of Speech and Eloquence. I am also on the road to love. I have also said things that I regret, and done things that I regret. A joke or a thoughtless sentence of mine made my girlfriend sad for several days. , it made me feel very uncomfortable, and I felt very uncomfortable. I apologize to her here and ask all netizens to supervise me. I will definitely treat her well in the future. I also wish that my friends who are on the road of love like me can be happy with her (him) forever, have sweet love, and grow old hand in hand! ! I personally think that as a man, I should be more generous and tolerant of my girlfriend's small shortcomings and mistakes. I must think about it several times in my mind when speaking. When I feel that I am in a mess, I should say less words. Your girlfriend won't blame you. At most, she will say that you are a pig and react slower than a pig. Of course, the most important thing is to be very happy to listen to your girlfriend and don't show an impatient expression. Normally, you are more responsive. Note that I believe many conflicts can be avoided. Pay more attention to her and take care of the other person. A word of greeting or a word of concern can warm the other person's heart for a long time. Never hit your girlfriend. After all, everyone has an ID card, haha~~Why did I say that? (Let’s use Yang’s humor) Because I met a couple who got into a fight on the train. The man even hit his daughter by mistake, which made her nose bleed. I even went up to break up the fight. Men's hands are used to conquer the world, not women! ! !