Character or destiny: From being in the spotlight to being a street performer, what has Le Jia experienced?

"Hello everyone, congratulations on meeting Le Jia alive."

Ten years ago, when Le Jia was at its most popular, he was always like this Greeting the audience.

The people below also gave me face and kept saying "Oh!"

Le Jia has long been accustomed to such scenes. In those years, whenever he appeared with another "bald" Meng Fei, women would scream.

Because in China, there are probably almost no women who have not watched Jiangsu Satellite TV’s popular dating program “If You Are the One.”

To this day, especially during the Chinese New Year, some "wonderful" clips are still being replayed. But things have changed and people have changed. In recent years, everyone has discovered that Le Jia disappeared silently on TV.

He returned to his old profession: giving speeches, training, and from time to time taking on some street business performances and hosting annual meetings.

Although I have earned a lot of money, it is inevitably lower than when I was at the peak of my career.

He can't blame others. He ruined his future all by himself, and it's all because of his fiery personality.

But how come a person who goes around giving personality training to others can’t even manage his own personality?

Le Jia’s 46 years are like a walking textbook of “character and destiny”.

01

In 1975, China had its first strong woman in politics, the female Vice Prime Minister Wu Guixian.

In the same year, an ordinary family in Jing'an District, Shanghai also had their own child, named "Le Jia".

This name sounds festive, and his parents don’t have much expectations for him. They just hope that he can be happy and live a good life.

At that time, Lejia’s parents could never have imagined that their son would create a theory many years later, and said firmly to the camera: “In the political arena, Most of the strong women have a yellow personality...Vice-Premier Wu Yi also has a yellow personality."

People who may not understand this theory simply cannot understand "yellow personality." "What is it? I just think this person is "mysterious" enough, but that's all for another day.

When Le Jia was born, Shanghai was still the armed base of the Gang of Four, and the situation was very unstable.

When she was two months old, her parents took the infant Lejia away from Shanghai and moved to a village in Weinan, Shaanxi.

When she was a child, Le Jia was very active, naughty and had many clever ideas.

But it happened that his father was an intellectual and his family had thousands of books. Starting from the age of 5, Lejia would get into trouble when he was outside and read books when he came home.

But life is not easy in these eight hundred miles of Qinchuan. Lejia's family is not rich. The so-called poor and humble couples are miserable. His parents quarrel over trivial matters all day long, and his father Sometimes I even domestically abuse my mother.

Le Jia saw it all and learned the bad habit of "hands-on".

But this only became apparent after Le Jia got into a fight with his wife after their marriage. At that time, the biggest influence his parents had on him was his rebellious character.

Lejia stopped studying hard and her grades plummeted. I also really hate my parents and want to leave them.

But Lejia did not succeed. When he was 13 years old, he moved back to Shanghai with his parents and studied in the third grade of junior high school in Shanghai. Because of my weak foundation and poor grades, I was not admitted to a good high school.

At the age of 14, Lejia’s family returned to their ancestral home in Ningbo, Zhejiang. This time, he was admitted to Ningbo Technical Secondary School, majoring in financial accounting.

At that time, Lejia was still young, with hair on her head and smooth eyebrows, but she was very competitive.

Once, he made a bet with his classmates. The loser would have to shave his head and walk around the school.

Le Jia was full of confidence and agreed, but in the end he lost. Although his self-esteem was hit, Le Jia was willing to admit defeat and immediately shaved his head and eyebrows.

That day, Le Jia walked naked in the school and became the target of crowds of onlookers, but he did not feel ashamed and was quite proud:

"Everyone thinks I'm weird, but I'm very proud that I've attracted others' attention and feel very unique."

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But what’s the use of hairstyle alone? Men still have to look at their abilities.

Soon, it was Le Jia's turn to show the power of her mouth.

02

"A poor person has a short ambition." Le Jia understood this truth from her parents since she was a child.

After graduating from technical secondary school, Le Jia also listened to her mother's advice and stayed in a bank in Ningbo to work as an accountant. This is my mother's wish, just to work down-to-earth and earn some money to support myself.

Kolajia is unwilling to give in.

Even if no one is watching, sitting in that small cubicle, the tendons he has trained will not be of any use: "That job can't give me happiness. , I want a job where I deal with many people, not just the hundred or so people in the bank.”

