How can I cultivate my mind so that I won't lose my mind when things happen? We are not happy or sad! ~ when you encounter something, you can take your time! Can you do enough?

First, accept this somewhat rough society and try to be simple and rough. If you feel uncomfortable, just say, what are you afraid of? Speak louder. Especially where you spend money, you tell yourself: I spent money!

Don't wronged yourself, it's easy to suppress internal injuries. If you have car-scrapping, you won't be regarded as soft persimmon and astringent persimmon, and you will be bullied and pinched by others. This society is like this, you have to adapt.

Second, don't be too sensitive and care too much about your inner feelings. Instead of bargaining with these little sorrows every day, it is better to live easily after great sadness and great happiness. What do people want in life? It's not good to have time to think about things that make them happy and interested. It's not good to think over and over about how others run on themselves and bully them. Is it interesting? This is a habit. Sometimes when someone says something about you or treats you well, she forgets it as soon as she turns around. That's what she is. Maybe I didn't mean to embarrass you (because her family education and personality determine her small quality). So don't worry too much. Feel sorry for her first.

In fact, no one will think about how she was buried today and how embarrassed she was. No one remembers and feels the embarrassment and pain of being humiliated again and again. When people have time, they will only remember there: Is there anything embarrassing today? Someone always hides me from everyone. She always said that when there are many people, BB said that I don't want to go to work as soon as she said it ... and the people I hate most always cross with me, just like I beg her ... What I want to express is basically that everyone is busy with their own little things every day, and most of the time they are also worried about their own anecdotes. No one will take your embarrassment too seriously.

So relax and let bygones be bygones. Many times, people around us don't pay much attention to some things. At most, we just pass by with a smile, and only ourselves can't let go.

Like you, I once had a period of extreme sadness, distortion, struggle and pain, so I understand you.

Happiness is a lifetime, and unhappiness is a lifetime. This society is like this old woman. We should be kind to ourselves and please ourselves. Don't you think so?

Third, for those who hurt you, you should pity and sympathize with them from the heart. Because that's what she is, she doesn't know right from wrong, she hurts people maliciously, and she will be reported in the future, but the time has not yet come. You don't have to be unbalanced or confused about it. "There is a god above three feet", which is not fooling children. "Darkroom is lost, eyes like electricity; Whispering between people, hearing thunder in the sky ",all helped them remember.

You must not do anything wrong, but be polite to others. No matter what others do, don't learn. They think it's great. It's just a distorted social cognition. This is not correct and true. If someone really insults you and thinks it's nice to bully you, it's ignorance. She gave you all her virtues. The virtue of fortune, the virtue of merit. That's what "losing is a blessing" actually means.

We don't care about small things at ordinary times, but we will never let him go in front of big things. When it's time to stand up for yourself, say, click, there's nothing to hide and hesitate, it's very powerful, and the bad guys don't know how bad they are, so don't get used to it.

Let me say one more thing: in this society, if you have a little skill, you can show it off everywhere. You think you are superior to others. I will laugh when I see people poorer than myself. When you meet someone tougher than yourself, you will want to please them. If you can't please them, you will hate them. It is often those who "walk around with less than half a bottle" and can't get on the big stage. And people who are really rich, talented, capable and powerful won't do that! They tend to be modest and have elegant taste, which is really worthwhile, but they are not big enough to show off. Let's think about it.

Too many bad guys become sexy. Maybe they accumulated a lot of blessings in their last lives, so no matter what they do now, they can't see what she deserves, but when her little blessings make her curse disappear, she will gradually get worse. It may be career or family, children, etc. Not necessarily scattered wealth or serious illness. In short, by that time, the retribution and suffering of those who did not know self-discipline and self-discipline when they were young will be revealed, which can be said to be endless and miserable. The so-called "feng shui turns" is also the same. Be careful, you can't expect her to be reported, it's not good or right. At the same time, you should also reflect on yourself. Today, I was criticized and cheated, so maybe I have hurt others before, even in a previous life, so people in this life will come to pay me back this bitter fruit ... Let's think so. When you think like this, the resentment and grievances in your heart will gradually disappear, and you will not be upset about waiting for an opportunity to retaliate against others, but in the end, you will attract a new round of bigger and more violent retribution on yourself because of this evil revenge idea. Instead, make yourself a bad person.

Understand this truth, and you should stop being unbalanced. As long as I'm not like them. Adjust your state of mind, and treat them well no matter who you meet or what. More tolerance, more patience, more blessings, and more thinking from the perspective of others. In fact, everyone is bitter, so don't be too picky.

I hope everyone can like me and praise me. This is a beautiful wish, but it is also an extravagant hope. What should I do if I encounter the opposite speech and behavior, which is both brainless and unfounded? Just tell yourself to get over it. Some people naturally hate your honesty, but you have never had a problem with her or even said anything. She just doesn't like you for no reason. Then we have to accept this fact. Knowing that there are so many people on earth, how can we please everyone? Just let nature take its course. Besides, we live to achieve ourselves and to be filial to our adoptive parents, not to please others and expect their praise.

Generally speaking, no one should be born to grow into a Boba according to someone's preference, understand? My parents gave me an honest appearance, but it was my parents, not them.

Don't be so careful in future. In fact, it doesn't really make you suffer, but hone your mind.

The heart can't be serene and quiet, and it is always easy to be disturbed by foreign objects. Whoever cleans your eyes will make you depressed and can't sleep well. Isn't that over? When something happens, you get anxious and upset, and your heart breaks. You've been exercising like this for many years, so didn't you eat all your bitterness for nothing? Why haven't you made progress? When your enemies and those troubles come and they are angry with you, then you really fall into the angry trap. No, we don't want to buy them! We just don't get angry with it, don't fall for its plan, and don't follow its wishes. When trouble comes and pain comes, we will ignore it, try not to think about it and feel it unnecessarily. If you cry and feel sad, you should think of a solution at once. That's good. Worth a howl. The point is that you are often troubled for a long time, but there is nothing you can do to solve any problems. Then ignore this quarrel and play as you like. It's really boring Can we watch cartoons for a while? We just keep a cheerful, peaceful and clean mind when they come to make waves, so that the negative energy deliberately imposed on you will feel "wasted and boring" and "embarrassed to come again next time" ... If you can do this, you will really suffer in vain.

We should really "learn from a painful experience". Once trouble comes, my heart will be more firm and calm. In a word, I will never let these trivial and annoying things easily disturb my mood, affect my mood, make me unable to live happily, and delay my feelings about all the good times at present. ............................................................................................... hopes it will help you after reading it. Remember, change yourself and hone your mind, and your life will be very different. That kind of life is really in your own hands, and you are no longer tortured by other people's words and eyes. In fact, even if those "others" you care about really value you and praise you, so what? What can you get? Don't you still live by what others say? You are uncomfortable and not free.