If my husband doesn't listen to me, how can I make him listen to me?

First, the magic weapon to make her husband obedient-"kind words"

When Clinton was elected president of the United States, he said to Hillary: Dear, because of me, you have become the wife of the President of the United States.

Hillary is also welcome: honey, because of me, you have become the president of the United States.

It is not difficult to imagine that the taste in Lao Ke's heart at that time must be not sweet. Hillary made a typical "smart moment" mistake-her husband is her own, and the result of hitting him at last is still very painful in her heart. Perhaps Hillary contributed a lot to Dick's successful election as president, but what did the husband and wife fight for? Even if Dick loses, it won't be Hillary, but Lewinsky.

A clever wife should not only train her husband to behave properly at home, but also make him "obedient" to some extent. The focus of this contradiction is, is he unconsciously willing or consciously resisting that part? And all this depends on his wife's language art.

There may be soldiers who don't want to be generals, but there are no men who don't want to be heroes. Do well is better than say well. My husband's vanity and face are like his life. The wife shows weakness appropriately, and regards praise anytime and anywhere as the material for flirting and communication between husband and wife, in exchange for not only her husband's meekness, but also your good mood. Although my wife always puts on a look of "husband, you are great", she is infatuated, and this gesture is meaningless to the old couple above Stephen Chow. But your husband is your investment stock for the rest of your life. You don't appreciate his goodness or praise him. If he is praised by other women, you will lose more than you gain. As long as you are willing to find an opportunity to compliment your husband, you can find it at any time. You might as well praise your husband as a spice in your life. If you want your husband to be obedient, you must first learn to talk to your wife. Maybe 10 minutes is better than ten years' work.

When a husband makes a mistake, his mistake may also be a good opportunity to increase your emotional communication, as long as you can treat it with tolerance and respond with love.

When doing something wrong, you might as well make a fuss about words, so that the shadow in his heart will disappear because of your wise and humorous words.

Husband's face was satisfied, his confidence was encouraged and his strength was improved. The wife's wisdom has been displayed, and her position in her husband's mind has been strengthened and consolidated.

Criticize your husband with sweet words

[Scene 1]

Wang Xiaoyi will go home soon, and her husband Li Sheng is sweating in the kitchen, scrambling to deal with the scene. Originally, I wanted to take advantage of my good mood to treat my wife who works hard and does housework on weekdays. I didn't expect to read the newspaper and cook the rice. Let your wife go home and watch jokes. If she satirizes you, you are looking for trouble. I wonder what his wife will think of him.

Wang Xiaoyi entered the house on time, smelled a burning smell, and saw her husband standing aside like a child who had done something wrong. She immediately understood what had happened. She stepped forward to gently help her husband put down the kitchen utensils, and couldn't help laughing and said, "It doesn't matter if the rice is burnt. We just went out for a romantic couple meal. Is your husband good to you? "

Li Sheng quickly stood at attention: "Yes, yes!" The couple dressed up and went out to enjoy a romantic dinner like a couple.

People who make mistakes need to understand first, not blame. If Wang Xiaoyi is not considerate of her husband, but satirizes her husband indiscriminately and says, "You are so useless that you can't even do such a simple thing as cooking well", maybe the small incident will escalate into a big war immediately.

In the face of her husband's unintentional mistakes, the wife must not "make trouble without reason and hit Reservoir Dogs", otherwise it will only make her husband angry from embarrassment. If he doesn't realize that he is wrong, if his wife can control her emotions, he will say in a negotiated tone, "It might be better if it isn't like this, don't you think?"

2. Hint at your husband with sweet words

[Scene 2]

Lao Wang and his wife went to the mall to buy a sofa. Lao Wang took a fancy to a white leather sofa, which is beautiful and expensive. The salesgirl was so eloquent that Lao Wang was elated and couldn't wait to pay at once. But Lao Wang's wife thought the price was too high to accept, so she said to Lao Wang, "Honey, you really have a good eye, but you have to wear such a light color every day." If you are singular, I will count. My husband will definitely be in trouble. Shall we look at something else? "

Hearing this, Lao Wang had a second thought. "Yes, my wife is considerate. Make up your mind. "

Lao Wang's wife didn't say, Lao Wang, you are stupid. Expensive and easy to get dirty. What's so good about it? No brains. Her words were completely accepted by her husband. She gave Lao Wang face and Lao Wang paid her back.

The proposal is an equal dialogue and easy to accept. Men are not always right, and they don't always keep a cool, rational, comprehensive and objective mind. They need advice, but not orders. Men's rebellious mentality is naive, and "wooing" rather than "suppressing" will make the relationship between husband and wife more positive.

3. please your husband with humorous words

[Scene 3]

Young and impatient, Xiao Min accidentally blurted out a sentence that offended her husband's dignity. She immediately realized that she was wrong and quickly posted a smirk: "Dear, I'm sorry, Grandma Wolf is possessed. Please be angry and help me scare it away. "

Xiao Min's husband was about to get angry when he heard the last sentence that offended him. At this time, he heard Xiao Min's humorous nonsense and couldn't help blaming him: "Smelly girl, be careful of your little head."

