Lin Qingxuan is joking.

Jonathan Lee once wrote a song called "The Man Who Race with Himself".

He sang it in a song? At that time, we were surrounded by a truckload of problems. I don't know that the meaning of success is to surpass ourselves.

When we are young, we are always used to comparing with others. We feel inferior when we see the excellent, and proud when we see the backward? . We always have a desire to win, thinking that success is to surpass others and do better than everyone else? Everyone is excellent.

When we grow up, we finally understand. There are people outside and there are mountains outside. It is foolish to always compare yourself with others, because everyone's background, growth and experience are different. There is no comparability at all.

In fact, the biggest enemy on the road to success is not others, but? Not good enough for yourself. Therefore, there is nothing to be proud of winning others. What are you most proud of? Constantly surpass yourself yesterday.

On the stage of the variety show The Reader, the founder of New Oriental Yu told such a story? ：

In order to get rid of the fate of staying in the countryside all my life and live up to my mother's expectations, Yu began to work hard at a very young age? Study hard. He gets up at six o'clock every morning until twelve o'clock in the evening, and he reads under the covers with a flashlight. His efforts did not fail in the end. After failing the college entrance examination twice in a row, I was finally admitted to Peking University with excellent results? .

I thought I could get into Peking University. What was that? The beginning of happiness. But Yu, who was born in the countryside, fell into it again? Mental pain.

Born in the countryside, he has little skill in literature and sports. Basically, the only sport you can learn is swimming. Compared with the versatility of his classmates around him, he felt an unprecedented sense of inferiority? .

Physical education class, the teacher teaches swimming. He jumped into the water and swam without saying anything. The teacher looked at him back and forth and smiled? He said, "I've never met anyone. Can a dog fly so fast? . "This may be just a joke of the teacher, but it is a shame for Yu, who was extremely sensitive at that time.

The day after he lived in the dormitory, he saw a roommate lying in bed reading a book called The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich? Books. Yu, who usually lacks reading literacy, foolishly thinks that this is a required course in college, and then asks her roommate in an authentic dialect? : Really? Do universities still have to read such books?

The roommate took the book away from his eyes and glanced at it. Did not respond to him.

I am determined to study harder when my self-esteem is seriously frustrated. He wants to get better grades than any of them so that he won't be looked down upon by others.

However, before he got the best grades, he was infected by overwork? Tuberculosis. After a year of rest in the hospital, I kept reflecting on myself and finally figured out two things? ：

First, it is meaningless to compare with others, because I almost lost my life for comparison? ;

Second, progress is your own, as long as you make your life progress continuously. As long as you work hard enough. Whether others are better or worse than you is none of your business. .

Knowing these two points, I finally unloaded my psychological burden and began to re-plan my life? . During the year of convalescence, he read a lot of his favorite books, which made him more awake? Life direction. It's also the feeling of this year, for him later? Success laid the foundation.

Hemingway said: "True nobility is not superior to others, but to oneself in the past."

There are many people in this world who are better than themselves, and there are also many people who are in a more difficult situation than themselves. Comparing up will only bring endless frustration, and comparing down will lead to false self-comfort, which is not correct.

Only people? Only by constantly surpassing ourselves can we continue to grow, and everything else is an illusion? .

Li Changyu is called "the first detective in China".

When many people introduced him, they all said that he was determined to be a criminal policeman since he was a child. But he himself clarified that it was false. At that time? He likes playing basketball and hopes to become a basketball star.

Although he was not tall as a child, he made a quick layup and grabbed the basket. His basketball coach said regretfully, what about the child? If only it were two feet taller.

Undaunted, Li Changyu went home and began to exercise crazily. Hope? Can grow taller. But height is influenced by genes. Where is it? You can grow taller at will through training.

? Finally one day, Li Changyu realized that he didn't have Yao Ming's genes to challenge them. Is irrational.

In his speech, he warned young people: everyone's intelligence and physical strength? Everyone has congenital diseases. So, don't envy others? 、? Challenge others. What we should do most is to find what we really like, and then make continuous efforts to make ourselves better today than yesterday and better tomorrow, so as to achieve our success step by step? .

When I was a child, my parents often. Compare us with other children. But in fact, everyone is unique and has their own characteristics and advantages. Really good parents never blindly compare themselves, but know how to discover the characteristics of their children and guide them to become the best themselves? .

As marc levy said in The Stealer: Never compare people. Everyone is different. Is it important to find the one that suits you best? Difference.

In 2002, Lei Jiayin was admitted with the second place in the country? Shanghai Theatre Academy.

After graduating from Shanghai Theatre Academy, his career didn't take off, instead? Repeatedly frustrated. I have participated in several TV series, all of which are bit parts. During that time, he saw that all his classmates got along well, but he accomplished nothing, so he was born? A strong sense of frustration.

That was the bottom of his life. He grew up? Let's begin. Compared with other actors, he has no background, no money and no face value, so he can't compare with others, only? Actually hone your acting skills. Encouraged by his friends, he finally got out of his confusion and grew up silently? .

Is gold always shining, when Lei Jiayin's acting skills become more and more sophisticated, finally? It has ushered in its own development opportunities. Chen Shengjun in My First Half Life, Zhang Xiaojing in The Longest Day in Chang 'an, and Perrin in Embroidered Spring Knife all showed his solid acting skills, which brought him great popularity? .

Accustomed to comparing with others, it is easy to deviate from one's own life track. A really smart person knows how to determine his own path early, and then go on unswervingly and without distractions.

Lin Qingxuan, a famous writer in Taiwan Province Province, once said such a thing? ：

"Life's shortcomings, the biggest is compared with others, compared with the master will make us feel inferior? ; Compared with the laity, it makes us dirty? ; Compared with inferiority, makes us arrogant? . Comparison abroad is the source of our uneasy mentality, and it also makes most people lose themselves and blocks the original fragrance in their hearts? . "

People are born different, and everyone is destined to have their own way to go.

All comparisons are just a nuisance, all inferiority and vanity are the shackles of life, and striving to be a better self is the salvation of life.

(The pictures are all from the Internet and have been deleted. )

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