How to make people happy?

Happiness is a magical thing. If you are willing to share, then one happiness will become n happiness. Many of the reasons mentioned in this article that Americans are happy and China people are unhappy are not blind worship of foreign things, but hope that we can learn from them and make ourselves happier and happier.

The Americans and China mentioned below refer to most people, not all:

Six reasons why Americans are happy:

1. Believe that "there is joy in suffering" In the United States, many people live on the dole, and even live on the streets for money, but they are happy all day. This is not a way to deceive themselves, but they believe that they can find happiness even under unfortunate circumstances.

2. Regard family and marriage as the greatest source of happiness. American couples often call each other "honey" (the word "honey" also means outstanding and pleasing), that is to say, conceptually, they have regarded other family members as the source of their own sweetness. They happily play "emotional appeal", buy a handful of flowers for their lover, have a masquerade party, have a candlelight dinner … and even have a slight overdraft.

The purpose of education is to make children happy to become qualified citizens. Americans don't want their children to succeed. Their greatest wish for their children is happiness and health. When educating children, children are usually given the same choice as adults. If the parents are wrong, apologize to the children; If the child doesn't want to do something, don't force it; Parents will respect their children's opinions when there is something to discuss.

4. Think that health is the greatest happiness. An international medical study on human life span in the 20th century shows that the average life span of Americans has been extended by 30 years. The study also pointed out that the American medical service system only extended the life expectancy of Americans by five years; Scientific and correct health education, active promotion of healthy lifestyle, various preventive strategies and public health measures serving the people are the reasons why Americans live an average of 25 years longer.

5. It is argued that wealth is the capital of happiness, not the burden of happiness. Americans don't like to spend money and time on eating and drinking, but on traveling and fitness; They are also keen on various social charity activities and enjoy the happiness gained from people's respect, gratitude and praise.

6. I think the purpose of work is to pursue happiness. The American saying about choosing a job is: "If you are unhappy, why do you want to do this job?" In their view, fame and happiness brought by career are two different things.

As to why China people are unhappy, there is a passage that goes like this: "When you are penniless, you are unhappy, and when you have money, you are unhappy;" Not happy when being bossed around, but still unhappy after being bossed around; When students are unhappy, they are not happy when they earn money by working; If you are unhappy at home, you will be equally unhappy after tossing abroad. In short, I am too tired to live. "

Reasons for Unhappiness in China In August 2005, Beijing Youth Daily published a survey report on the happiness index of citizens in Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou. Among them, there are four sets of data about the reasons for unhappiness:

1.6 1.8% is due to work factors, such as unsatisfactory income, too much work pressure, too little rest time, lack of sense of accomplishment, boring work, bleak future and disharmony in interpersonal relationships.

2.4% is related to family relations, such as not getting along well with family members, spending too little time with family members, unsatisfactory housing and low family income.

3. 12.8% comes from dissatisfaction with material life, such as wages, welfare, social security, housing, transportation and other consumer goods.

4.24.2% of the respondents indicated that they would not actively seek happiness or lacked effective methods to obtain happiness.

Learn from the West: Learn from Americans How to Be Happy In the best-selling books about happiness in the United States, we have collected many new ways to find and control happiness and listed them to share with you. I hope we can all learn something from them and find our own way to happiness.

Working article

1. Wear appropriate clothes. Open your closet and carefully sort all the clothes. Whether it's a big meeting or a birthday party, you should wear the most suitable clothes on different occasions.

2. Keep smiling. Smile often and people's mood will get better.

3. Pay attention to the division of labor. Be clear about your functional scope and specific work, and don't do the part that should be done by your work partner.

4. Eat on time. When it's time to eat, even if you don't feel hungry at all, at least eat a simple piece of ham bread, which is better for your stomach and helps to stabilize your mood.

5. communicate with the boss. Talk to your boss with a positive attitude and discuss how to make your work more prioritized, concise and efficient; Besides, it's no use complaining in private. What do you think? You can call a spade a spade. Even a temporary quarrel is better than a mountain of accumulated grievances.

6. Don't neglect cooperation. Find your good partner among colleagues, pay attention to teamwork, and work together is better.

7. Forget "perfectionism". Although you can't completely control your work, you can control your expectations. Put aside those perfectionist ideas and don't take yourself too seriously. What you need is reasonable arrangement and doing every step well.

