Because I borrowed about 1.3 million from my relatives when I got married, and when I paid back the money, my relatives said I didn't have to pay it back. What should I do?

After reading the description of the subject, although I don't know the specific situation, according to human nature, I still can't help but remind you-dear, don't treat politeness as a blessing! Pay back as soon as you have money.

What a good relative! He knows that you are really in financial difficulties, and it is impossible to pay him back the money you lent you for a while.

Because you "got married and borrowed180,000 and borrowed 6 people", he comforted you with such words. The implication is that you can pay me back slowly. If you have money, pay it back to others first, then pay it back to me!

In order to emphasize his money, you don't have to be the first to return it to him, so he will specifically tell you-don't return it unless I urge you!

Honey, you are so obedient! Are you really waiting for him to rush you-will you pay it back?

I can't help but want to scold you at this time-are you naive? Or is it really stupid?

These two relatives actually have the same idea as the last one!

Just because you are in a difficult situation, I am afraid that you have no money. It's a trick-pay them back!

That's why they will comfort you that they are not in a hurry to use money themselves.

Besides, as you know, in China, a human society, everyone is very polite. How many people will send you the card number as soon as you say you want to pay back the money?

Isn't everyone so polite-what's the hurry? Just take your time! I'm not in a hurry anyway!

Honey, but you really can't-don't pay it back in a hurry! Even if they are really not in a hurry to spend money, they can invest! Even if they buy wealth management products, they can earn interest themselves!

Whether it is "I don't urge you to pay it back" or "don't remit it yet, don't use it in a hurry"-the implication is that you can pay it back slowly, but it is definitely not "no return"!

Question: Why do you think relatives don't want you to pay back the money?

My humble opinion, for reference only, don't spray if you don't like it!

I am Zhang Rose, a cultured and nagging housewife.

Ha, friend, you are so cute! When people say they don't have to pay back the money, you don't know what to do. It seems that you are a real person. To tell the truth, this is a good word from relatives. Don't take it seriously Pay back the money quickly, so that everyone will be fine.

Colleagues lend money to others, and when others pay back the money, he casually says, "Don't pay it back, that person really didn't pay it back." When my colleague urged me, that person said plausibly, "You said you wouldn't let me pay it back", but the money was not much, so my colleague stopped mentioning it. But the friendship between two people is over. People around you are afraid to lend money to that person again. After all, there are too few people who can't understand the people on the telephone poles.

If you really have no money, you won't pay it back for the time being. Since you have money to pay back, of course, you should pay it back quickly. This is not only a question of whether to pay back the money, but also a matter of one's integrity. As the saying goes, borrowing is easy to pay back, and it is not difficult to borrow again. This is not bad at all. If you don't pay it back this time, I can guarantee that no one will dare to lend you money again.

Nobody's money is easy to make. No matter who borrowed the money, it is friendship, so we should pay it back quickly. You know, money and debt are easy to pay, but human feelings are hard to pay. Never let anyone who dares to lend you money.

Is there such a good thing? There are only three possibilities in this situation: first, you are valuable to him, which is far greater than 1.3 million; Second, he owed you something in the past, so this130,000 has been paid back; Third, he was just being polite. You have to know the situation yourself, take it or return it.

When I got married, I mortgaged a house with a down payment of 300 thousand. Mom said, "Your father is long gone. In recent years, the salary has only saved 50,000. " I have 70 thousand yuan in my hand. Plus my mother, I need a down payment of180,000. Mom said, "Let's borrow it separately! Relatives look at my old face and can borrow some money! "

I borrowed 50,000 from my friends, 80,000 from my mother and my uncle, and 50,000 from my two aunts. Mom said that borrowing money from others made her feel like a stone. It will be easier for her to pay off the money as soon as possible! Mom's retirement salary is 3 thousand a month, and she has found a job as a cleaner, 2 thousand a month. She gave me 4000 yuan a month to pay back my friend's 50 thousand first.

