Cousin's rough first half of her life

There is a saying in the countryside: life is hard and soft. It's hard enough for people born on the fifteenth day, but the hardest thing is to be born on the twentieth day. "It's not difficult for the first fifteen days, but it's as hard as a nail when you're twenty."

There is also a saying in the countryside that sheep have a hard time, especially girls. "A woman is a sheep, and her family is ruined." "Men are sheep, and women are sheep with tears."

My cousin is a sheep, and his birthday is June 20th of the lunar calendar. When the family talks about her experience, they will finally make a concluding statement with a sigh: this is all fate.

First, the teenager lost his father and was placed in a patron's house.

My cousin's life is very difficult. When she was a teenager, her father died of lung cancer.

My uncle is a conscientious secretary of the village branch, the kind who really serves the people, leads the villagers to plant trees and build enterprises, and serves the citizens wholeheartedly, which has a high reputation among the masses.

My uncle in my impression is dark, tall, with a big back and a smile on his face. He is very talkative. He is the pillar of the family, very caring, very diligent and obedient to his second aunt. My second aunt is notoriously grumpy and difficult to get along with in the village, but every time she loses her temper and quarrels with him, my second aunt never talks back.

When the villagers learned that their uncle was ill, they all said that God was unfair and that good people would not live long. On the day my uncle was buried, villagers from several nearby villages spontaneously came to see him off. The street was crowded with people, and people were crying. I think if my uncle is alive in the spirit of heaven, he will die without regret when he sees this scene.

My uncle's death hit my second aunt hard. She didn't eat for days and nights, and cried at her uncle's grave many times, wanting to die with her uncle. My second aunt cried and said, "If you could talk back to me when I was angry with you, I would be fine now ..."

My second aunt fell into grief and her family was penniless. Seeing that her 65,438+04-year-old cousin and her 65,438+065,438+0-year-old cousin were going to school, my mother took her cousin to my home in town and asked them to go to school in the city.

It is said that the children of poor families are in charge early, and the cousins who have changed at home are very sensible, eager to learn and one of the best in learning. They also take the initiative to do housework at home and help me and my brother study. My cousin and I share a bedroom, and there are endless whispers every night. In my eyes, she is beautiful, smart, strong, capable and sensible, and she is my role model.

Second, study and work, and fail to start a business.

Three years later, my cousin was faced with the choice of secondary school or high school. At that time, technical secondary school was more difficult than high school, because it could assign jobs after three years. My cousin has excellent grades and is the monitor. In fact, she wants to continue to enter high school and go to college. But in the end, her cousin chose to study in a technical secondary school, hoping to work quickly to earn money.

Who knows that after graduating from technical secondary school, the policy has changed. My family doesn't want my cousin to work in Guangzhou. My cousin works as a teacher in a computer training institution in the county, and her income is only enough for her own expenses.

Cousin is not reconciled to this ordinary job and is bent on starting a business to make money and change her destiny. Young people around the age of 20 should be like this. They have dreams in their hearts and a beautiful vision for the future. They haven't realized the cruelty and cruelty of reality.

At work, my cousin learned that opening an Internet cafe was very profitable at that time, so she wrote a letter to my mother, expounding her own entrepreneurial ideas, and wanted my mother to invest in opening an Internet cafe. After learning about the situation, my mother called a classmate who works in the Municipal Public Security Bureau and decided to invest 50,000 yuan to open an Internet cafe for her 20-year-old cousin.

50,000 yuan was not a small investment in a small county town 20 years ago, and it was also one-third of my family's savings at that time.

Now it seems that my cousin's entrepreneurial ideas are ahead of the times and seize the opportunity of the times. 1999, Tencent started to launch OICQ service, and Ma Huateng started to chat online. After rapidly breaking through 6.5438+million users, the Internet era began to take root in China. In the era without smart phones, QQ has become an important channel for people to contact and make friends.

But 20 years ago, the price of a personal computer was often 1 10,000 yuan, which was not a mass consumer product. As a result, around 2000, Internet cafes began to grow wildly all over the country. Many internet cafes have earned their first bucket of gold.

