What do you think about premarital sex?

There are many opinions on whether to support premarital sex:

I am a woman, but I am against premarital sex. I want to save the first time until the wedding night. This is what I have been taught since I was a child. Is there anything wrong with this?

This is our first time for my husband and I. We have just received our certificates. May you bless us.

The membrane of a woman is not just membrane, it is personality, upbringing, self-respect and integrity.

If you have a virginity complex, you must be a virgin.

Premarital sex, to put it bluntly, is just being a hooligan.

Wait a minute~ That’s almost all the opinions put together.

Through these views, we can see that many female compatriots hold certain prejudices against this matter. So, I also want to express my views and attitudes on this.

Why are there so many voices rejecting premarital sex? It’s also beyond my expectation!

Is it happier to have sex after marriage than to have sex before marriage and make friends on Ruoai.com? At this time, there will definitely be a large number of comments that will drown me out. But is it right for such extreme people to suppress premarital sex with their own views? How many female friends today have never had sex before marriage? Can you raise a paw?

I guess there are not many people who say that they refuse premarital sex, but have they ever done such a thing?

Inevitably, there are also many women who can have a better estimate of some situations in their future lives based on their lives before marriage, and decide whether to have sex with them based on this situation. The other half gets married.

The big question I want to ask is "Have you ever had any experience of self-*?"

According to some conclusions drawn from my daily observations, some women with a bachelor's degree or above have I had this experience when I was around 70, so I can see some problems from the negative side. Why do so many highly educated people have such a high proportion of people who commit suicide? You might as well think of an answer in your own mind. Are they in the same queue as the results I thought of later?

On the contrary, female compatriots with a bachelor’s degree or below have less experience in self-feeding. Why? A big question mark will flash in your mind.

According to my observation, I think that most of the highly educated compatriots feed themselves frequently because they are stricter in their own lives, and often the work pressure is relatively high, which causes frequent self-feeding. Such a phenomenon.

But because people with low education go to work early, they will get to know and interact with the opposite sex early, so a high proportion of them have no shortage of boyfriends. Unlike highly educated people, because their starting point is higher, they will have more conditions and requirements in choosing a spouse.

Unconsciously, the threshold will be raised, and there will not be many people of the opposite sex who are suitable for you. If it causes you to be lonely for a long time or devote yourself to your career, but your physiological needs cannot be met in time, you can only commit suicide!

Does this mean that women with higher education are more slutty? Yeah? If you think this means going to Ruoai.com for dating and dating is "more debauched", then you'd better not let your child go to college, because she will be more debauched in the future.

This just shows that the more educated women are, the more they know how to liberate themselves and their nature, because women also have the right to please themselves. Women with lower academic qualifications are bound by traditional morals and have even forgotten their own existence. Even if they have desires, they dare not speak out.

If you deny this fact, then you deny education.

There is another problem now. Many men are very concerned about whether their wives are virgins when they get married. There is a report that specifically conducted this survey. I will show it to you below. Let’s look at the results of this survey.

Among the more than 2,500 men who participated in the survey, the "minding rate" for those with a bachelor's degree or above was 15; the "minding rate" for those with a high school degree was 21; and the "minding rate" for those with a junior high school education It is 32; for those with primary school education, the "minding rate" is 43.

The results are relatively simple and clear. People with high education generally do not mind whether their girlfriends are virgins. On the contrary, those low-educated low-income people are very worried about this kind of thing.

What does academic qualifications mean? Although it is a certificate, it will represent the level of your three views, including your views on some things, which will be at a relatively high level.

(Don’t use an example to argue that so-and-so did not graduate from elementary school and still has a net worth of billions. Look at the top 100 richest people in China. How many of them have a bachelor’s degree or below? Look at the Fortune 500. Which one is worth billions? Aren’t they all recruited from 985 graduates? )

Being concerned about premarital sex is essentially an evolution of the “virgin concept.”

The "virgin concept" is the ideological product of the oppression of women in a patriarchal society. This is not modern civilization. If you read history, you will know that from the Tang and Song Dynasties to the Ming and Qing Dynasties, there were more and more "chaste women". Since the "preserving nature's principles and destroying human desires" that suffered a thousand cuts was widely promoted, Chinese women Just walking into dire straits step by step, there are tens of thousands of "martial women" in the history of the Ming Dynasty, and hundreds of others are being publicized. Isn't this sick?

According to this logic, if a girl is raped, shouldn’t she live a good life in this world? Do you no longer deserve to be loved? Do you think she deserves it?

What is sad is not only that men think that women should be virgins when they marry him, but what is even more sad is that many women also think so. She naively said that she would save her first time until the wedding night...

However, in fact this is not the case. The reason why many women divorce is because they lead a sexless life. This resulted in the relationship deteriorating to the point where they had to divorce.

What is even more tragic is that there is a lady who has been married for 12 years and is still a virgin. She insisted at the beginning that "the first time must be saved for the wedding night." Who knew that after getting married, her husband had problems and could not engage in sexual activities at all. In the past 12 years, she has never thought about divorce. Because if you divorce for this reason, you will be laughed at by everyone; but will you stay like this for the rest of your life? She faces the contradiction between herself and traditional morality.

So, we should think about: What is sex?

It is a very common thing to have sex just like eating and sleeping. It is wrong to exalt it excessively and belittle it.

"I have been taught this way since I was a child. The first time must be saved until marriage." If everyone says so and thinks so, then you have accepted your mother's education, and your mother has accepted it. education from her mother. . So, it only makes sense that you should have your feet bound by now. . .

“This has always been the case, is it right?”

Our current moral foundation, especially the moral foundation of both sexes, almost all still follows the feudal patriarchy.

Woman, you can ask yourself, what are the benefits to you of adhering to such morals?

There is a very common phenomenon that once a woman gives her first time to a man, the man says, "I will be responsible for you"

We usually don’t think there is anything wrong with this sentence, but the implicit meaning of this sentence is that women are sacrificing themselves for men. The so-called sacrifice means - this thing has no benefit to me, it is all for you, so I do it, and the process is painful.

If a woman having sex with a man is a sacrifice for a woman, then why does traditional morality still require "abstinence"?

Think about it, if something is painful, do you need to ban it? Don't even say it's forbidden. Even if you spend money, you may not see anyone doing it - such as eating shit.

So, if you are a woman, you do not want to "check the goods" before marriage. The quality of your future marriage will be extremely poor, such as if your husband is impotent, has hobbies that you cannot accept, and is sexually abused. . .

Then you can't blame anyone, after all, it's your choice - just be happy.