How to start physical contact with girls

Directory segment 1: Break down the barrier 1 and make sure the other party doesn't resent your touch. 2, first gentle and casual contact. 3. The contact time is longer. Part two: Be a gentleman. 1. When living together, seize the opportunity and break down the physical barriers in a gentleman. 2. Help her with her coat. Step 3 lend a helping hand. 4. Hold hands. 5. The "ladies first" trick. 6. lead the way. Part III: Make good use of excuses 1. Clean up anything that sticks to her face or hair. 2. Compliment her jewelry or newly made nails. 3. Keep her warm. 4, may wish to be frivolous. 5. Make a bold attack. 6. Pay attention to whether she is not interested. Part IV: Physical contact 1 and dancing during activities. 2. Skating. 3. Play tennis. 4. Any exercise that requires you to hold her from behind. The fifth part: avoid the minefield 1, if you don't like it, you will be surprised. Don't arrest her. How to break the physical barrier with the person you like? It is difficult to know when to attack and when to retreat. If you have a crush on someone and she has a crush on you, then you should start to break the physical contact with this paper and skillfully increase the physical contact between the two people. So, how can we make physical contact with her smoothly without sending the wrong message? Read on and you will know.

Parts 1: Break down barriers

1. Make sure the other person doesn't resent your touch. Before having physical contact with her, you must ensure that your behavior will not cause the other person's disgust. If she also likes you, she will unconsciously stand closer to you, instead of standing up like a hedgehog when you appear; If she likes you, she will gradually show that she likes being with you. Did she make eye contact with you? Did she smile at you or even laugh at you? Are you happy together? If the answer to all the above questions is "yes", it proves that you have a chance. You can also refer to the following suggestions to see if she can accept physical contact between you: if she likes you, she can either look at you all the time or look away as soon as she makes eye contact. Both of these signals may indicate her affection for you. If you happen to see her and you find that she has been looking at you, even if she turns to look away at once, it proves that she likes you. If she walks away soon, maybe she likes you but is too nervous.

Tip: Try to understand her personality. If she is outgoing and friendly, she is unlikely to feel disgusted or surprised after physical contact. If she is shy and conservative, you should make a more accurate judgment before taking any action.

2, first gentle and casual contact. Rub her gently with your arm, put your hand on her back, or simply hand her a pen or a notebook, and then touch it. Will she react too much and immediately withdraw her hand, just like touching a red-hot pot, or will she not refuse your contact or even give you a smile? If she gives you a positive response, it is that she also wants you to break the barrier between them. Be casual and friendly at the first contact and see how she reacts. How romantic is not required for the first time.

3. The contact time is longer. If the casual contact mentioned above works well, you can try to extend the contact time next time. When you take her out, put your hand gently on his back for about a few seconds. For example, if you want to hand her a piece of chewing gum, your hand can stay 1-2 seconds longer. If your foot touches under the table, don't take it back at once. Stay under the table for a while. This step can warm her up a little to adapt to this intimate and long-term contact. In this way, you will see more and more girls who like physical contact.

Part two: Be a gentleman.

1, when living together, the gentleman seized the opportunity to break the physical barrier. Use gentlemanly manners and help as a cover to give yourself an excuse for physical contact. But you have to make sure that she accepts this so-called gentlemanly demeanor and won't think you are too old-fashioned Be her knight and escort her. If you have a good impression on the other person, once you start a formal date, or just like dating, you should find opportunities to become a real gentleman and make physical contact with her.

2. Help her with her coat. If you are about to leave the room, and she needs to put on a coat or overcoat, you need to politely hold the coat for her so that she can get dressed smoothly. During the whole process, your knuckles may brush her gently. If she has a positive reaction to this and you notice that her hair is caught between her coat and her back, you can carefully pull it out for her. Whether you invite her home or go to a restaurant for dinner, you can help her take off her coat at the beginning of the date.

Step 3 lend a helping hand. This method is especially useful when she needs to keep her balance, such as getting on and off the bus, or crossing a puddle, or walking through any other uneven place. Girls like this, because this behavior shows that you really care about her, not just yourself. If she dresses up or wears high heels that day, the effect will be more obvious. Again, make sure she agrees with your help. Don't lose points because she thinks you look down on her and that she needs help in everything.

4. Hold hands. This gesture implies inviting her to hold your hand, especially when you are going for a walk together. It is one of the most classic tricks for two people to walk together like this. It will not be too emotional or romantic. This trick is best used after a date with a good atmosphere, when both parties feel that the evening is very enjoyable. Walking together after dinner, movies or other activities is an excellent way to express good feelings. If you haven't tried this method before, you'd better try to avoid walking in crowded places to avoid bumping into acquaintances. Choose a private place.

