? Never say "sarcasm" to children.

Baby bag:

Last weekend, five-year-old Yang Yang and his mother played with building blocks in the living room. Yang Yang is building a tall tower with bu

Baby bag:

Last weekend, five-year-old Yang Yang and his mother played with building blocks in the living room. Yang Yang is building a tall tower with building blocks. When her mother saw that it was almost time to cook, she reminded Yang Yang, "Yang Yang, mom is going to cook. After a while, build your own building blocks and wait for your mother to cook before reading a book to play with you. "

Yang Yang had a good time. Hearing what his mother said, he immediately shouted, "No, my mother wants to play with me." "Mom is going to cook, aren't you going to eat?" "That won't do either!" Yang Yang said, and began to cry. Mom was angry, too. "Didn't I tell you to play with you after dinner? Why don't you understand? " Cry, cry, you cry, you cry hard! Mom said that and left angrily. Yang Yang just sat on the floor and burst into tears. Mom just can't figure it out. Why can't this child understand what adults say? Why do you cry more and more?

Expert analysis:

Yang Yang doesn't understand her mother? Yang Yang certainly understood what his mother said, "I'll cook." But then her mother saw that Yang Yang insisted on playing with her and cried. Her mother said, "You cried, you cried badly!" Yang Yang didn't understand this sentence, because Yang Yang sat on the ground and burst into tears after her mother finished.

I remember hearing an example of a primary school principal: when the bell rang, three first-grade boys ran back to the classroom sweating, "Report!" Three children stood at the door of the class and shouted at the teacher. "ah! Come back, play for a while, don't hurry back! " After hearing this, the three boys turned and ran outside. "Come back!" The teacher is in distress situation. Later, the headmaster helped the teacher analyze: it was not a joke made by three boys, but that the teacher didn't understand the characteristics of the first-grade children. This teacher used to teach senior students, and even students who said "satire" could hear it. When teaching junior students again, because the child's language understanding ability is not mature enough to understand the irony said by the teacher, he made such a joke.

Yang Yang's mother made a similar mistake and didn't understand the age characteristics of her children. Children of this age can't understand rhetoric, so they should use positive encouragement to strengthen their correct behavior, not negative education.

Preschool and early school-age children need their parents' role models and positive guidance. Children's behavior is mainly imitation learning. If they want their children to do what they want, they should show them first. Children usually have no direct response to some language instructions. Parents must supplement body language, such as gestures and movements, so that children can understand what parents mean. At the same time, children's understanding ability is poor, and the transfer of attention needs a process, so children should be given some time to think. In view of children's problems, when making demands on children, we should consider their psychological characteristics. There are some tips and strategies that can make children automatically transfer behavior as you ask. Here are some ways to help parents solve similar problems in Yang Yang.

Give your child some "psychological preparation" in advance.

Before playing games with children, you can tell them the time schedule first, so that they can be psychologically prepared. For example, my mother said to Yang Yang in advance, "It's four o'clock now, so we can build blocks for a while. At half past four, my mother cooks. You should read a book or play by yourself for a while. After dinner, my mother can play with you for an hour. " Although children don't have a sense of time yet, they will probably know how time is arranged, so they will be more fully prepared and easier to accept when they need to change their activities.