How can couples have topics to talk about?

1. The topic of imagining a better future

This face-to-face topic does not require detailed planning to put pressure on each other, but is used to spice up ordinary life. For example, two people have worked hard in the same city for a long time, and the work pressure in 996 is very high. In this case, the two of them can talk about topics such as traveling in the past few years. For example, in the cold winter, you can experience slow life in a city that is like spring all year round, or you can go on a self-driving tour around the city during a three-day holiday. (Or maybe one day when the weather is nice, it’s the weekend and I’ll go out with a few friends for an outing.) Think about what delicious food and fun things there are in the local area. Such a topic will make both of you more relaxed and happy. If possible, you can really plan when to go there, and you can save a travel fund together. Find a sense of fighting together. Don’t imagine content that is too difficult to achieve in the short term, otherwise it will only increase stress.

2. Occasionally recall the good things in the early and early stages of love

We all say not to dwell on old scores when quarreling, because those bad memories will affect the current relationship. This also illustrates the importance of memory from the opposite side. Such good memories will also have some good effects on current relationships. When two people enter a dull period and have nothing to say, especially if they have been in love or married for three or five years, and their lives are peaceful and without ripples, you can talk about some sweet things in the early days of love, such as do you still remember the day we held hands? Well, you actually told me that you had been practicing in front of the mirror for a long time how to hold my hand so that it feels natural. You were so cute then. This seemingly inconspicuous little detail will bring back some sweet memories in the other person's heart, and also remind him of the charming way you used to be. It is bound to add a touch of beauty to your current relationship.

3. Be sure to inject fresh elements

This can also be called catering to what others like. For example, your image to him has always been that of a quiet woman who likes reading and painting. Well, although he likes it very much, it may have been a long time, and he is also looking forward to you having a little bit of freshness occasionally. Suddenly one day you tell him that you are interested in dancing. You don’t have to actually learn to dance, but you can learn a simple dance online. Simply record a beautiful but slightly clumsy dance of yourself for ten seconds and send it to him. He saw that this easily gave him a strong sense of freshness. The other person will think, wow, so she still has this side. In this way, he will be very positive towards you in the near future, and he hopes to further explore and understand you, so that your relationship will be invisibly heated up, which will add a little fun to the relationship ~ or it may be said that he likes to play games and you like to chase. drama, we usually play our own games in our free time and don’t have much communication. Then suddenly one day you show that you want to learn the game from him and praise him during the game. His vanity is once again satisfied, and he discovers that you can actually have more topics to talk about, and he may also do it in the future. Try to understand some of your hobbies and take the initiative to do something with you that you like. If we think about it carefully, we don't need to do much to get very positive feedback. In life, as long as you are willing to make a little effort, there are many ways to warm up your relationship!