What behaviors of parents are likely to ruin children?

In order to let their children grow up, many parents will try their best to leave the best things to their children and try their best to meet their needs. But I didn't know, so I hurt the child.

There is a report on the Internet that a famous female artist gave birth to a boy and doted on him in every way. Even because of the child's request, she and the child slept until 15 years old, until her son had a physiological reaction and was forced to leave the bed.

But the mother's obedience led to her son's arrogance and disobedience from childhood. Bullying classmates after school and finally threatening to blow up the school. Later, the police intervened and found many guns from my son's house, and finally went to prison.

After reading this story, people can only feel that spoiling children is like killing them.

Since ancient times, if parents have a wrong understanding of love and think that love is material and satisfies desires, it will destroy children and their lives sooner or later!

So, what is the effect of parents' "doting" on their children?

1, the child becomes selfish.

A child who grew up in a doting environment is used to all the people around him, so he thinks of himself first, and is not good at considering others, so it is easy to develop a selfish character.

Suggestion: Take the children outside to play with their peers. In dealing with people, let them learn to share, know how to take care of others' feelings, and reverse their selfish personality.

2. Children have poor self-care ability.

Spoiled children often reach for clothes and open their mouths to eat at home. Parents will consider everything for them and help them take care of everything. So many children don't have to do anything since childhood, and they can't even wash clothes and buy daily necessities when they go to college. How can such a child gain a foothold in society?

Suggestion: Parents should ask their children to do things by themselves from kindergarten, such as dressing and eating, arranging toys and carrying schoolbags. When they grow up, they can help with housework. Only by cultivating from an early age will children become more and more independent.

3. Physical development is affected.

According to the survey, 8 1% spoiled children will be picky eaters. Picky food will make children lack nutrients such as protein and fat, reduce their physical resistance, make them weak, and even lead to slow physical and intellectual development.

Suggestion: Parents must pay attention to the combination of meat and vegetables in their children's diet to ensure comprehensive nutrition every day, instead of letting their children eat only what they like.

4. The child's character becomes arrogant.

Spoiled children are often spoiled by their parents at home, giving them whatever they want. Therefore, it is easy for them to develop an arrogant character that does not take others seriously.

Suggestion: unreasonable demands on children, no matter how they cry, can be solved by diverting attention or delaying satisfaction with cold treatment.