But this was still 1991, and Le Jia was only 16 years old. In my mother's eyes, if there is no such "iron rice bowl", it will be a problem to survive in the future.

Perhaps out of fear or for some other reason, Le Jia worked hard at the bank for two years, until he couldn't stand it any longer, so he resigned from the bank.

At the age of 18, Le Jia started selling real estate.

But at that time, selling a house was still a technical job, and it was not just about talking. Because Lejia couldn't understand the architectural drawings and found selling the house boring, she left angrily.

But fortunately, he was tall and in good shape, and he quickly found a new sales job-selling cosmetics.

Le Jia, who had just started working, had no other customers, so he could only "get familiar with him". His first customer was a female colleague from his former bank.

This female colleague also gave me face and bought 900 yuan of cosmetics in one go.

This was 1993. Lejia’s monthly salary was only 170 yuan, and the per capita monthly salary in Zhejiang Province was 327 yuan.

Moreover, Lejia also received a commission of 200 yuan from the 900 yuan because of this transaction, and the money received suddenly exceeded that of Zhejiang Province Average.

Le Jia felt that he had found the direction of his life, and making money by just talking was the most suitable thing for him.

Since then, Lejia has tried his best to show women that he has a sharp tongue, and has received support from many female friends, who even open their hearts to him no matter what.

This Le Jia was born prematurely. If she catches this good time, "Lipstick Brother" will definitely have nothing to do with Li Jiaqi.

In his first year of work, Lejia won the first place in the annual sales list of Zhejiang Avon Company.

He also took the time to go to Ningbo Radio and Television University to get a new diploma, and a new life was right in front of him.

That year, in Lejia’s own words, it was because of her outstanding performance that she attracted the attention of Avon’s Shanghai headquarters, and the headquarters decided to let her He came to Shanghai Avon Training Department to be a tutor.

Teach others how to sell cosmetics.

Without any hesitation, Le Jia set off for Shanghai upon receiving the notice, escaping from her mother's clutches. His mother had been strict with Lejia since he was a child, and would whip him with a belt buckle if he disobeyed her. This time, she finally couldn't.

In 1994, 19-year-old Le Jia became the youngest direct sales trainer at Avon.

On the podium, Le Jia has twice the energy of others. In addition, she is tall and has a loud voice. Although she is young, she is particularly powerful.

And I also gained a group of fans selling cosmetics, one sister on the left and one on the right.

But the good times did not last long. A year later, the president of the company who admired him was fired due to internal strife in the group.

Le Jia, who was in the wrong team, was also ostracized and rarely had the chance to step onto the podium again. Since there was no performance stage, Lejia was very painful and chose to leave.

However, as the old saying goes, every loss has its own gain. Although he was frustrated at work, Lejia was extremely proud of his love life. At the age of 20, he was about to become a father.

03

"I had a son when I was 20 years old."

What Le Jia said is true. In 1995, Lejia met an expert, a training teacher from Taiwan.

Lejia followed this teacher and studied two courses: one called "The Potential of Life" and the other called "How to Set Goals in Life."

With these two new skills, Lejia became prosperous in a new training company. People who come to listen to his training, from ordinary people to wealthy ladies, all like to chat with him.

No, feelings came out as we chatted. Le Jia met a wealthy daughter. The two fell in love with each other and were both very impulsive. They were planning to get married soon.

But the girl’s parents didn’t like him at all. They thought Le Jia was a hooligan and not only looked down on him but also despised him. If the girl had not become pregnant before marriage, they would never have agreed to the marriage.

Obviously, married life is not satisfactory. Le Jia was frustrated in front of this family. He felt that even if he worked hard all his life, he could not earn a fraction of the money her father had in his pocket.

Helplessly, the two were forced to divorce. Lejia was hit hard as a result.

He hates, he wants to curse his wife's parents in the most vicious words; he hates, he hates these people who dislike the poor and love the rich, they are just snobbish.

So Lejia made up his mind to make money. It coincides with the ribbon-cutting and opening ceremony of Amway, the world's largest "marketing company", in China.

