My wife from a flash marriage shocked me after she took off her makeup

Introduction: Several times when I got up in the morning, I looked at her without makeup, as if she had eaten a fly. It turned out that her skin was not white at all, she had a lot of freckles, and she had a lot of freckles on her waist. The flesh and eyelashes are also fake.

Netizen I am not the sun wrote: Hello, Teacher Weilan! I have read many of your articles about flash marriage before, but I still accidentally got into a flash marriage, and I have become a victim of it and am struggling to get out of it. My situation is like this. My wife and I met at a friend's party in July this year. We had a great conversation when we first met, and we even exchanged mobile phones and QQ. Then within a week, we met twice more, and immediately we confirmed our relationship. This speed was something I didn't expect beforehand. At that time, I felt that she was very sunny and beautiful, with a very good figure and skin. I’m not afraid of making fun of you, Mr. Weilan, but in fact, from college to working, there have been many girls around me. As long as I am willing, many of them are willing to be my girlfriend. But there really aren’t many that I can take a liking to. I’ve always had very high standards for girls’ looks. My buddies all told me that no matter how beautiful a girl is, they’re all the same, but I just can’t get past this hurdle in my heart. , I have dated three or four girlfriends, and each one made me extremely confused.

My wife and I got married on the 12th of this month. It has only been two weeks now, and I am already struggling. I can't tell you the specific reason. She is quite nice, but it's because of her appearance. Several times when I got up in the morning, I looked at her without makeup, as if she had eaten a fly. It turned out that her skin was not white at all, she had a lot of freckles, a lot of fat on her waist, and her eyelashes were fake. The thing that made me vomit blood the most was her breasts. It turned out that she had been wearing breast tape. Also, I have seen her old photos recently. She is really ugly. If I had known this earlier, I would not have married her even to death. If it were a girl like her, I wouldn't be so entangled. In the past few days, the more I thought about it, the more unhappy I became. I no longer had any desire to be intimate with her. I even kept thinking about Sister Feng and Sister Furong. I really want a divorce. I can't possibly live with such a woman for the rest of my life. Otherwise, it would be better to die. However, the problem now is that I don’t know how to tell my family, relatives and friends. At that time, my marriage to her was strongly opposed by my family, and we all worked hard to convince them. Now I suddenly filed for divorce. My parents had to make me mad. Also, now that I see her looking so happy every day, I can't speak. She has no idea how sad I am. Teacher Weilan, do you think I have a mental problem like this? What on earth should I do? If I don't get divorced, I'm really afraid that I won't be able to pass the psychological test and will go crazy because of the struggle.

The sky is always blue’s reply: I am not the sun, hello! After reading your letter, it reminded me of a senior brother of mine in college. He was a popular figure in school. His talent in literature and sports was quite outstanding, and he was also very handsome, so he was never short of pursuits around him. His girl. But his heart is a bit similar to yours. He has very high requirements for girls' appearance, and he can find faults in any girl, no matter how beautiful she is. Therefore, during his four years in college, he had five or six girlfriends. Each friend is more beautiful than the other. However, when Sky is Always Blue met him in Shanghai the year before last, he introduced me to a very ordinary woman next to him and said: "This is the leader of our family, the mother of the child!". Based on what I know about him, I really can’t believe that he would do this, because not only is he very picky about a woman’s appearance, but he also loves face. In the past, it would have been absolutely impossible for him to introduce to others so calmly and lovingly in a public place that such an average and even ugly woman was the "leader" and "mother of their children" in their family. The Sky Is Always Blue feels like he has really changed, becoming very masculine, wise, responsible, and responsible. He is a hundred times better than the handsome and romantic person I thought he was. This feeling comes not only from his words, but also from other details.

I wonder if the story I told has touched you? But I feel that from his changes before and after, we can see the growth trajectory of a man, that is, from the previous pursuit of beauty and self-respect, to the later consideration of emotions and tolerance of others, and the responsibility of appreciating family and lovers.

The sky is always blue believes that if a man cannot do this, or cannot achieve this transformation, then no matter how old he is, no matter how many ups and downs he has experienced, it will be in vain, and it is impossible for others to let others And call yourself a man with confidence.

To be honest, the sky is always blue can understand your love for beauty, but it cannot understand your indiscriminate love and flaunt your innocence under the guise of love for beauty. Here, I can tell you with great certainty that if you continue like this, you will never be able to find a woman you really like in your life, because every girl will have flaws, and it is precisely because of these and other flaws that they become A boy is needed to love, and love is the best medicine that can turn the other person's flaws into beauty. Dreams can be beautiful, and pursuits can be noble, but in the face of love, we must learn to accept and accommodate, learn to acknowledge and take responsibility, learn to understand ourselves and highlight the other person.

Therefore, there are only two final suggestions that The Sky Is Always Blue can give you: First, cultivate yourself and mature yourself. It is best to correct yourself through your own efforts. Don't treat divorce as a child's play; secondly, if you really can't get through your own psychological test, then you'd better divorce. It's better to divorce as early as possible, and don't harm other women's lives. But please remember that when you are looking for reasons for divorce, please do not let the woman who is happy for you know that you are doing it because of her appearance after taking off makeup. If so, your sin is serious, and she will If you look down on you, you yourself will look down on yourself, and we will all look down on you, too, because letting a woman who can marry you in a flash marriage and loves beauty so much accept the insult of "not beautiful" is no less than going to her. A knife was inserted into his heart. Well, that’s all. No matter what, the sky will always be blue and I still want to bless you!