What should I do if I am as thin as hell? So much so that I feel very inferior and annoyed in crowded situations, and I am not good at talking, and I have a particularly introverted personality.

Introverts should live a relaxed life, especially when they are in adversity, they should learn to be detached. As the saying goes, "there is a long way to go", they should see the bright side of life and make themselves carefree and complacent.

be polite to others

if you treat others with courtesy, others will treat you with courtesy, that is, "take care of your heart", which will help relieve mental tension. Sometimes, a "thank you", a smile or a passing courtesy can make you feel welcome. Remember, the attitude of others towards you reflects your self-image to some extent.

Believe in yourself

The confidence mentioned here is not arrogance or self-righteousness, but learning self-control. There is a passage that says, "If I don't depend on myself, who do I depend on?"? If I only think about myself, who am I? If I don't want to now, when will I stay? " If you only expect others to do things well, or wait for others to do things well, you may be in a passive position, and you may also become a victim of the environment. Therefore, to do anything, we must first believe in ourselves, rely on ourselves, and don't pin our hopes on others, otherwise we will miss the opportunity, produce frustration and aggravate mental tension.

Make a quick decision

Sticking to a hopeless goal will increase psychological pressure and mental tension for yourself and the people around you. Once a smart person intends to complete a task, he should immediately make a decision and put it into action. When he finds that his decision is wrong, he should immediately find another way. Indecision will aggravate the mental burden.

learn how to live

The road of life will never be too smooth. Establishing friendship with people around you can increase support and help from the outside world, thus reducing mental stress. Don't be afraid to expand your social influence, which will help you find new channels to deal with emergencies.

strengthen communication

establish good interpersonal relationships to help you succeed in your career and reduce your frustration, which is very important for maintaining a good competitive state. We don't need friends who only teach people "listen, you should do this". What we need is friends who encourage us to think creatively and can support us on the road to success. Listening to others' opinions with an open mind and being good at arranging time are one of the important ways to improve interpersonal relationships.

Challenge impossible tasks to make yourself confident

Why do introverts look less confident than extroverts? Because compared with extroverts, introverts tend to shrink back from something, and they are unwilling to challenge seemingly impossible tasks. They just like to immerse themselves in their own spiritual world and can't keep up with the changes of the outside world. However, if introverts want to have the ability to succeed, make themselves more confident and reach their expected heights, they should have the courage to challenge difficulties.

there is a famous saying in the west: "one's thoughts determine one's fate." If you don't dare to challenge the difficult work, you can only draw the ground as a prison, and finally turn your unlimited potential into limited achievements and you can't be promoted. If you want to make your performance by going up one flight of stairs, if you want to climb to the highest point of your career, then please work with a challenging heart.

The Brookings Institution of the United States is famous for cultivating outstanding salesmen in the world. It has a tradition to design an internship that best reflects the strength of salespeople when each student graduates, so that the students can complete it. During Clinton's administration, the society introduced a topic: Please sell a pair of briefs to the current president.

in the past eight years, countless students have racked their brains for this, and finally they all failed. After Clinton left office, the society changed the topic to: Please sell an axe to President Bush. Moreover, the Brookings Institution promised that whoever could do it would give him a golden boot engraved with the greatest salesman. Many students have no confidence in this, and even think that the current president lacks everything, and even if he lacks it, he doesn't need to buy it himself. It is impossible to sell the axe to the president.

However, a salesman named george herbert did it. The salesman thinks it is entirely possible to sell an axe to President Bush, because President Bush has a farm in Texas with many trees.

george herbert wrote a letter to George W. Bush with confidence. The letter said: On one occasion, I was lucky enough to visit your farm and found that there were many Japanese chrysanthemum trees, some of which had died and the wood had become soft. I think you must need a small axe, but judging from your current physique, it is obviously too light, so you need an old axe that is not very sharp. Now I have one here, which was left by my grandfather and is very suitable for cutting down dead trees ...

Later, George received a remittance of $15 from President Bush and got a golden boot engraved with the greatest salesman.

Are you an introvert who is cautious and afraid of the unknown? We should understand that only by bravely challenging the "impossible" task can we find the power of self-confidence.

The same is true at work. Most introverts think that if they want to keep their jobs, they must keep their positions steady. For those difficult things, it is better to stay away. In fact, if you always let this kind of workplace cowardice fill your mind, you are doomed to only engage in some low-level mediocre jobs forever.

When describing his ideal employee, a boss said, "The talents we urgently need are people with enterprising spirit and the courage to challenge the' impossible' job." Therefore, the "workplace warrior" who dares to challenge the "impossible" work and the "workplace coward" who strives for stability in everything have completely different positions in the boss's mind.

in the dictionary of successful people, the word "impossible" has never existed. In their eyes, the more impossible it is to do something successful, the more likely it is to succeed. Because only dare to challenge those tasks that others can't complete, can you really stand out and become a real "workplace hero".