8. Eat, drink and be merry. After work, invite friends to a new place to play; Plan your vacation carefully and record every wonderful detail with notes and cameras.

9. Extrusion time. Don't always say "no time" to yourself. Actually, you can be less busy. For example, even if there is a conference call at 9: 00 pm, you can spare half an hour to go for a drive before the meeting, spend 1 yuan to buy a newspaper, eat an ice cream on the roadside, and call a friend to talk about the weekend travel plan.

Relationship article

1. Kiss your lover once a day. Make an agreement with him: when either party is in a bad mood, give the other party a deep and long kiss when they go home. Studies have found that kissing has a good effect on calming mood and improving mood.

2. Share your holiday feelings with your family. Every time I come back from vacation, I discuss with my family about the bad food in the hotel, the bad bathroom on the train, the strangers and things I met on the way. Then take a break, go to a restaurant you often go to, pick a favorite food on weekdays and drink a little beer ... this constitutes a happy period in your life, which will be unforgettable even after many years.

3. Arrange 1 intimate date regularly, and make an intimate agreement with him: have sex on Sunday morning. Setting rules for sex seems to be a very disappointing thing. But in fact, when you really insist on doing this, you will find that whenever Sunday comes, you will unconsciously have fantasies and expectations, and people will become excited and relaxed.

In addition, there are some life details that you can notice and improve your relationship:

Don't let TV take up most of your time after work. It's best not to watch TV more than twice a week.

In your spare time not occupied by TV, you can cook a new dish for him to taste, or carefully cultivate several green plants that he also likes, and you can DIY some handicrafts and make some small changes at home.

6. Before going to bed, think back to what happened today that was interesting or made you happy and tell him.

7. Thoroughly clean your face before going to bed to make your skin fresh, which helps to relieve fatigue and improve your mood.

8. Using light-colored bedding can make people feel relaxed and happy.

9. Watch a comedy with him, laugh and hug each other and sleep.

10. Inviting his good friends to have dinner with you and getting along well with his friends can let you know your lover's recent situation from another angle.

Financial management articles

1. Live within your means and don't be controlled by material desires, otherwise you will struggle in the bottomless abyss for the rest of your life. If your expenditure is directly proportional to your income, or if you have a little savings, you will feel less stressed and people will be relatively relaxed and happy; Once there is a material demand that is out of balance with the normal income ratio, pain will follow.

2. Starting from a small savings, you always expect a large income to solve all the problems, which will only make you fidgety. You might as well save a small sum of money on weekdays, for example, from the day the child is born, you will keep 5%~ 10% of your monthly income in the same account every month, and only save it. Whenever you think that your child will get a considerable amount of education funds when he grows up, you will be proud of yourself, and this happiness will accompany you for most of your life.

3. Determine the value you value more.

Take choosing the right property as an example. My friend's house is twice as big as yours, with excellent huxing, half price, fresh air and quiet environment. It takes 1 hour to drive to work. Your house is small and compact, and you can see the bustling city. It's only a 40-minute drive from work, and it's not far from your child's school ... this comparison is endless and will never bear fruit. What you need to do is to force yourself to pick 1 among all the advantages about the house. More than two advantages may make you lose your mind, and the last 1 advantage is the source of your greatest happiness and satisfaction.

4. spend money in more meaningful places to update your concept: "it's not that I can't afford it, but that I spent my money in more meaningful places." The same is 1 0,000 yuan. Whether to buy a dream diamond ring or go sightseeing in Egypt is a matter of personal preference and can be understood. However, if you always think that "when we have money, we can buy a diamond ring and travel to Egypt, which is a great pleasure", then no matter which choice you make, you will not feel 100% happy with your choice, thus greatly reducing the real value of this 100 million yuan.

5. The more wages, the better. We usually think that the more salary, the better, but a classic survey in the United States shows that people whose annual income has risen from $50,000 to $6,543.8+0,000 are not happier than in the past 654.38+0 years after the salary increase.

Psychologists' explanation for this phenomenon is that people often ignore the fact that when the salary increases, people's desires also increase. When we have a healthy body, we do not expect ourselves to be healthier; When we have 1 happy families, we don't want to have two happy families; But for money-related substances, we always think that the more the better; Therefore, people often sacrifice their health, interpersonal relationship, family, love and inner peace in the constant pursuit and satisfaction of their material desires.