5. The "ladies first" trick. Open the door for her and let her go first when you pass the door, corridor or crowd. A good and safe way is to gently put your hand on her waist (you can also put your hand anywhere on her back and gently guide her forward. If both sides are not disgusted, you can also put your hands down to your hips). When going out or passing through the corridor, say "you go first". In addition, you can also gently push the back of her arm, above the elbow (especially if she wears short sleeves), or gently and carefully push her shoulder. Although it is polite to let a girl go first, don't have big physical contact every time you let her go first, or she will start to think that you are acting so reasonable just to touch her, but this is not the case.

6. lead the way. If you want to pass through many people, reach out and let her hold you, so that you won't get separated in the crowd. This not only shows that you care about her, but also shows that you can take responsibility. After passing through the crowd, you can't let go, if she is willing to continue to hold you. For many girls, holding hands is a big deal. If she doesn't like you holding hands in this situation, don't be depressed. Maybe she prefers to hold hands after becoming your girlfriend, especially in public.

Part III: Make good use of excuses

1. Sweep away anything that sticks to her face or hair. Occasionally we will see eyelashes on other people's faces, especially on their cheeks. When you see her eyelashes fall on your face, you should say to her, "Don't move. You have an eyelash on your face. I'll take it off for you. " Then gently take off your eyelashes. Don't push too hard, especially when she wears makeup. It's the same if she accidentally sticks hairballs or dust to her hair. Of course, you can't stare at her face all night for eyelashes. If you happen to see it, it's best.

You can also tell a little lie. Pretend there's something in her hair, but it's not. Break through your physical contact barrier in this way.

Don't help her take away the food that accidentally sticks to her face. Just say, "wait a minute, there is a grain of rice on your face."

2. Compliment her jewelry or newly made nails. Did she change her ring, get a new haircut, or paint her nails in a different color? Compliment with words ("What a beautiful ring" or "Has your nail polish changed color?" )。 Hold out your hand, palms up, and ask her if she can take a closer look. Find anything different, ask her questions, or make positive comments. If she wears a pair of beautiful earrings, you can hold them in your hand and tell her they are beautiful. But this can only be tried after physical contact-after all, touching the cheek is a very intimate action. When you do these things, feel the reaction when she puts her hand on yours. After she responds to your comments or questions, gently rub her hand with her thumb and then put it down. Keep smiling and move quickly, but be careful not to look too obscene.

3. Keep her warm. If it is cold and you notice that she is cold or shivering, put your coat on her. Think about how comfortable she would be. You can gently rub her upper arm with your hand to generate a little heat. If you find her hands are cold, tell her to give them to you and put them together. Then put your hand around her hand and rub it gently, so that her hand will warm up soon. If you are bolder, you can put her hand in front of your mouth and breathe gently into her hand. But make sure you are not breathing.

4, may wish to be frivolous. If you are joking with the other person, it is ok to nudge, flap your arm or touch the other person's shoulder vaguely. If you are flirting with each other, you will naturally touch each other, but this touch should be two-way. Maybe she moved you more in the end. If the atmosphere at that time was relaxed, loving and ambiguous, such physical contact was possible. The premise of frivolity is that you are both active. If you find that only you are touching each other, and she basically has no interaction, then don't touch your ass with a hot face.

5. Make a bold attack. If she responds positively to all the above behaviors, she will move on to the next step (otherwise she may be trapped in a "friend relationship" forever). You can hug her shoulder or waist, or hold her hand. The back of the neck and waist are also sensitive areas.

6. Pay attention to whether she is not interested. If she doesn't respond positively to these behaviors, she should give in and converge appropriately. It doesn't necessarily mean that she doesn't like you. She may just be in a bad mood or a little tired. However, if you try more than once and get the same response, then she probably just doesn't want you to touch her.

Part 4: Physical contact in activities

1, dance. Any dance with a partner, such as salsa, tango or swing dance, is a good way to break through the physical contact barrier. But remember, just because she seems to like dancing with you doesn't necessarily mean she likes you outside the dance floor. However, this is undoubtedly a good start.

2. Skating. Skating is a good activity for casual physical contact. If she is not familiar with skating skills, you can hold her hand to prevent her from falling, or you can help each other slide backwards. In a cold environment, you will also have a chance to hug her or put your coat on her to keep her warm.

3. Play tennis. Make her your doubles partner. Then there will be many opportunities for you to clap your hands to celebrate, or pat her naughty after playing well. After the game, you can gently touch her shoulder or back and say "well played". But you should know that when playing or after the game, she may be very concerned about her sweat and don't want you to touch her.