Lucy hosts entertainment programs in a TV station. In her second year of work, the director suddenly gave her a task. It turned out that Lucy was in charge of this New Year's Day program. Lucy has always been conscientious as a host, but she is an introverted person who only does her own work and never pays attention to her colleagues. Co-ordination is a big housekeeper's job, which is not high in level but of great importance. It is necessary to maintain the relationship between advertisers and select qualified suppliers. Lucy was worried that she was not qualified for the overall planning work, so she repeatedly told the director: "My experience is not enough, and I am afraid I am not qualified for the overall planning work of the New Year's Day party."

As a result, the director had to be seconded from the news department to be the host of the New Year's Day issue. By the end of the year, the director's year-end evaluation of Lucy was "average working ability, and I have never seen Lucy do an impressive project". Later, every major project, the director will replace Lucy with someone else.

If introverts want to achieve something in their work, they must change this timid mentality. Everyone's potential is very great. The more you believe in yourself, the more work you can accomplish and the better you will do.

Challenge seemingly impossible tasks to satisfy your self-confidence, which is also a way to express yourself. In the real world dominated by extroverts, it is beneficial for introverts to show this confidence through moderate flexibility.

Introverts pay more attention to perfection than anyone else

Pursuing perfection is a normal desire of human beings, but perfection is only an ideal state and does not exist in real life. Because the birth of the word "perfection" in real life was originally accompanied by defects, there is no such thing as perfection in the world. If you blindly wrap the cocoon of pursuing perfection in your body layer by layer, then you will eventually be planted on this heavy bondage.

both introverts and extroverts will pursue perfection to varying degrees. It can be said that it may be a hidden goal in everyone's heart to make things perfect, but introverts are more likely to be tempted by perfection than extroverts. They will preset a goal that is close to or even perfect in their hearts, and then spare no effort to move toward this goal. In the process of pursuing the goal, "perfection" has become a heavy burden that must be carried in life. However, this goal is difficult to achieve. The great pressure of longing for success and the sense of frustration after failure make introverts less confident. Therefore, in the journey of life, introverts should never carry the burden of "perfection" on the road, otherwise you will always fall into the contradiction that cannot be extricated.

Introverts are often perfectionists because they pay attention to their inner world. The advantage of this kind of examination is that introverts know themselves better, and the disadvantage is that they set higher goals for their own development and have high standards and strict requirements for the planning of things. Once they pay too much attention to perfection, introverts lead themselves into a dead end, because the harsh demands on things bring them great pressure and keep them in anxiety and doubt.

British Prime Minister Winston Churchill famously said: Perfectionism equals paralysis. It brilliantly expounds the harm of perfectionists.

In a distant city, an old man came. The old man knew at a glance that he was a traveler from far away. He was carrying a worn-out baggage, his face was covered with wind and frost, and his shoes were torn several times because of long-term walking.

Although the old man looks embarrassed, he has a pair of bright eyes. Whether walking or lying down, he always observes people coming and going carefully and intently.

The old man's appearance and eyes combined into a very inconsistent picture, which attracted many people's attention. People whispered: This is not an ordinary traveler, he must be a special seeker.

But what is the old man looking for?

Some curious young people couldn't help asking him, "What are you looking for?"

The old man said, "When I was your age, I vowed to find a perfect woman and marry her. So I started looking from my hometown, city after city, village after village, but I haven't found a perfect woman until now. "

"how long have you been looking for it?" A young man asked.

"I've been looking for it for more than sixty years." The old man said.

"haven't you found the perfect woman for more than 6 years? What if there is no perfect woman in this world? Then you can't find death? "

"yes! There is really a perfect woman in this world, and I found it thirty years ago. " The old man said categorically.

"Then, why don't you marry her?"

"In the early morning thirty years ago, I really met the most perfect woman. Her body exuded extraordinary brilliance, just like a fairy descending from heaven. She was gentle and considerate, delicate and considerate, kind and pure, innocent and solemn, and she ..."

The old man said, sinking into deep memories.

The young man was even more anxious: "Then, why don't you marry her?"

The old man shed tears sadly: "I proposed to her at once, but she refused to marry me."

"why? Why? "

"because, because she is also looking for the most perfect man in the world!" "

Many people in life, like this old man, have been looking for the perfect partner, a perfect job and a perfect life all their lives, and then the days have flown by like a blink of an eye in this search. Perfection is a pagoda in your heart. You can yearn for it, shape it and praise it in your heart, but you must not regard it as a reality, which will only make you fall into an unavoidable contradiction.

indeed, it is a good thing to pursue perfection and do everything well, but it will make you paralyzed in life. To some extent, waiting for perfection is actually a kind of inertia. In fact, when a person sets some perfect standards for himself, it already means that he will not try anything, because it can only be implemented when it is perfect. If it is not perfect, of course, it will not be implemented. People can't be perfect, but they need to constantly pursue and accept perfection. However, in the pursuit process, people need to get out of the perfect misunderstanding, be kind to others, be kind to themselves, realize their strengths and weaknesses, and not go to extremes, so as to get a relaxed and happy day.

Introverts must know that there are no perfect people and things in this world. Pursuing perfection blindly will not only make them bear great pressure at all times, but also make them impossible to get the approval of the people around them. In the long run, it will only make them lose confidence.