[Scene 4]

One day, Xiao Min and her husband inspected their newly decorated house together. The new house was decorated by Xiao Min's husband. Xiao Min's husband feels good about himself and just wants to wait for Xiao Min's praise. However, Xiao Min pays attention to arrangement and pays attention to every detail. One minute she said that this place was a little rough, and the next she said that the place should not be designed like that, and she didn't notice the expression of her husband next to her. Finally, her husband couldn't help saying, "You are too picky!"

Xiao Min was shocked for a moment. Her husband, who has been very kind to her, even said she was picky. She was about to contradict her husband. Seeing her husband's apologetic eyes, she realized that maybe she had gone too far, so she said in a calm tone, "If I wasn't picky, how could I have married you in the first place?"

But this is a naive trick of "mending after the sheep dies" and should not be commonly used. Also pay attention to, try not to use negative concluding remarks, for example, you are a muddling along person, always blindly confident, and don't know how to be down to earth. In addition, it is also very important not to "implicate nine families" in the process of speaking. For example, you are as unreasonable as your mother, so-and-so is unlucky because you don't listen to advice. Both languages are very hurtful. If you have something to say, if you are emotional and can't say it well, don't say it yet.

A talking wife will not commit suicide in marriage, nor will she kill love in every way, nor will she lose herself in marriage. Therefore, they all have an obedient husband, although this husband is king inside and out. Talking women have subverted the traditional "men dominate outside and women dominate inside", and their theory is "men dominate outside and women dominate inside". The direct result of this theory is that their husbands are more and more like Li Shimin assisted by Wei Zhi, and their marriage life is just like the prosperous Tang Dynasty.

The same meaning, without artistic treatment, the result is very different.

Classic replay clip of family sitcom1-"boss" wife and "employee" husband.

Classic dialogue:

Dave: Honey, are you back from work? After hard work, the meal will be ready soon.

Wife: Oh, great. What did you do?

F: Braised pork ribs.

Wife: Oh, what else?

F: Rice.

Wife: Nothing else?

Husband: ...

Wife: Can't you make a green vegetable to go with it? How greasy the ribs are! They only know how to eat meat, farmers! Look at this kitchen. Just like a Japanese tornado crossing the border.

Husband: ...

Plot analysis: There are thousands of common mistakes made by "employee" husbands, such as not knowing much about nutrition when cooking; Make the home hygiene in a mess, don't know to take the initiative to clean up; Washing dishes is not clean; Clothes are not sorted, aired and ironed; Don't put the used things back; I don't know how to shop around for gifts. Expensive and bad. Forget the anniversary, lack of romantic expression. ...

But the "boss" wife has only one reaction: anger. According to different personality, it can be divided into two basic types: sigh type and lion roar type.

An employee who is always found fault with his boss will resign because he feels hopeless in the future, and a husband who is always criticized by his wife will be disappointed and sad because he is frustrated in love. No one wants to be blamed all day, especially those closest to him.

Conclusion: The boss is definitely the person who cares most about the company's life and death. If you want your husband to keep the initiative in building a marriage at all times, you must let him keep the feeling of "my master ups and downs" in the family.

Classic replay clip of family sitcom1-"Mommy" wife and "Baby" husband.

Classic dialogue:

Dave: Honey, are you back from work? After hard work, the meal will be ready soon.

Wife: Hey, don't worry, go and rest.

Dave: Never mind, I'm almost ready.

Wife: Really, don't worry. You go to rest and I'll do it. You can't do it well What a mess this kitchen is!

Husband: ...

Wife: Go ahead, go ahead, and don't worry about these things in the future.

Husband: ...

Plot analysis: the "baby" husband is completely fixed in the position of the child by the "mommy" wife, and he is taken care of in every possible way, thus losing the opportunity of "growth", because "mommy" feels that it is his bounden duty to take care of him, and "the child" always makes things worse and worse, and not helping is more like adding chaos.

The so-called spirit of participating in the Olympic Games is really a family philosophy. Keeping her husband out of anything, on the surface, will reassure him. In the short term, he will feel very happy, but after a long time, he will gradually find out in his habits that there is nothing belonging to him in this family. He found a conscientious nanny around him, just like when he was a child, he went back to his mother and reached out to eat.

Conclusion: When he is weak, he really needs his wife to play the role of mother, but in daily life, he doesn't need two mothers. Good advice: follow your wife's advice and make your own decisions.

Obedience is a love-hate problem. Obviously it is love, but it is easy for couples to fall into an "abnormal relationship." For example, because of obedience, husbands are more like "sons" or "employees" or even "slaves". In fact, it is very simple to change this state, that is, let him follow his wife's advice and make his own decisions. Although it seems to be just a formality, he is like a supervisor who just signs, but the problem is that his wife will be as comfortable as a lovely secretary. It is not entirely unreasonable for the secretary to call it honey.

Let my husband be a centralized king and give full play to his male instinct. The husband can do everything by himself, because the wife can listen to politics and make some suggestions appropriately. Give him more opportunities to contribute to his family, and he will love his family as much as his country.