Really powerful women are often "hidden"

On the road of life, there are many stops and starts. After experiencing thousands of sails, I discovered that most of the truly powerful women are "hidden".

They will not vent their negative emotions at will, will not tell their past easily, and will not speak too many words.

They will leave time for themselves, their families, and their interests to make their lives rich and colorful, and never get involved with bad people and bad things.

Because "hiding deeply" is the humility of a wise man.

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"Hide" emotions

A woman who cannot hide her emotions will often vent her negative emotions on the people around her. It may even hurt the hearts of those who care about you.

When I was young, I could cry when I wanted to cry and laugh when I wanted to laugh. It was a beautiful thing. But as we grow older, retaining this "simplicity" will become a bad phenomenon.

This does not mean that adults should mute their crying, but that they should learn to think before they happen.

When we have negative emotions, we will definitely feel happy when we vent them, but no one wants to be a trash can carrying negative emotions all the time.

After all, what can infect others is not only happiness, but also anger.

In psychology, there is such a "kicking cat effect" that can spread bad emotions:

A father was criticized by his boss in the company, and he was full of negativity. When I returned home emotionally, I happened to see my child jumping up and down on the expensive sofa, so I rushed forward and scolded the child.

In this way, the father's negative emotions are passed on to the child, and the child turns his anger to the cat playing next to him. The innocent cat had no choice but to escape to the street. At this time, a truck was approaching. In order to avoid it, the driver hit and injured the child on the roadside...

The bad mood spread like this. , maybe he will come back to himself in the end.

Therefore, smart people will self-regulate their emotions and will not vent their anger on others, let alone let those around them pay for their emotions.

Those who hide their emotions and retain their cultivation, and will not let their emotions form a vicious cycle, are truly powerful people.

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"Hide" the past

I like this sentence very much:

On the way to growth, everyone will not only be The sun shines and there are wind and rain. Being injured and healing yourself at the same time is the practice of an adult.

A smart woman will not tell others about her past easily. Whether it is joy or pain, the past has become a thing. They blend in between our eyebrows and become something called "experience" .

Therefore, there is really no need to tell others.

Especially telling someone about your past to someone you don’t know well is a disaster. You don’t know the other person’s character or their purpose of approaching you, so you rashly reveal your past. , which is tantamount to giving a handle.

How many people have had a casual conversation with each other and told various stories about their past even though they were not acquainted with each other, but unexpectedly, the other person turned around and told others about it as a joke, and even told others about it. Become a weapon for others to hurt you.

Don’t lie to me. After all, few people will truly applaud your past achievements, and few will truly pity your past pains. Heroes don’t ask where they come from. Instead of talking about the past, it’s better to look at the present.

A truly powerful woman will not reveal her past easily. A woman who can hide things in her heart will definitely not let her life revolve around bad people and bad things.

By hiding the past and not looking for trouble for yourself, you can live a simple life even if it is not a simple life.

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"Hide" words

Amy and Nora entered a company at the same time. Amy is reserved and smart. Although she speaks slowly, every sentence is interesting. Sonorous and powerful, Nora has a lively personality and is always chirping like a bird.

Naturally, Nora is more popular than Amy.

But at the end of the internship period, Nora was eliminated. Unconvinced, Nora went to the leader to question her, but she only got the sentence "You talk too much."

It turns out that Nora always gossips about others in order to get closer to her colleagues, causing disharmony among her colleagues.

In fact, a truly smart person is not one who can speak, but one who can shut up.

We learn to speak in one year, but it takes lifelong practice to learn to shut up.

Talking more is never better. Sometimes, talking too much can bring trouble to yourself. It can be said that "trouble comes from the mouth."

Really smart women have learned to shut up early:

In the workplace, instead of gossiping, they will use their time to improve their business and achieve promotion and salary increase. ;

At home, instead of talking about right and wrong, they will spend their time taking care of flowers, cooking delicious food, and adding interest to life;

Don’t say meaningless words, and don’t say anything about others. Gossip, leave more time to yourself, talk to yourself, and enrich your heart.

Such women are truly powerful people.

Hiding your emotions deeply is a kind of wisdom and a law of life:

Hide your emotions, be an emotionally stable person, and reap blessings;

< p> Hide the past, be a person who does not look back, and seize the present;

Hide the words, be a person with sunshine in your heart, warm and bright.

What is hidden is the uneasiness given by fate, and what is revealed is the open-mindedness after cultivation.

People who know how to hide their secrets have character, cultivation, and strength. Such people are more likely to be happy!

Author | Zheng Zaixiu

An experienced emotional driver whose three views are more upright than his five senses, follow me and I will take you out of your emotional dilemma.

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