Have you ever blamed your parents for something?

I did it. In fact, we must have had differences and quarrels with our parents in our lives, and even had a big fight. I think this is normal, after all, there will definitely be a generation gap between the two generations, we will have a rebellious period, and our parents will also go through menopause.

Making trouble and making noise are small things. Under normal circumstances, parents should not be blamed. But there is one thing I can't get over, even after two or three years, even if it's not me.

After realizing her husband's emotional violence and pua, my sister thought for a long time and decided to divorce them privately to reduce the harm to parents and children. But the man disagreed and told his parents about it overnight. The elders who don't know the inside story are naturally persuaded. My sister is tough and unwilling to make up, and the man is still pretending to be a husband. Seeing that the elders were over-understanding, my sister told my mother the reason, but she didn't fully believe it, and even suspected that my sister had two hearts in marriage.

I also helped persuade my mother not to interfere in my sister's marriage, but she always put on an experienced person's appearance and stood in the man's position to make her understand and forgive. Sister is naturally disappointed. Her mother is inconsiderate of her daughter. She thinks she is an outsider. One night, she really quarreled, but in a rage, she picked up a knife and cut her hand. Luckily, we stopped her. She is so impulsive, this is the first time I have seen her. After dressing the wound, my mother still couldn't stop and continued to nag in my sister's ear. My sister told me that it was her most disappointed and wronged moment.

Later, my sister wanted to go out to work and stay away from this environment. After staying indoors for a few days, my mother called her and said she was ill, because my mother got a tumor a few years ago and the doctor said there would be sequelae. My sister hurried home, only to find that her illness was false and her desire to stay at home was real. My mother said it was to prevent her from fooling around outside. Hearing this, my mother and I argued on the phone for a long time. She didn't seem to hear a word.

My 70-year-old mother actually understands the truth of freedom of marriage, and married life is not what she wants. Speaking of her uncle who helped her receive the bride price, she still has a grudge. Later, she opened her mind and thought about divorce herself, but for the sake of her children, she endured it for so many years. So when she persuaded her sister and brother-in-law to make up, she thought about the children and gave them a complete home. I felt sorry for them both.

What I still can't understand is why a mother is willing to let her daughter go through what she has suffered. Even if she loves her children, she should not let herself fall into the trap of others. I blame her for pretending to be sick and cheating her sister back, and I blame her for never looking at things from her sister's point of view.

Now my sister still can't get divorced, but because she lives in two places, she is a little free. As before, we still greet our families and each other. But the disappointment buried in my sister's heart and the complaints in my heart are estimated to take a long time to let go.

Finally, I hope you, a stranger, have a harmonious family relationship and a warm atmosphere. Good wishes!