How to distinguish your mom and dad, mom and dad?

There is such a joke: once upon a time, there was an acid scholar who claimed to be knowledgeable and humorous. Seeing that the farmer in the same village didn't know the address of classical Chinese, he deliberately wanted to play a trick on the farmer and told his son to call you dad. The farmer believed it and asked the scholar, "How many dads are there in your family?" If not, I can send you some. When this was said, the onlookers burst into laughter. As a result, the acid scholar finally lifted a stone and hit himself in the foot, but painting a tiger is not an anti-dog, and he hid his face in shame and ran away.

So, what does "your father" mean here? In some classical literary works, you can often see the word "your father". If you pay attention, you will find that one party in the work is addressing the other's father, and between the lines, you can see that it is a respectful title. In fact, "your father" is a tribute often used in social occasions and correspondence in the old days. One party uses this tribute to show courtesy and respect to the other father. In classical Chinese vocabulary, the word "ling" can be interpreted as respectful meaning, but also contains kind and beautiful meaning; The word "Zun" is very common in modern Chinese to show respect. The appearance of the compound word "your father" also shows a kind of moral standard: feudal society thinks that there is not only a generational order between the elders and the younger generation, but also a generational difference, that is, the elders are respected and the younger generation is humble, thus forming a cognitive convention. One party calls the other "your father" and is accompanied by an explanation of the word "your mother". Because in ancient times, mothers usually sat in the inner hall, so the inner hall was also extended to the mother's name; When expressing respect for each other's mother in etiquette, the title of "your mother" appeared.

Therefore, in social communication, one party should add the word "Ling" before addressing the grandparents, peers and younger generations of the other party, out of respect for the relatives of the other party. For example, your grandfather, grandmother, uncle, brother, sister, son, lover and so on.

According to the old etiquette, people call other people's parents "your father" and "your mother" in communication. After greeting, they naturally talk about their parents, so they are called "my father" and "my mother". The so-called "my father" and "my mother" is a self-declaration to parents in front of others, which means humility and modesty. "Home" is a little something here. Why do you say that? Because in ancient times, although there was a saying that "princes called the country and doctors called it home", in fact, at that time, the words "country" and "home" were often ambiguous, taking one meaning, that is, the country was home and the home was the country, so there was also a saying of "home country" in history. The difference is that the country's home is a group of people, and compared with the single cell of the family and social organization composed of blood relatives, the latter is a small family. It is for this reason that this concept of "everyone belongs to one family", after expansion and development, was later applied to the appellation of interpersonal communication and became the humble name of "self-modesty", which is the origin of the appellation of "my father" and "my mother". The same is true of "Grandpa", "Grandma", "Uncle" and "Aunt".