Why does everyone criticize the patriarchal society, but a man who eats soft food will be criticized?

(Text/Wuxin Listening to Flowers) At noon, the rice in the cafeteria was cooked soft. A colleague said that eating soft rice feels so good, no wonder more and more men are eating soft rice. A joke points out the social reality. The phenomenon of "men eating soft rice" is indeed increasing. What is the reason? One reason is that society is becoming more and more neutral, and gender value identification tends to be blurred. Many men are becoming more and more feminine. Not only do they look fair, but their words, deeds, and even psychological traits have a powdery air. Many women are becoming more and more masculine. This masculinity is not only reflected in the appearance but also hidden in the heart. Material life is becoming increasingly abundant, the separation of brain and body work is gradually expanding, and the gender ratio is seriously imbalanced. People are almost always surrounded by a female atmosphere when they grow up. When they are young, they are mostly played by girls, and when they go to school, they are accompanied by female classmates, and most of their teachers are Women, after working, are confined to the office life circle, resulting in the differences between men and women becoming smaller and smaller, and they tend to merge to a certain extent. This provides a nutrient-rich survival soil for "men who eat soft rice". The second reason is the proliferation of female and strong female bodies. With the progress of the times, the correlation between social division of labor and gender is becoming less and less obvious, and the characteristics of patriarchal society are no longer as obvious as those of feudal society. Under the two prerequisites of increasing education and the awakening of feminist consciousness, society has given women a wider and wider stage to display their talents, and more and more women are career-minded. Reality has also proved that women, like men, are fully capable of shouldering the burden of family and society. "Women hold half the sky" already has a solid economic foundation. This provides a broad opportunity space for "men who eat soft rice". The third reason is that social competition is becoming increasingly fierce, and men no longer have an absolute advantage. Not every man can realize his career dream, and some men even have difficulty supporting themselves. For male individuals, not everyone can be stronger than a woman or stronger than his woman. As a result, the traditional division of labor model of "men taking care of the outside and women taking care of the house" was quietly reversed, and the "household cook man" doctrine gradually emerged. In a broader sense, after the social division of labor and roles have been replaced, the economic status of many men is much lower than that of women. This also gives those who hold traditional ideas the impression that they are "eating soft rice". Objectively speaking, whether a man is "eating soft rice" cannot be judged only by income comparison. Income is only a superficial indicator. For this reason, not all men who are considered "soft rice eaters" should be criticized or even despised. Those men who are in the Lord are not considered to be "freeloaders", but are just the normal evolution of the division of labor in society. After all, acquired role division no longer relies solely on innate gender differences. This is progress rather than regression of the times. Only those men who are lazy and rely on women to support themselves are "soft rice eaters" in the true sense. As for those so-called men who rely on their bodies to win the favor of women, it is undoubtedly shameful. In fact, most of us, regardless of gender, may have a mentality similar to eating soft food. Many people do not eat soft rice, perhaps because they do not have the capital to eat soft rice, or because they have not yet encountered the opportunity to eat soft rice. When faced with major setbacks or physical and mental exhaustion, everyone may give in for a moment, and may even have the urge to "just eat soft food". Men and women, in fact, there is no need to compare who is stronger. Today, when men and women are becoming more and more equal, advocating individual mentality and cultivating individual abilities are the universal values ??of today's era. To be honest, it feels good to have a soft meal once in a while. If you don’t believe it, why don’t you eat it too?