After seven years of divorce, I met my ex-husband again. He told me: Don’t be too obedient a woman. What do you think?

My ex-husband and I are free to fall in love and get married. When we got married, I was 24 and he was 25. My view on marriage and love at that time: It doesn’t matter if two people are comfortable together.

But in the third year of marriage, I began to feel that my ex-husband was timid and was mainly interested in making money.

I told my ex-husband during this period that it was difficult to be obedient. Every time, he would choose to endure.

It wasn’t until I married a wealthy divorced man who was more than ten years older than me and insisted on divorcing my ex-husband that my ex-husband said to me: In the past few years, no one likes me if I don’t feel wronged. But, I feel married to you. In order to maintain the integrity of the marriage, I will tolerate and tolerate you; now, you are divorcing me for another man, so after the divorce, it is best for us to stay away from each other until death.

Although I was the wrong party, when we divorced, my ex-husband only took away our one-year-old child and told me that no matter what happens in the future, I should not use the child as an excuse to have sex with him. Get involved.

In fact, after we divorced, my ex-husband hacked all my contact information.

And because, after divorcing my ex-husband, I fell into the arms of my current husband, so I don’t feel lost.

Suddenly, my ex-husband and I have been divorced for ten years. In the past ten years, the relationship between my husband and I has been very weak. During this period, my husband had an extramarital affair. I did not choose to divorce and the marriage continued.

I ran into my ex-husband on the street a few days ago and wanted to take care of him, but he gave me the word "I'm sorry" without mercy, and then I walked away. At that moment, I was actually quite disappointed: the man who once thought only of me is now very nice to me, MoMo. Ten years later, I met my ex-husband, the man who used to treat me wholeheartedly, and now he treats me very well, MoMo.

If in a relationship, the gain is more pain, then it is time to consider whether this relationship should be let go, because most of the sadness comes from the lover's constant neglect of his feelings. Emotion is not that the more you give, the more you have, but that you find someone who is rare for you, or you are a rare person who knows how to be grateful.

What are the five bottom lines that men and women should adhere to? 1. Refuse to be the other party’s mistress.

When a person has a girlfriend or boyfriend, even if you like each other again, please suppress the relationship and don't speak; when a person has a family, even if you like each other again, please choose Stay away, otherwise, it will be difficult to humiliate yourself for the other person; when one person is heterosexual and you are gay, please do not try to make the other person Baiwan, because you should respect the friendship and do not make the other person embarrassed and painful, and do not make the other person embarrassed and miserable because of you A reckless confession leaves the other person without friends. Remember, true love is not about intervening in the other person's love, nor about destroying other people's marriages, nor about making others feel embarrassed to help you, but about accepting the other person in a relatively simple state.

Second, don’t stick your hot face to your cold butt for a long time.

Everyone has the right to love. When you meet someone you like, you must chase him. In the pursuit of love, there is one thing that needs to be understood. You can exercise your right to love, and others can exercise their right to say no. In a relationship, if you often feel that your face is hot but your butt is cold, then this relationship should end as soon as possible, because the other person's momo is not because the other person is busy, but because he loves you not as much as you love him. For a secret love, the longer you hold it, the more pain it will cause you. Sometimes, love should be bearable and let go. Don't feel too sorry for those who don't love you.

Third, don’t lose yourself for love.

No matter what you do at work or in front of the people you love, learn to say no. The so-called rejection here is not Momo or lack of responsibility, but when the other party's request touches your bottom line. Love requires giving and giving, but it also has its own bottom line. Remember: everyone is a mean bunch. Being too nice to someone often creates a kind of laziness. One day, you reject the other person for some trivial matter, and he will blame you.

Therefore, starting from communication, you must learn to say ‘no’ to things that make you unhappy or difficult. Only in this way can you make the other person feel that everything you do for him is not 'natural'. Only by knowing how to say no can you win more respect for yourself.

Fourth, you can play dumb but refuse to be humiliated.

When two people are together, it is inevitable that they will meet by chance because of some trivial matters in life. In this case, the reason why they choose to remain silent is because they don't want trivial quarrels to hurt their feelings, because playing dumb is also a form of love. However, when men and women are dating, don't be too smart or too calculating, otherwise, your cleverness will hurt your lover's heart. The reason why we can tolerate each other's shortcomings is because love is support. However, when pretending to be stupid is considered true by our lover, and we are often wronged, love may fade away. Therefore, the premise of love is to occasionally take care of the other person's emotions, and don't use your so-called shrewdness to trample on the other person's tolerance, otherwise, the love will be over.

5. Do not accept the other party’s repeated deception.

Truth is often cruel, lies are often beautiful, but lies are always exposed. After a lie is exposed, those who do not hurt others may be moved, while those who hurt others may feel chilled. Therefore, it is best to be honest with each other and not be too deceptive or too trustworthy, otherwise it will only make the other party think that you are an unreliable person. Because of this, human nature is the most important thing in human interaction. People who often lie will not have such good human nature. So, when faced with a person who lies repeatedly, please choose to exit as soon as possible. Although it is difficult to quit a love that requires a lot of investment, if you don't quit in time, you will get more pain.