However, starting a business is not that simple, especially in a small county. My cousin, who has no background and lacks social and management experience, has lost all her money. Later, my mother invested tens of thousands of yuan and beat Shui Piao.

During this period, my cousin also talked about a boyfriend, who is very handsome, a bit like Jimmy Lin. Both of them have met their families, and her boyfriend has also invested in an Internet cafe. Finally, the internet cafe closed down and the two broke up. What happened to my cousin during this period is unknown.

My mother couldn't accept the fact that the money was gone for a long time. My cousin knelt down several times to beg my mother's forgiveness and promised to pay back the money. My mother also called and scolded her, breaking off diplomatic relations with her for three years, and it has been bitter until today.

Third, get married in a flash marriage and support the family alone.

Life always goes on. My cousin later found a job in an insurance company with outstanding ability and good performance, and soon became a regional manager.

After my job was stable, I began to think about getting married. At that time, the girl was not married at the age of 25 or 6, and she was already an older woman in a small county. Her family was in a hurry and introduced her everywhere.

The twists and turns during the blind date can be ignored. Finally, I chose my brother-in-law, two people of the same age, with good looks and height 18 1cm. He looks simple and honest. After graduating from college, he has a stable job and a small independent house in the county. After dating for three months, they got married in a hurry. In these three months, in fact, two people really met for less than two weeks, which can be described as a veritable flash marriage.

Living together after marriage, I found that their personalities were not in tune at all. Cousin is enthusiastic and dedicated, and her mobile phone is constantly on; Brother-in-law is dull and inarticulate by nature. Both of them don't like each other and have no emotional foundation.

After three months of marriage, my cousin had the idea of divorce and was about to bring it up, only to find that she was pregnant. She wanted to have an abortion, but after the examination, the doctor said it was twins, so I hope to think it over carefully. My cousin relented and resigned, thinking that she was so old. If it is more difficult to find a suitable divorce partner, I will make do with it.

The child was born prematurely seven months ago. When twin boys were born, one weighed more than two kilograms and the other weighed only one kilogram. They were released from the incubator for a month. Cousin named the child "Tintin, Diandian".

When I was confined, my second aunt also came to help. Second aunt is a picky person, and she doesn't like her cousin's husband's behavior very much. She had a lot of unhappiness during pregnancy and childbirth in the hospital, so the contradiction intensified in the second month, and the old people almost fought. My cousin's mother-in-law went back to her hometown in the countryside and never came to take care of her children again.

A few months later, my cousin began to work, and all the tasks of parenting were handed over to my second aunt. My second aunt likes boys very much, and suddenly she has spiritual sustenance. She takes care of her two children wholeheartedly. She wakes up a dozen times every night, nursing, changing diapers and putting her to bed. It's hard, but she works hard.

My brother-in-law works in other places and will come back several times a month. But the two men quarreled almost as soon as they met. My brother-in-law never sent flowers to my cousin, and he was reluctant to send flowers to his two children. In a rage, my cousin gave the children their last names when they registered.

My brother-in-law never came back after he learned about it. Brother-in-law said when to change his surname and when to come back.

This dragged on for more than ten years, and both of them were too lazy to change their names and did not apply for divorce.

Cousin said that she actually wanted to change her name and wanted her children to have a complete family. But my second aunt insisted on not changing it, saying that they didn't contribute a penny. Even if I change my name, I can't count on it and I can't live.

Now that both children are in junior high school, the expenses are getting bigger and bigger. My cousin's salary can't be raised at all, so I can only rely on her assistance-just like my mother's assistance to my cousin's school.

My cousin's work is still so busy, the pressure is great, her body is getting weaker and weaker, and she looks much older than her peers.

She certainly can't repay the money she owes my family. Finally, my cousin paid it back for him.

Fortunately, Tintin is very competitive and sensible. I have been a primary school bully since I was a child, and two people compete for the first place. This is the only hope and comfort that life gives my sister.

Nine times out of ten, the older you get, the more you can understand the meaning of this sentence.

My cousin is 40 years old this year. I hope she can spend the rest of her life happily.