Without thinking, Lejia plunged into the "direct selling army" that was booming across the country at that time. Regardless of whether direct selling is good or bad, it is true that Le Jia has talent. In two years, he toured the country doing more than 200 promotions and formed a team of 10,000 people.

It stands to reason that Lejia is no longer short of money at this time. But in the interview, he said that 1998 was the most difficult time for him, and he only had 40 yuan to spend a week.

It doesn’t matter which one is true or false, because Lejia has decided not to engage in direct selling and is preparing to start a business with her friends.

But everyone who is familiar with Lejia knows that he is a domineering person, and those who work with him always have no good results. The company only opens After a few months, they broke up unhappy.

Le Jia could only work alone and opened a speech company of his own. He no longer wants to teach others to sell things, he wants to teach others to speak.

Mr. Le Jia said, you see, the president of the United States often gives speeches, but our leaders are still reading from scripts.

But you can’t start a company just by talking, you also need to have a brain. There are definitely not as many people who want to learn to speak as they want to learn to make money by selling things. It can be said that there are very few people and there is no market at all. Lejia could only think of other ways.

In 2001, Le Jia founded the "Chinese Character Color Research Center". The inspiration came from a lecture he accidentally learned from a lecture on behavioral psychology. , Lejia doesn’t understand psychology, but thinks it can be done.

Whether it is plagiarism or reference, Le Jia is definitely not the first person to connect character and color.

But he had a good mouth and accumulated a large number of fans.

From 2001 to 2008, Lejia transformed into an "expert" and specially designed an image for himself: bald head + matching earrings on his left ear .

In normal times, there are indeed not many people like this. He just made his "debut" and took the world with his own theory.

Le Jia calls himself "the evangelist of character color" and also wrote a book "Knowing People with Color Eyes", nicknamed "The Sex Demon".

"In 2008, I have reached my peak."

Although Lejia himself thinks so, he The rich girl's ex-wife pushed him again.

His ex-wife introduced a program producer to Le Jia, who forcibly created his peak into a "myth."

04

Maybe Feng Xiaogang’s movies inspired someone.

In 2009, Jiangsu Satellite TV finalized a dating program with the same name as the movie, called "If You Are the One."

After much thought, Chief Producer Wang Gang realized that a show with so many women still needs two men to hold the show.

He found Meng Fei, who was already somewhat famous at the time, to be the host, but he still lacked a partner.

Wang Gang originally imagined that Meng Fei would be responsible for the opening, and this partner would be responsible for the closing.

He should be responsible for the last step of boys choosing girls. It is best to create some conflicts. It is best to be a newcomer. It would be better if he could understand more psychology.

By coincidence, a friend of Le Jia’s ex-wife’s friend happened to know Wang Gang and knew that he was looking for someone, so he told her about it.

Although Le Jia doesn’t want to see his ex-wife and her family, after all, there is a son in the middle, and he and his ex-wife are in daily contact, and friends around him are also happy to see them. People's stories, that's how it happened.

In January 2010, "If You Are the One" was launched on Jiangsu Satellite TV. The combination of two bald heads is already unusual. One is calm and restrained, and the other has a sharp tongue.

More importantly, each of the 24 female guests is more awesome than the last.

Just saying "I prefer to cry in a BMW" was enough to make chief producer Wang Gang wake up from his dream with a smile. "If You Are the One" became a hit at an unprecedented speed.

People all over the country know that there is a program about finding a partner, which is very interesting.

Meng Fei and Le Jia also became popular. Old ladies on the streets can recognize these two bald heads at a glance.

Especially this big guy who is full of muscles, hits the nail on the head, and reaches the sky in one step, which is impressive.

But the viewers in front of the TV didn’t know that this man called himself a “character evangelist,” let alone that he had more than 10,000 people in direct sales at his peak. team.

Everyone only knows that this person really has a way of talking about men and women. He is not an "emotional expert", but he must be a "gold medal mentor".

I had a strong sense of immersion. I felt more anxious than the guests themselves. I shed tears easily during the show.

But this person also has problems, he is very impulsive.

After the show, he went to a food stall with his team for a drink. When he was drunk, he would lie on all fours, crying and hugging people's laps when he saw them.

He does not restrain himself on the show, and often speaks out and makes his own decisions.

He once said that two female guests who were athletes were sexually hungry.

