In the face of a daughter-in-law who wants 60 thousand to change her mind and not get off the bus, how can her mother-in-law fight back?

Wedding is an important event in life.

In China, a man marries a woman to celebrate or a man expresses his concern to a woman. The man gives a bride price and the woman brings a dowry.

Traditional customs have gradually become a way for some people to get money in recent years.

Some women listened to the instigation, and the lion asked the man for a high bride price. If the man disagrees, it means that he doesn't value himself.

It is understandable that the woman is worried that she is in a weak position in marriage, but if the bride price is the only criterion, it will inevitably be biased and even cause the man's resentment.

Some male families can't afford the high bride price. Even if they can meet the woman's requirements, the man will inevitably have some ideas. If the bride price affects married life, it will not be worth the candle.

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Cheng Rui and Shen Yan met at a friend's party. They * * * have more friends and usually have more parties. After a while, they got to know each other, occasionally met alone, and soon fell in love.

The two have been in love for more than four years, and both parents feel very satisfied, and the wedding is also on the agenda.

After discussion, Shen Yan's parents offered a bride price of 654.38 million yuan. Although this is a bit too much for Cheng Rui's family, they thought that their son could live a good life after marriage, and finally agreed.

In order to prepare for the wedding, Cheng Rui's parents prepared a wedding room and bought a car, which cost three or four hundred thousand yuan.

Everything was well prepared, but something happened on the wedding day.

When the bride and groom got off the bus, Shen Yan suddenly proposed to give 60,000 red envelopes as a change fee, which was not discussed before. According to local customs, it is enough to give a red envelope of one or two thousand when you get off the bus.

Shen Yan's words surprised Cheng Rui's parents, including Cheng Rui.

Why did Shen Yan suddenly make this request?

It turned out that when Sister Shen accompanied her to make up in the morning, she told her a lot of matters needing attention in getting married. When Sister Shen got married, the bride price didn't cost much, and she didn't need to change her mouth with a red envelope, so she had almost no right to speak in her husband's family after marriage.

So she especially reminded Shen Yan that for women, getting married is a once-in-a-lifetime event, so men must be made to spend money and let them know their importance.

Shen Yan thought that Cheng Rui's family had spent a lot of money and energy on this wedding. I'm afraid it's not appropriate to ask for more money.

But my cousin said:? After spending so much money, tens of thousands is not bad. At that time, relatives and friends would sit under the stage. If they refuse to give, they will lose face, and they will give to avoid losing face. ?

Listening to my cousin say this, Shen Yan is also very moved. She is going to get married, so there will be less opportunities to take care of her parents in the future. What's more, having children after marriage will make her life more stressful. Taking this opportunity to ask for more money can not only honor parents, but also reduce the pressure of life.

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In the face of money, people can never control their hearts.

Shen Yan is like this. Even if he knows in his heart that he has gone too far, he will still find reasons to feel that he deserves it.

In her mind, she thinks that if her in-laws agree, she will not only have the money to honor her parents, but also have the money to take care of the children after they are born, thus reducing the pressure. If her in-laws don't agree, it's not her who is humiliated.

Therefore, when Shen Yan gets off at Cheng Rui, Shen Yan will ask her in-laws to pay another 60,000 as a change fee, otherwise she won't get off.

However, to Shen Yan's surprise, her mother-in-law took Cheng Rui away and told her: Don't get off until you get off. Just close the door and let the driver drive the car back. You are too expensive for me to buy. I thought you were simple-minded and really wanted to live with my son, but now it seems that I was wrong. ?

Shen Yan's face burned at her mother-in-law's words. She didn't expect her mother-in-law, who had always liked her, to refute her face to face in front of relatives and friends.

And her husband-to-be, Cheng Rui, has always listened to her, and now she doesn't even look at her.

Naturally, when the wedding was over, Shen Yan suddenly panicked, regretted that he was not firm, and listened to his cousin.

When the family saw this, they suddenly lost their sense of proportion.

It's a pity that there are no more opportunities in this world. Words spoken out are like spilled water, which can never be taken back.

The enviable wedding ended in a farce, and Shen Yan became an insatiable woman in the mouth of friends and a joke.

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Marriage was originally led by the love of two people, promoted by the support of parents and families and the blessings of relatives and friends. As a result, two people formed a new happy family.

However, some people regard the wedding as a bargaining chip and ask for it from each other in the name of happiness, so that they eventually miss happiness.

Marriage has always been a warm place, and everyone hopes that their other half can know the cold and get the understanding and support of the other half.

However, some people, in demanding too much attention after marriage, lose the original intention of getting married because of love, and ignore the basic requirement that maintaining marriage requires the efforts of both parties and the cooperation of Qi Xin.

Because of one's selfishness or vanity, it is unforgivable for the other party to make excessive demands, even if the starting point is human nature.

Love can never be measured by matter. Although the bride price money represents the man's attention to the woman to a certain extent, excessive demands on this basis will only let the other party see the essence that wealth is above family ties.

It is not impossible to talk about money in marriage, but it is necessary to build on the voluntary basis of both parties and consider each other's affordability and mutual understanding in order to make the marriage happy.

In marriage, husband and wife are not only partners who live together, but also lovers and relatives who join hands for life.

Therefore, to treat marriage, we need to exchange sincerity for sincerity, rather than blindly paying attention to our own interests.