They all say, "Run to get married and fall in love." But in the end, not many couples got married.

Marriage represents stability. Only when the hearts of two people are stable before marriage are they qualified to get married. If not, getting married is also a mistake. Soon, there will be smoke everywhere and the chickens and dogs will be restless.

Sometimes we clearly feel that our love is rock-solid and indestructible, but it often falls apart over a small thing. Such a blow comes too quickly, and the damage will inevitably be greater. It can even make a person who is originally carefree become depressed in an instant.

When we are young, we may want to experience a few more relationships and wait until we have enough fun before getting married. There is nothing wrong with this idea. What is wrong is that you are afraid that you will never have enough fun, or that you will never be able to calm down after having enough fun, and you will still live in the right and wrong of the past.

01.

29-year-old Zhao Wei and 26-year-old Li Juan have known each other for two years, but it has only been 3 months since they established a romantic relationship. At the beginning, they both said It is: "I came here to get married, and I hope to cherish it." In other words, their love relationship was a decision made after careful consideration.

She is older and has thought everything through before getting together. Li Juan said: "Both of us can't stand the trouble anymore, and we can't afford to waste time. If it's not suitable, we won't start. Let's start." I hope to live a lifetime.”

Since we both have the idea of ??getting married, I think we should cherish each other more. But just last month, Li Juan discovered that Zhao Wei owed 100,000 yuan without telling her. Zhao Wei said that this debt was It happened before the relationship was established. I didn't tell her because I wanted to pay it off quietly by myself and didn't want Li Juan to worry too much.

However, Li Juan didn't think so. She felt that Zhao Wei was unreliable and untrustworthy, so she immediately broke up with him. No matter how Zhao Wei apologized and guaranteed, Li Juan remained indifferent.

Zhao Wei could not sleep at night because of his mistakes, and often cried in the middle of the night. Because he really doesn't want to lose Li Juan and this hard-won relationship.

02.

The conflict lasted for several days. One evening Li Juan called Zhao Wei and asked him to come over.

Zhao Wei saw Li Juan drinking and crying alone at home, and he didn't know how to stop her. At this time, Li Juan told the truth. She said: "I can't forget my ex, and I still think about my ex." She cried heartbrokenly as she said it. Zhao Wei was so distressed and sad at the time. He was sad for his own life. The relationship may have come to an end.

It turns out that before Zhao Wei, Li Juan had a boyfriend who was more handsome than Zhao Wei. They got along for two years and broke up three years ago. However, the reason for the breakup was said to be the strong opposition of Li Juan's parents.

At that time, Li Juan, who was in her early 20s, had to listen to her parents, and she was confused.

03.

Zhao Wei said that when they first established their relationship, he didn’t know how her ex contacted her. After saying something, Li Juan He scolded his ex and threw away and burned all the gifts he had kept for many years.

Zhao Wei thought that if Li Juan behaved like this, she must have completely broken off with her ex, and there would be no relationship between them.

However, Zhao Wei forgot. The relationship between them when they were around 20 years old is the most unforgettable. They broke up because of their parents' opposition, not because of the breakdown of their relationship. Three years after the breakup, the sudden appearance of her ex brought her memory back to the age when she was ignorant about feelings, and all the good things occupied her heart.

As the saying goes: "Love is as deep as hate is." There is as much hate as there is love. It took three years for Li Juan to burn all the gifts left to her by her predecessor. Such an action is incredible. , or it’s another kind of love.

She wants to forget, but she is powerless. As long as her ex gently touches her heart, she can fall.

04.

The two people have known each other for two years and finally established a romantic relationship. One thing that can be proved is that they did not fall in love with each other at first sight. It can also be said that although they are talking about marriage, there is not much love between them, and the foundation of their relationship is very weak.

Even if there is no such thing as Zhao Wei's debt, other small things can still pierce their feelings, just like a swaddled baby, which is very weak and cannot withstand the slightest harm.

We definitely want a long-lasting marriage, but without a solid foundation of love, blindly getting married is a joke, a big joke.

It doesn’t matter if you are older. If you haven’t met the right person, you shouldn’t marry casually. Marrying for the sake of marriage is the beginning of human tragedy.

05.

After Li Juan proposed breaking up, Zhao Wei used various methods to coax her, hoping that Li Juan would change her mind, even if he humbled himself into dust. Emotions are not coaxed. They are adults, not three-year-old children. They will be ecstatic when given a candy and forget their sorrows.

When feelings are out of balance and the only way to achieve balance is through coaxing, the situation is already in jeopardy.

Relationships require mutual understanding, mutual respect, and mutual trust, and marriage requires them even more. Without these, the relationship between two people is an empty shell, without vitality, and it is impossible to bring happiness!

Feelings are unlike other things, you can get them if you work hard. Emotions are wonderful things. Love is love, and if you don't love, you don't love. The feeling in your heart will not change easily.

If you can't forget your ex, it means your heart has not settled down and you have not completely let go of your past emotional experiences. How can you devote yourself wholeheartedly to a new relationship when you still have someone else in your heart?

Being half-hearted is no different from stepping on two boats.

If you are unfortunate enough to marry such a person, there will be no happiness at all, only torture.