People who don't talk in the workplace meeting room are actually holding back big moves.

Amy just graduated from college and works in an internet company. Amy used to be a very thoughtful person, but she was always embarrassed to express her ideas at meetings. She was very upset.

In the workplace, many girls will encounter this situation. Why?

Because they have such a big psychological assumption, if I express different opinions, it may lead to conflict. In order to avoid conflicts with others, they dare not speak their thoughts and express themselves more confidently.

In order to change this state, Amy did an experiment:

From Monday to Wednesday and Friday, she tries to show positive sunshine, tell jokes and care about everyone's emotions, just like he usually does; Thursday, Tuesday and Thursday don't pay attention to other people's emotions, only pay attention to your own affairs.

A week later, she went to ask her colleagues what they thought of her and whether they found any change in her. As a result, her colleagues said that they found nothing different.

Did you get a look at him?

Sometimes you are afraid to do something, because your assumptions hinder your behavior, and you think that if you do this, it will bring bad results. But the fact is that this assumption may not be true.

For example, if you put forward your own ideas in the conference room, there may be conflicts, so you dare not express your opinions. But it turns out that others don't care much about whether you have expressed your views, it's just your own imagination.

In other words, when you are hesitant or afraid to do something, try to make some changes, test your assumptions and see why you are self-limiting.