Habitual article

Dr Karen Sal Ma Song, the author of the American bestseller How to Be Happy, said: "There are so many uncertain factors in our life that you may be disturbed by sudden changes at any time. Instead of going with the flow, it is better to consciously cultivate some habits that make you happy and help yourself adjust your mood at any time. "

1. Take some photos every day. Psychologists suggest that people and things around you should be photographed with a camera every day, such as trees outside the window, flowers on the roadside, and weddings of children and friends in the neighborhood. Record these fragments that may be forgotten at any time. When you don't arrange photos regularly, you will feel that all the details are beautiful memories. If you have nothing to complain about, people will easily become happy.

2. Watch a sad movie. Watch a sad movie, such as when a man falls in love with a woman. When you can't control yourself, you might as well burst into tears and comfort yourself by saying, fortunately, this is just a movie plot, not real life, and your mood will be greatly improved. This is a method of reverse thinking, which is often used in psychology to help people think from different angles.

3. Daydream in the early morning on weekends. Many capable housewives will get up early on Saturday and do housework nonstop, such as cleaning the house and cleaning the toilet. This habit often makes people tired on Saturday night and affects their sleep on Sunday. Let's put aside those trivial chores for a while and have a beautiful daydream on the weekend morning. Don't blame yourself, but encourage yourself to say, "It's understandable that I worked so hard and wasted my rest time."

Write emails regularly and keep in touch with friends you have known for many years through emails regularly. People who have the habit of keeping a diary can reflect their subconscious mental state by scribbling or scribbling a few words on paper, and so can writing emails. E-mail your friends regularly and talk about your recent life, which can not only help you to let go of things in your heart, but also help you pick up that indifferent friendship.

Take a walk by the water.

Some studies have pointed out that people are naturally hydrophilic because they were exposed to amniotic fluid in infancy. Walking by the water can effectively help people relax. Even if there are more troubles, you can temporarily put aside everything and "steal" a moment of leisure for yourself in a tree-lined and flowing environment.

6. Eat a big meal once in a while

The beauty of eating a big meal is that you can not only enjoy the delicious food, but also make you feel treated with special courtesy. People will feel better unconsciously when they are taken care of differently from others. When we were young, we all had a similar experience: when your parents bought you a beautiful bowl different from other children, you would happily eat more food than usual, and even the food you didn't like became "cute".

7. Do 1 manicure every week. No one will be in a good mood when they see their long, dirty and ugly nails. Doing/kloc-0 manicure every week can not only make your nails look neater and more beautiful, but also give you a sense of satisfaction that everything is under control, and people will become suddenly enlightened.

8. Participate in group activities. Although being alone is also one of the ways to adjust your mood, don't be stingy with your rest time and give some to group activities. Climbing mountains, picnics, parties, karaoke bars ... encourage yourself to actively participate in group activities, and you will find the power to make yourself strong and peaceful in fun.

9. Frequent swimming is one of the most tiring exercises, but this tiring activity can make people get rid of their troubles and stretch their bodies and minds. It's not bad to choose a person to swim. Surrounded by water, even the worst mood can be softened.

10. Sing loudly while driving. When you are in a bad mood, turn on the radio in the car, turn up the volume, and sing loudly with the melody played inside, ignoring other people's strange eyes. Maybe you are a little silly in the eyes of others at this time, but it is really a good way to let people release their mood quickly.

1 1. Read novels while drinking coffee, choose a famous cafe, bring a novel that interests you most recently, choose a window seat, sit down and order a cup of coffee and watch it while drinking ... Yes, this is the "petty bourgeoisie" scene that often appears in movies. But what does it matter? Let yourself experience the romantic scenes only in movies, and you will be infected by the atmosphere and get real relaxation and enjoyment.

12. Send greeting cards to friends. Select the unique card 10~ 15 and carry it with you in your bag. When waiting for the bus, waiting in line to check out, waiting for someone, take out a piece of paper and write a few words, such as "I miss you", "I hope your mood is as bright as today's weather" and "Be sure to be happy". When all the cards are written and sent, you will smile sincerely when you think of the surprised faces of your friends when they receive them.

The other seven habits, might as well try it from now on-

13. Wear bright clothes every Monday morning.

14. Graffiti while talking on the phone.

15. Eat the most expensive cake or chocolate occasionally, and keep the price tag and box.

Singing while taking a shower.

17. Wear underwear that makes you feel most comfortable.

18. Regular nightlife.

19. Sprinkle some dried fruit on the yogurt.