My mother and I scrimped and saved 80,000 yuan for my big uncle and 50,000 yuan for my two young aunts. But uncle said, "Don't worry, you won't pay me back unless I urge you to!" " "The two young aunts didn't give them their card numbers and said," Don't make money in a hurry, we're not in a hurry to use it! ""I asked my mother, "my uncle and aunt always shirk and won't let me return it. Do they want money? "Mother said," Son! You must remember that no matter what others say, you must pay back the money you borrowed! "

Mom took the money, asked me to accompany her, and personally sent the money to my uncle and aunt's house. After coming out, she often said with a sigh of relief: "Other people's money has finally been paid off! Son, let's start paying off the monthly mortgage. Qi Xinhui's hard work will soon be paid off! " My heart is warm and I feel guilty. I secretly make up my mind to work hard and let my mother live a happy life!

I really want to ask here, are there any relatives with such atmosphere? If there is, it means that this relative is unusual. According to the description carefully, it is not the same thing at all. Just the grace period of the repayment date does not mean that you don't have to pay back the money. So it's nonsense to say you don't have to pay back the money.

Everyone may have experienced this kind of thing, that is, when borrowing money from friends or relatives (of course, you have a good reputation and can repay it in time), you will say, "Don't worry, don't worry, use it first." In fact, this is a kind word. The real meaning does not mean that you can take it back whenever you want. That was not the case. Of course, people who pay back money also understand that they will not really get it back.

So don't take a courtesy to your loved ones seriously. It's not a few hundred dollars. I don't need it. It is very important to understand one thing and distinguish between lending and giving. Even a few hundred dollars, don't feel that you can't refund it. If you don't return it, it will directly affect your reputation. It's not difficult to borrow it again.

Borrow money and pay it back on time. Don't lose your reputation at once. When you really need to borrow money again, I believe that relatives and friends will not lend it to you. This is the real experience around you.

I borrowed 500 yuan from my cousin. It's been years, and I'm too embarrassed to ask for it. But he thinks I don't want it, so I just won't return it. This is not to say that the author lacks this 500 yuan, but that this 500 yuan is borrowed, not given to him. At first, it was obvious that he also borrowed money from others. Relatives and friends all say so, saying that he will not return it. Now he wants to get married and needs money, and no one lends him money.

Speaking of this, I also told the subject not to misinterpret the meaning of relatives. If you have money now, you must return it to your relatives in time. Don't take the courtesy of relatives and friends for granted, let alone climb the pole, which will make you lose your credibility.

Because I borrowed about 1.3 million from my relatives when I got married, my relatives said they didn't have to pay back the money. What should I do?

Judging from the content of the question, dear, don't get me wrong. Relatives didn't say they didn't have to return it, but they weren't in a hurry.

There may be two main reasons why relatives say this: First, they are close and have deep feelings for each other, and you borrowed so many people's money when you got married, which shows that the conditions are really poor. As a relative, it is also appropriate to give you a hand at a critical moment. If you are urged to pay back the money, it is not authentic. Relatives are also proud and compare with each other. If you are not generous, I am stingy. On the other hand, relatives may be in good condition, waiting for the money to run out. Therefore, it is better to be human and let yourself live a relatively difficult life at present.

Of course, kissing you may be more rewarding, and relatives also want to further close their relationship with you in this way, so that you can remember their goodness and not forget them when you succeed one day.

In short, no matter what the situation, it is a good thing. But remember, it's not that you don't pay it back, but that you don't need to pay it back in a hurry. Don't take politeness as a blessing, thinking that relatives don't want all their money. Having such an idea shows that relatives are too cute, too inexperienced and too indifferent to their money.

Relatives and friends who can lend you money in this era should cherish it, because it is getting harder and harder to borrow money now.

Tell me about my family. When I was a child, my father often lent money to relatives and friends for help. As long as relatives talk, my father will borrow money because he values traditional family values and can help. After all, he is a relative.

Later, the living conditions of some relatives whose father borrowed money gradually improved, at least much better than my family. When I got married, my parents needed to decorate the house, so I asked my relatives to borrow money. The money I might lend you was only a few thousand dollars, and there was no more. Besides, I always beat around the bush to ask you to pay it back. My parents knew this, and I returned it the next year.