She also told the male guest: "If you can do more than 50 push-ups on the spot, she will go with you!"

But at that time, the female guest didn't like the male guest at all. In the end, Meng Fei came to mediate and explained to the male guest that it was just Le Jia's wishful thinking and not on behalf of the female guest.

However, this does not prevent the audience from liking him.

When Le Jia attended the event, dozens of security guards surrounded him. Thousands of fans screamed, flashing lights continued, and roses were everywhere. When the fans saw him, they wanted to Hug him, and some people bought 20 of his books in one go.

Everywhere you go, you are treated like a celebrity.

But Lejia said: "I am very disgusted with others saying that I am from the entertainment industry."

But these words It makes people feel uncomfortable to hear it. It's obvious that "If You Are the One" created a TV star, but he still doesn't admit it.

What is even more irritating is that Le Jia increasingly regards "If You Are the One" as her own performance stage, performing roaring and aggressive scenes at every turn.

Some people are already dissatisfied with him, and conflicts are about to break out.

05

Speaking of which, if someone secretly "Shoot", we have no way of knowing.

On the bright side, only the two bald heads Le Jia and Meng Fei can be seen, and the smell of gunpowder is getting stronger and stronger.

In fact, when "If You Are the One" first aired, Le Jia and Meng Fei had a good relationship and had sold sex. The two said ambiguously: "We only have each other's bald heads." You can touch it."

But the facts cannot fool people. Lejia used the excuse of damaged vocal cords to appear in "If You Are the One" After one month of "disappearance", the conflict is destined to break out.

The most severe fight they had was when they had a quarrel with a certain male guest No. 5 during the recording. The quarrel was so intense that they rushed out of the studio with red faces.

But there is no way to verify whether there was a fight backstage.

Later, Meng Fei posted this on Weibo: "Pay attention to the people around you, and you will find that the so-called sharpness often means being mean-tongued, and the so-called sharpness often means being uneducated. .

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Lejia did not show weakness, and followed up by posting on Weibo: "There are people in the world who slander me, bully me, humiliate me, belittle me, lie to me and belittle me. How should I deal with it? Shide smiled and said: Just tolerate him, let him be, be patient, respect him and ignore him. In a few years, you can see him. ”

One day in January 2013, Le Jia came home from the studio after recording the show. He turned on his mobile phone and played only one song in a loop. "hurt", he said that he had listened to this song at least 400 times.

Five months later, Le Jia officially left the popular "If You Are the One"

When he left, Le Jia was full of confidence. He felt that with his current reputation and influence, leaving "If You Are the One" would be as easy as divorcing him.

As a man who has been married three times, Le Jia is not afraid at all. After all, someone new will appear after divorce.

But this time, he is. Wrong.

06

“You can’t drink on the show, and neither can the contestants. I know how to drink. If drinking affects a player's performance, who will bear the consequences? " Lu Yu persuaded him nicely.

"Shut up, don't talk! " Le Jia, who had drunk too much, said angrily.

This is the scene in the third season of "Super Speaker" where Lu Yu and Le Jia were fighting each other. The scene was full of gunpowder. < /p>

But these two people were not like this before

Le Jia often said that Lu Yu was the object of his admiration. Every word spoke to his heart. But when this feeling of admiration arose, Le Jia would touch Lu Yu's little hand excitedly and affectionately.

That day, Lu Yu left the scene angrily, and Jin Xing also said that he was scared to death by Le Jia.

This was 2015. Because of this "drinking incident", Le Jia was implicitly banned and his career plummeted. No TV station dared to invite him to do any programs.

Speaking of which, this was all his own "suicide".

After leaving "If You Are the One", Le Jia's career actually improved instead of declining, and she also hosted CCTV's "Chief Night Talk" in place of Sa Beining.

Opposite Cui Jian. Talk about it, Le Jia is not afraid at all. 20 years ago, Le Jia was a fan of Cui Jian. Every time he took a cold shower in his dormitory, he would sing "Nothing" to resist nothingness. p> Le Jia asked Cui Jian as soon as he came up: "Do you like me?" "

Cui Jian replied sincerely: "I like it. Because you are the host who speaks human words. "

At the end of that visit, Lejia felt satisfied. His career was in full swing and he had children.

