Jay Chou's new song "If you don't love me, forget it": People in love should not always give in to anyone.

Recently, the release of Jay Chou's new song "Don't love me, forget it" has aroused everyone's eager attention. Everyone's WeChat circle of friends and Weibo have even been screened by this song. I have to say that Zhou Wang is really charming. The casual and free attitude towards love shown in the lyrics has aroused people's resonance and even hit the hidden pain of some believers.

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One of my colleagues who just came out to work is a handsome and versatile person in the unit. I don't know how many girls have secretly captured their hearts. However, he just fell in love with a cold girl, which can be described as a soft spot. In fact, that girl's appearance is really outstanding, but her work ability and performance are average in the unit. My colleagues also have a deep fascination with her for some reason, and then I don't know when to start pursuing her crazily.

He is free of any festivals, such as sending flowers, inviting dinner, watching movies and so on. Most of them were rejected, but he still wouldn't give up, thinking that he just didn't do enough to impress girls. In fact, this girl doesn't seem to obviously dislike my colleague's meaning. She may be enjoying the process of being chased.

As long as the kung fu is deep, the iron bar is ground into a needle. Finally, my colleague touched the hostess, and finally they formally established a love relationship and came together. At that time, all her colleagues cast envious and admiring eyes on her.

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After a few months, everyone found that my colleagues seemed unhappy because of the nourishment of love. After in-depth understanding, it turned out that the girl's princess was very ill, and she always needed boys to accommodate her in the process of getting along. You have to ask her permission to travel anywhere, and you have to listen to her for everything you eat tonight. After a long relationship, my male colleague felt very depressed, but because he liked her and didn't want to break up with her, he kept putting up with it silently.

Finally, one day, male colleagues broke out completely, and finally they ended this seemingly sweet but unstable relationship by breaking up.

It turns out that once they made an appointment to travel to Hangzhou together, my male colleague had already made an appointment to play with friends in Hangzhou, but the girl suddenly changed her mind the day before she left. She wants to play in Changsha, Hunan, because she has an appointment with her best friend in Changsha. Sadly, the male colleague's predecessor was from Changsha, and their breakup place was in Changsha. However, this girl, regardless of the willy-nilly, insisted on dragging him to Changsha. It is conceivable that my colleague finally couldn't bear it, and then broke up with that girl decisively.

After breaking up, my colleagues felt relieved. He suddenly felt how free and easy his spiritual world had become. He also knows that it is very naive to fall in love with this girl on the premise of distorting the concept of equality and freedom.

Yes, all unequal relationships are the most fragile. Especially in love, there is no one who gives in to anyone, because love is carried out under the principle of equality and dignity for both parties. Without equality, the final relationship will never be reliable.

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In the community where I live, there is an old couple in their seventies. They are famous for quarreling in the community. However, this does not prevent their husband and wife from having a surprisingly good relationship. A few minutes ago, I heard them arguing loudly about trifles in the room. After a few minutes, I saw them coming out hand in hand and sitting on the bench in the courtyard of the community, talking and laughing. Very loving.

When asked what tricks they have in the process of getting along, someone will always answer them first, whether they are good at thinking of each other and accommodating each other in everything.

At this time, the old lady will solemnly overturn your conclusion. There is no accommodation in love. Compromise will only make the problem worse. You might as well just say it or fight. Who is right and who is wrong just has the courage to admit it, and the wrong party only needs to correct it in time.

She said, knowing that the other party is doing something wrong, and constantly accommodating the other party, this is not the embodiment of love, it is irresponsible for love, and will eventually hurt the feelings of both parties.

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In a certain issue of If You Are the One, Morphy rationally pointed out how some female guests think that boys should accommodate women in love. This is not in line with the logic of love, but the embodiment of the three views of love. In the world of love, no one should accommodate anyone. When any party has an unequal personality relationship, it proves that this relationship is unreasonable and will not last long.

Also, in love city TV series such as Tiger Mom and Cat Dad, the most delicious taste in the world is Qing Huan, and the hero and heroine did not give in to each other until they finally became the fruits of love or marriage. On the contrary, they had quarrels and even fights. Only through constant polishing can they understand the true meaning of love.

In Tiger Mom and Cat Dad, Bi Shengnan gave in to Russell's emotional infidelity because the child was still young at first, so she gave in and endured it. However, when she repeatedly found that Russell was still pestering her first love in college, she finally showed her unique "tiger mother" temperament, no longer attached to Russell, but focused on her career and helped her former boss Du Feng to start a business together and tide over the difficulties. At this time, Russell felt bad, so he became jealous and went to Bi Theory, but Bi was neither supercilious nor supercilious, which embarrassed Russell. In the end, under the inspiration of his father, Russell understood that Bi is the lover who will never give up in this life, and that he should have the heart and responsibility as a man and father, so he took out his sincerity and sincerity to apologize to Bi and finally won back the feelings of husband and wife.

So sometimes, accommodation will not only save love or marriage. When you indulge too much, it will hurt the happiness of love and marriage. 05

As we all know, in love, there will always be one side with a relatively bad temper. If two people are grumpy and unwilling to accommodate each other, the relationship can't last long, so we should be kind to the people we love. The other person has shortcomings and made mistakes. We should not blame him blindly, but tolerate him and allow the other person to be imperfect. Since I love him, what does it matter if I change a little and take the initiative? When two people get along, everyone moves to accommodate each other.

However, excessive accommodation is tantamount to conniving at each other's mistakes and willfulness, lowering their position in each other's hearts, and finally feelings become a burden. If she does something wrong, you can't bear to tell him. You think she will change it herself. She has bad habits, you don't care, you think that loving one person means loving all of her; If she doesn't take the initiative to find you, you won't feel a problem. You just think I took the initiative. Then you are wronged, but you are afraid to tell her, for fear that you will make a mountain out of a molehill, and that the other party will not think that she should understand you. Then, she went too far, and you felt more and more wronged. One day, you broke out and finally got angry with her. She thought you had changed, you yelled at her, and then the ending became clear.

Therefore, in love, we must control the degree. It's right to love and tolerate her, but we can't follow her in everything, as long as she is happy. She has a short temper and some shortcomings. You should put up with her, but she always does something wrong. You should intervene or help her. If she has some unreasonable demands, you should try your best to satisfy her and make her happy, but if she goes too far, you should know how to refuse; You should take more initiative, but sometimes you should let her take the initiative; Speak out when you are angry and unhappy, don't keep it in your heart, and you don't have to guess what the other person thinks; You have some small shortcomings that you can't change. Tell her that people who love you will naturally tolerate you. In short, it is not easy to be together. We should be kind to each other and cherish fate. In feelings, love each other and remember to love yourself, so that you and she can be themselves completely.

To tell the truth, it is not good for love itself to indulge blindly in love and just want to "create" your own generosity.