Are you a stupid young man? A second-rate young man? Ordinary youth or artistic youth?

(01)

There was a boy who had been secretly in love with a beautiful girl for a long time, and finally had the opportunity to take a walk together.

While walking, a cold wind came, and the girl said: It’s so cold.

Cold? The boy finally found a chance to express himself: Have you heard a joke? A man and a woman were walking, and the girl said it was cold. After hearing this, the cheap young man jumped on the spot and said: If you jump like me, you won't feel cold anymore. After hearing this, ordinary young people would take off their own clothes and put them on the girl. After hearing this, the literary young man would untie his clothes and hold the girl in his arms.

Click, click, click, the girl was amused.

After laughing, the girl said quietly: There was also a silly young man who told a joke.

(02)

Are you a stupid young man? A second-rate young man? Ordinary youth or artistic youth?

Come on, let’s reconstruct the scene and test it according to this routine:

(03)

Let’s say you work on a skyscraper.

You are on level 5. The boss is on the 10th floor.

One day you walk into the elevator and look, hey, the greasy boss has come in too.

——So how should you press the elevator button at this time?

(04)

If you are thinking:

You are a bad boss, you should spend more time getting to know your employees, care about them, and understand the company's business on the one hand. On the one hand, you should establish a sincere and people-friendly image, find ways to use your brain to run the company well, and make Lao Zhi earn as much money as possible. Only then can you live up to Lao Zhi's expectations of you and be a good boss.

Then you will click on the 5th floor you want to go to. Then he looked sideways at the boss: What, I came to this shabby company like yours to work, not to serve others. I won’t even look at your face and flatter you. Are you going to bite me?

Of course the boss can't bite you.

But the boss will remember you:

——You are an authentic foolish young man and the worst employee.

——You don’t know the human heart and human nature. Thinking that you are the center of the world, making up ideas out of thin air, and wanting others to revolve around you.

——Your name will soon appear on the list of HR department conversations.

——You must understand that the boss is also a human being, with all the flaws and advantages of human nature.

——You think you are the center of the world, and your boss thinks so too.

——And the boss can ask for it.

You can't.

(05)

The stupid young man is out. You, who works on the 5th floor, walked into the elevator again and pressed the 5th floor button with a snap.

Hey, the boss is here too.

Quickly, you clicked again and pressed the 10th floor button. And looked at the boss eagerly: Boss, I am not a fool. I go to work not only to do things, but also to seek personal career development. So I study human nature hard and know that you like to be flattered the most. Now that I am flattering you, do you feel good about it?

Guess what the boss is thinking?

The boss thought to himself: Hey, yes, you are not a fool, but you are a second-rate person!

——You are a useless employee, is your time as valuable as my big boss? Why are you so ignorant when you let me waste time on the floor you should be on?

Don’t you know that the boss’s time is more important than the employees’ time? I won’t give it to you if I get the chance in the future!

——You are a third-class employee with no future and may be destined to be inactive for the rest of your life. This type of employee has the largest number, and their characteristic is that they don't like to touch their breasts... No, they don't like to use their brains, and they are not used to thinking from other people's perspective.

...Hey, why is this boss so difficult to serve?

It’s not that the boss is difficult to maintain, but that the idiot is too cute and stupid. Just like in the previous story, the girl said she was cold and you were jumping around on the ground. You didn't understand the implication at all. Even if you were half-dead, you wouldn't get the slightest chance.

You have to treat your boss as a cute girl and understand the twists and turns in his heart, so that you can easily turn him upside down.

(06)

Having learned the lessons of fools and idiots, you begin to consider your boss’s needs.

When I entered the elevator, I saw, wow, great, the boss happens to be here.

Hurry up and press the elevator button on the 10th floor for your boss. Don't press the 5th floor you want to go to. After sending the chairman to the 10th floor, go down to the 5th floor. Then the porcelain fan looked at the boss and said in his heart: Boss, come and see, I put you first, my flattery is creative. Praise me, come and praise me.

Boss Rango was shocked: Hey, look at this thing, does it mean that only my boss’s time is important, but your employees’ time is not? Don’t forget that you are my boss’s resource. What you are wasting is not your time, but my boss’s.

——You are an ordinary young man, a second-class employee.

——Ordinary employees think about problems in a hurry, seemingly thinking about their bosses, but in fact they embarrass their bosses. How can you leak out the business secrets that the boss likes to flatter... right? This type of employee is focused on the head but not the bottom, only focuses on the details without caring about the overall situation, and only looks at the surface but not the essence.

——So it is difficult to be responsible for oneself, and I don’t know how to be responsible for the company.

——Just like the young man who heard a girl complain about being cold while walking, he took off his clothes and put them on the girl. You freeze your girl to death, but you don’t understand her heart at all, and you fail to meet her needs. Do you deserve to be eliminated?