He felt His popularity is already on par with Cui Jian, the godfather of rock music, and his era is about to come.

Except for one thing, Le Jia's academic qualifications were falsified by Fang Zhouzi.

“Armstrong University in the United States, which awarded Lejia a degree, is a pheasant school registered in California in 1996 by a Chinese named Wang. Selling diplomas in China is now closed. ”

Lejia was not afraid and explained that she was in Shanghai to participate in a one-and-a-half-year college-to-undergraduate course sponsored by the school and a domestic joint education institution. The total tuition was 35,000 yuan, and she got the scholarship. A bachelor's degree.

Moreover, Lejia has always promoted his education as a technical secondary school degree, which is beyond reproach. However, as an expert, especially a psychology expert, there is no academic support. He still has something to say to others.

Especially since he cannot control his own energy, it is even more difficult to believe that he can teach others how to manage his character.

In 2014, Le Jia hosted "Mr. Super" and got angry with Ning Jing. Even the audience felt that the anger was really inexplicable.

Le Jia's emotions were very intense, and in the end, Xie Na came to the rescue.

Speaking of Xie Na, in this show, Le Jia once tried to forcefully kiss Xie Na, which also offended many fans.

“Disgusting”, “liar”, and “crazy”. Ever since Le Jia let himself go, more and more people have scolded him on Weibo.

But the more others scolded her, the more popular Le Jia felt.

His offline speeches and book signings have also become more popular.

Le Jia’s speech has already touched upon the University of Cambridge, and the offline signings have included “getting on the table and stepping on the stool” sessions from time to time, with some swear words being exposed from time to time.

I don’t know why, but every time he curses "I X" and "Go to XX", there will be cheers and applause below.

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Not to mention, not only Le Jia’s fans like to watch this scene, but the producers of TV shows also like it. There are not many people who can take the initiative to create hot spots for TV shows.

But the "Super Speaker" program team never expected that the instructor they invited would be so extraordinary

On the day of the recording, Le Jia. He took out a bottle of 53-proof liquor to encourage the contestant. He didn’t drink too much, but he got drunk first and went crazy on the stage. The instructor Lu Yu shut up and was furious, and also scolded Dou Wentao, who came to dissuade him.

Afterwards, Le Jia posted on Weibo and asked netizens, "Do you know how much I drink? ".

Perhaps the only person who can compare with this tough-talking operation is Zheng Shuang.

Of course, The fate of the two was similar. "Liberation Daily" published an article criticizing Le Jia.

Le Jia resigned. No matter whether he is banned or banned, in short, it is difficult to see this once prosperous bald man on TV again.

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Le Jia became famous all over the country. The golden host quickly fell to the bottom, but in just five years, he became famous in his youth and his middle-aged building collapsed. > The 46-year-old Le Jia returned to his old profession and started giving speeches and training.

But those who have watched Le Jia’s performances are not impressed by his personality. The theory is no longer believed. People cannot expect a person who cannot even manage his own character to teach others to manage their character. This is worse than being blocked. An even more unbearable blow.

Around 2010, Le Jia vowed:

In 10 years, I will write 20 character-driven monographs. , when I put it in front of everyone, I can completely shut up many people who think I can’t write anything.

Now that 10 years have passed, Le Jia has not done anything. It can shut them up, but it has become a joke in the eyes of experts.

A photo of Le Jia giving a speech on the street was leaked, and people lamented that they did not expect Le Jia to be in such a miserable state. < /p>

Actually, this photo is not a recent photo, but a hot scene of him signing autographs on the street at his peak.

One photo, different situations. , in the eyes of others, they are two completely different lives.

This is the inevitable fate of Le Jia who fell from the altar.

Success is determined by character, and failure is determined by character.

However, this has always been the case in the entertainment industry. When a person is shaped into a myth, he is a god and is sought after by everyone; when a person is down and down as a joke, he may not even be as good as an ordinary person, and anyone can step on him.

Le Jia once said in an interview: "I am actually very fragile inside, very timid, and very afraid of being hit. Sometimes when I am hit, I will collapse and cry several times at home. God."

I wonder if the 46-year-old Le Jia would go home and cry when she saw the few students in the audience, and then think about her character. Did you create your own destiny, or did your destiny affect your character?