How to skillfully resolve the embarrassing things in the workplace?

Many people are looking forward to this opportunity to get in close contact with workplace leaders, but many people are afraid.

Why are some people afraid?

It is because this kind of place often has a small space and needs to get along for a long time, so should I talk at this time? If you don't say it, you are particularly ignorant; Say, what if it's inappropriate to leave a bad impression?

In fact, this problem becomes a problem because you think too much like me.

In fact, nervousness does not make people feel comfortable, and it will not be understood as respect.

Imagine if he is the leader, he looks at you, he doesn't say anything, you blush and your temples start to sweat. He knows you're nervous. He was a subordinate, and he was nervous. What should he do with you at this time?

If the leader has a high emotional intelligence, he will take the initiative to find a topic to tell you, but he may not feel comfortable. At the same time, it will give people the impression that "this person is too nervous and embarrassed". Therefore, nervousness is not only bad for him, but also uncomfortable for you.

But you will say, "Then I can't help it. This is my personality. I get nervous when I see him. I can't change it! " But at this time, even if you are nervous, you should not be nervous.

Imagine a leader in private. What does he want? He actually wants everyone to think that he is easy-going. Because his easygoing is an emotional reward for him. Because he can form a reward mechanism for the brain through good idioms such as easygoing, approachable, polite and virtuous, he thinks it is right to do so.

There is only one exception, that is, your leader is an idiot. If your leader especially wants everyone to look at him with fear and awe, I advise you to turn around and leave, because such a leader is impossible to succeed.

There is a Russian novelist named Chekhov. He has a classic short story called The Death of a Small Civil Servant. So, how did this civil servant die? He died because he was too afraid of leadership. Sneezing and spitting the planetesimals on the bare skull of the general in front, he was scared to death, thinking about how uncomfortable it was. What happened? Scared to death!

Excessive tension is not good for health at all. Scenes brought by such typical characters often occur in our lives.

How to take the initiative to provoke a topic?

If you are sure that everyone's atmosphere is relaxed, what shall we talk about? In my opinion, this is called "talking about something"

China's word "some but not" is particularly magical. What does this mean? That is, it is neither "yes" nor "no" but "yes".

For example, what is it that the British want to say "some things don't"? The weather in London has never been so good, so whenever he points to the sky and curses, he is right.

What do people talk about in China? Talking about food. You said to the leader, "Leader, I recently found a chain store near our company that is really delicious. Try it when you have time! " This sentence, under any circumstances, can't go wrong.

If there is really nothing to talk about, you can praise the leader "You have lost weight recently!" "Do you care if he is thin or fat? Anyway, when you say "thin", you are expressing goodwill; Even if he is really fat, he said in his heart, "You lied to me, but you did it for my own good. "

Say "yes or no", is there a restricted area? Of course there is a restricted area! About what? Gossip is off limits! In the elevator, in the toilet, where I met unexpectedly, I took the initiative to stir up the topic. When you don't know which direction this topic will go, you must be cautious. Gossip is one of the most cautious things.

For example, talking about celebrity gossip, talking about colleagues gossip and listening to gossip, in my experience, this topic is often the most lethal, that is, in turn, to myself. Because you are involved in specific things, specific people, you can't judge what others think.

At the same time, we should pay attention to an unexpected encounter, and we can only talk about one topic at most, and we can't change the topic continuously. Before the leader answered your first topic, you suddenly wanted to say, "Hey, can I say something else?"

In three words, what he left you with the most impression was "chattering". This requires human observation, that is, sometimes, when you are not sure whether you are particularly good at talking, you'd better be a quiet flower and don't make mistakes.

Being nervous will not make the leader more comfortable, but may also make others more nervous. If you can make the other person not nervous when getting along with you through deliberate practice, it is an important performance to improve emotional intelligence. When you practice this trick, it's actually not so terrible whether it's the leader or who you meet unexpectedly.