- Therefore, even if ordinary young people achieve success in their careers in the future, they will still face hardships and hardships, and they may not achieve much.

(07)

It is said that you have explored human nature layer by layer and finally penetrated the little ninety-nine in the boss's heart.

So you walked into the elevator and greeted your boss happily: Boss, boss, are you still taking the elevator yourself? It's so touching.

The boss was so angry that he rolled his eyes and watched you press the 10th floor button with a snap.

Don't click on the 5th floor you should go to.

The boss said to himself: Huh, another guy who only knows how to flatter but wastes his time.

It would be strange if I didn’t notify the Human Resources Department and deduct your bonus.

The elevator buzzed past the 5th floor and continued towards the 10th floor.

At this time, you smiled and pressed level 5 with a snap.

——Send the boss up first and come back immediately without any delay.

The boss was shocked at that time.

——Literary young man, I finally met you.

——You are the one who takes off your clothes and wraps the girl in your arms.

——You are the one who takes off the belt and pushes the boss down.

——You save the boss’s time and don’t waste your own time.

——You are a witty person. You only think a little more than ordinary employees, but just this little bit reflects your characteristic of thinking about both the boss and yourself. This kind of person can do things comprehensively and thoughtfully.

——The boss believes that literary and artistic young people can penetrate the appearance and get straight to the essence. Able to take into account the interests of all parties, act prudently, and have a sense of the overall situation. Such employees will stand out in any environment because they see one step further than others.

(08)

In fact, you can see these four cognitive types we are talking about in ancient literature every day:

The first level of perceptual thinking : Looking at mountains is not mountains, looking at water is not water.

Only live in your own subjective knowledge.

The second level of rational thinking: mountains are mountains and water is water.

Only see the static world, only the appearance. If you think that appearances are everything and act based on appearances, you will often get nothing and end up angry to death. Sister, you obviously said it was cold, but I took you to jump and exercise, what's wrong? You actually fell into the arms of others?

The third level of human thinking: looking at mountains is not mountains, looking at water is not water.

Ordinary young people know that things have roots and things have their final outcome. But I don’t know that the fundamental nature of human nature is not fixed and will change according to your actions. For example, if a girl says she is cold when you are walking, if you rush towards her and hug her, she will scream and call you a pervert. So you have to undress her - but ordinary young people don't realize that undressing her will stimulate new needs in girls and make people think you don't know your style.

You must cultivate to the highest level of understanding and thinking, and see mountains as mountains and water as water.

At this time, my mind is calm and everything I see is moving.

Taking a walk with my girl, the wind flags didn’t move, but my girl’s heart beat, so I said it was cold. After undressing her, the girl's heart moved again. She longed for the amorous feelings and held her in her arms to warm her. More needs from girls arise. As long as you act according to human needs, you can hear the girl's intoxicating voice: ...don't...stop...don't...stop...don't stop. This is the simple and natural human scenery.

Human concepts are gaseous and changing all the time.

Don’t be the one who suffers the consequences of change, strive to be the one who promotes change.

(09)

If you know the tricks of human nature, you can freely manipulate the world.

——Leave a few routine questions for everyone:

Question: Can a husband or wife snoop into each other's privacy and look at each other's mobile phones?

Follow this routine to analyze and train yourself to become familiar with human nature. You will be the one who knocks down the boss and takes away any girl.

(10)

The human heart moves according to the situation.

Continuously restructure needs based on self-centeredness.

Everyone is a girl, looking forward to the cuteness and stupidity, and moving forward with the guidance.

Everyone is a sensitive musical instrument. As long as you strum according to the beat, beautiful rhythms will be played.

If done correctly, none of your requests will be rejected. These methods have even become routines, but because no one tells you the principles, we will burn them after reading them:

The most difficult thing for people is that they always think in a self-centered way. As long as we patiently learn to make every sentence center on the other person and put the other person as the subject, then you will become a widely popular person.

People who take half a second to see through the essence of things, and people who spend a lifetime unable to see clearly the essence of things, are destined to have different fates. In fact, everyone has this ability, the difference is whether they are willing to do it or not. Starting from the perspective of human nature, it is easiest to achieve the four major goals of psychology: description, prediction, explanation and change. To change others, you must first change yourself. To change yourself, you must first learn to know yourself. To know yourself, you must first learn to dismantle yourself. And this process is much simpler than imagined. The most important thing is that we are willing to improve ourselves and gain the wisdom that goes with happiness.

Confucius said:

There are two simplest things in the world, one is to spend other people's money, and the other is to detract from other people's value. But things that are truly in line with the original intention of kindness are quite difficult.

However, doing difficult and kind things will make your life worth living. If you do easy things to slander others, you will get worse and worse and become a scumbag.

Therefore, curiosity must be used in the right place. We must learn to respect the privacy of others, be curious about things, and be kind to people. This will make you a noble person and the most responsible attitude toward yourself in life.