The two-and-a-half-year-old child is always clinging to his mother, most likely because his family told him a joke

"I'm looking for mom, mom, come back!" Then the child's heartbreaking cry came from next door.

Cheng Cheng hurriedly ran out to see the child. The house next door was the home of Cheng Cheng’s parents-in-law. As soon as he entered the house, the child’s grandmother smiled and said, “His uncle made a joke to him. Mom is gone, I don’t want him anymore! The child was having a good time, but he started crying when he heard this, haha~"

Cheng Cheng really had mixed feelings in his heart, and wanted to yell, but it was a Chinese New Year. Yes, we are only staying for a few days, why bother to fall out? After thinking about it, I forgot about it, picked up the child and returned to my room.

In fact, this is not the first time something like this has happened. As a result, the children pay close attention to Cheng Cheng. When they go to the toilet, the children have to go with him. With Cheng Cheng around, the children can play at grandma's house for a long time. If Cheng Cheng is not around, the children will go to the toilet after playing for a while. Find mom.

Cheng Cheng is very worried. The child is already two and a half years old, but he is still so clingy to his mother. What will happen if this continues?

"Life Times" once published a report about the statistics of "your most annoying ways to tease children". Among them, the joke "Your mother doesn't want you anymore" has a statistic of 19.36 Ranked first.

There are too many elders around us who like to use this sentence to tease their children. When they see the children crying in fear, they laugh on the sidelines. As everyone knows, this kind of joking mentality that bases happiness on children's fears is really infuriating.

The six short words "Mom doesn't want you anymore" not only maliciously convey the wrong message, but also cause great fear to the children, making them lose their sense of security.

Children’s world is very simple, and it is easy to believe what others say. They don't understand what is a joke and what is true, but they know what separation is. Before the age of 3, children are dependent on their mothers. They are afraid that their mothers will leave their sight. If family members often make such jokes to their children, it will only continue to strengthen the child's fear.

If one day, the mother really needs to go out to do errands, the child will only feel that the mother really doesn’t want him anymore and has really left. Even if the mother returns home, she cannot eliminate the child's fear and will only make the child more uneasy.

But when faced with this kind of joking by relatives and friends, as mothers of children, what should we do more appropriately?

1. Give the child an explanation immediately to eliminate the child's uneasiness and fear.

When someone says to a child, "Your mother is gone and she doesn't want you anymore," the mother should immediately say to the child, "Mom was busy just now (such as washing clothes, doing housework, etc.) and didn't have time to accompany you, mom." This is not a good time to be by your side!”

Or if you have to go out and have to ask your family to look after your child for a day, you have to set a time limit for your child, for example, what time will you come back to pick him up in the afternoon? Children, let your children understand mentally that you will still come back.

2. Encourage children to deny other people’s opinions

Encourage children to refute in time. You can imitate the child’s voice and say: “That’s not the case, mom will not leave! Mom loves her most Baby."

At the same time, we should also let the children understand that if others say something that makes the children question or make them angry, teach them to say "No!" "If you talk like this again, I don't like you anymore!" Let the adults understand, Your own words will make the child hate him, so he will retreat instead of continuing to joke.

3. Take the child away from the scene

When the child cries out of fear, the mother should hold the child and leave the scene, leaving the scene where the adults are still immersed in the joke. Next, the mother should calm the child's emotions in time, repeat "Mom loves you, mother will never leave you" over and over again, and hug and kiss the child to let the child regain a sense of security.

Children are too clingy. This is probably a joke that family members around them tell their children, "Your mother doesn't want you anymore." It's like a sharp sword that hurts the child while it hurts. Mother's heart. A child is a piece of flesh that falls from a mother's body. No one in this world loves a child more than a mother. Even if I leave the whole world, I will never leave you, my child!