4. Any exercise that requires you to hold her from behind. For example, riding a motorcycle together, taking the subway or sledding, skydiving in series and so on. If you can play golf, you can also go to the mini golf course with her. There are many exercises that can enhance your intimacy!

Part V: Avoiding Minefields

1, don't be surprised if there is no happiness. Don't approach her silently for no reason, and then pat her on the shoulder for no reason. But if she tells you that her shoulder is sore, she has to rub it, or even let you massage her directly, that's another situation. But if you don't know where to jump out and say you want to massage her, or rub her shoulders when you are alone, it's easy to send the wrong signal to the other party. When giving her a massage, if she is more nervous than relaxed, it is because you have gone too far.

Don't arrest her. Don't grab any part of her arm and drag her with you. This kind of behavior is annoying at best and hard to pull at worst. Generally speaking, any kind of dragging or pulling behavior can be interpreted as immature or pushy. Just kidding, pushing and pulling are two different things. Teasing and pushing are pulling the other person in the direction you want to go, and pulling hard is violence and rudeness.

Tip: Be brave. Higher confidence = better response.

Try to keep your hands clean and dry. If she smells like you cut onions hours ago, that's not good. If you always get your hands wet and cold, be sure to carry a Zhang Qian tissue with you and dry your hands before touching her. Avoid cold hands, because it will make her cold. If this happens, try telling a joke, which can help you break the ice.

Whenever you want to touch her, be gentle and considerate. A cunning way is to ask for a hug when you say goodbye, or rub your hands next to her. If she doesn't like it, you will know.

Some people don't like physical contact, especially on the first date. Take your time, or your relationship will end before it starts.

Some girls will feel uncomfortable about physical contact before you reach a certain relationship. If you really want to see her again, you should relax and push slowly, or you will scare her away.

If you make an untimely joke that is enough to make her clap your arm and make her laugh, you can trick her into touching you. However, this practice is risky, and if you meet sensitive people, you will get into trouble. Try this method and be prepared to take risks.

If it's not a date, you can touch her hand or arm when she says something interesting. If she responds well, you can touch her leg or hold her hand for a while.

If she is bored or uninterested, even the slightest "physical contact" will be rejected. Keep a relaxed conversation and make sure you are all happy.

Teasing a girl's side looks childish. However, for girls who are already friends, it is best to do it again, not casually.

If you are not sure whether she is ready to have physical contact with you, or you don't know how to be sure, try to observe how her other friends get along with her and how she responds. Going out with her friends (including her, of course) can help you get the corresponding impression: what will she look like when she is ready, and then you can use it. If she starts to treat you like a friend, it probably means that she is ready (or maybe you have been included in a circle of friends, so decide for yourself at your own risk).

If you are her friend, and she goes on a date in high heels, lend her your arm and let her lean on it for a while.

If you meet her for the first time, try to shake her hand first. Shaking hands will make both parties get used to this kind of physical contact.

It should be noted that some people are very enthusiastic about their friends. A girl may hug you just to be friendly, but you may think too much.

Different cultures have different degrees of acceptance of physical contact. In Korea, holding hands is a big event, and hugging or kissing in public is usually considered unacceptable. However, it is natural to do the same thing in Latin America. In Bulgaria, hugging girls when they say goodbye is as normal as shaking hands elsewhere. Understand the cultural background and respond accordingly.

Don't cross her personal distance, it will only scare her away.

If she rubs the part you just touched, it probably means that she thinks you are dirty or too rude. For example, if you touch her arm jokingly, and then she scratches, rubs or rubs that part, then be careful. Either she thinks you are dirty or she is not interested in you. If you think it's just a coincidence that she did that, maybe you can try again, but if the girl does it again and again, it's time to slow down.

If after some form of physical contact, she says that she needs to go or use the bathroom, it may mean that she doesn't like or feel uncomfortable. Sometimes, she may be shy after physical contact with you, so you must confirm what she thinks in order to continue to have more sensitive physical contact.

Don't go too far Some girls will be bored or even rude to excessive gentleman behavior!

If she has no interest in physical contact, don't rush it.

When you don't touch her for safety and respect, but wait for her to touch you first, you are likely to end up as friends, which is hard to escape. For many people, a big difference between "friendship" and "intimacy" is the way they touch each other physically. There are many platonic ways to make physical contact with others. Learn to read body language. If you see her body language or expression telling you to back off, you should respect her boundaries and her feelings and stop further physical contact.

If you are still in her circle of friends, don't contact her too enthusiastically. She will feel uncomfortable. At this time, it is basically impossible for her to like you or even let you hold hands.