It is really not easy to borrow money in the current social environment. Although your relatives say so verbally, they are more polite. It is impossible to really ask you not to pay back the money. After all, it is 1.3 million yuan. I think this price can be paid by richer parents or even brothers. As a borrower, you should be aware of this, even if you really have millions of relatives. It was also earned by others. It is impossible to say no, so don't. As the saying goes, "it is not difficult to borrow." Borrow money from others today, pay it back tomorrow, and pay it back next time. If you don't pay back others' money, I don't think anyone will lend you money next time.

Whether it's10.3 million or10.3 million, as long as it's borrowed money, China people pay the most attention to human relations, and it's the best state to deal with human relations when you come and go.

It's a good thing that pies fall from the sky. When I got married, I borrowed 6.5438+0.3 million yuan from my relatives. When I paid back the money, my relatives said I didn't have to pay it back! This proves that this relative is rich and has a good family environment. Maybe he wants to help you, but that's impossible. It is a great kindness to lend you money, and it is even more grateful not to pay interest, so he should be grateful for his kindness and know what is good.

Pay back the money you borrowed, because you dare not accept the favor of 6.5438+0.3 million. What can you do to help others? Therefore, you can't owe people, money and debt. Of course, you must give it back to others. Maybe he just said a nice word, and you insisted on paying it back, so you took it. This is a must!

At that time, I was able to lend you 1.3 million relatives, which really saved your life. This is something you should be grateful for in your life. When you return it, others may say a polite word, and you will take it seriously. It was Ma Yun's money that saved your anxiety. Forget it. Give it back to someone else. This is the basic principle and morality of being a man.

Then don't take it seriously, everyone's money is not blown by the wind. As the saying goes, "it is not difficult to borrow again if you borrow and pay back." Relatives lend you money to help you tide over the difficulties, but when it comes time to pay back the money, they say you don't have to pay it back yet. This is a polite speech and can't be an opportunity for you not to pay back the money. This is what happened to me. Now I'll tell you the real purpose of each other.

A few years ago, my family built a house, and my dad lent my aunt 65,438+10,000 yuan for turnover. My aunt transferred the money without saying anything. This 6.5438+ten thousand yuan is not worth mentioning for the aunt who is doing business. When the house was built, my parents began to save money and return it to my aunt.

Mom and dad didn't save 65,438+million yuan at one time, but paid by installments, and paid back 20,000 yuan every six months. Later, my aunt said, don't worry, wait until you have saved enough, loosen your hands a little, and then pay it back at one time. I'm not waiting for this 6.5438+million life. Aunt's implication is: don't pay back the money in installments, or pay it all at once, or wait until the money is enough, so as not to go to the bank to save money every time.

My little brother and my big brother have had a good relationship since childhood. After they got married, my eldest brother made his first bucket of gold in the timber business, while my younger brother worked as a truck driver and helped the boss wholeheartedly. 13 ago, my little brother said that he would buy a minivan, and when he took the order himself, he stopped working and asked my little brother to borrow money for turnover. At that time, my uncle lent him 50 thousand and told my brother not to worry about paying back the money.

As a result, my little brother just caught up with the good opportunity. There are many local factories and there is a great demand for trucks. My little brother delivers goods day and night, earning hundreds of thousands of dollars each time. Slowly, my little brother also earned the first bucket of gold.

A few years later, the two brothers got married separately. With the help of Dongfeng, my little brother took advantage of the trend, bought one truck after another, and then formed a fleet to deliver the goods. However, due to the strict requirements of the government on environmental protection, his timber factory violated the rules, so the government suppressed the restrictions and the business declined day by day.

Seeing that my brother's business was booming, my aunt knew that the two brothers had debts before they got married. My aunt came to pick up my brother's house business and asked him to get back the 50 thousand yuan he lent him that year. The younger brother thinks that this is a matter between the two brothers, not a sister-in-law can say. Besides, big brother said there was no need to return it.

As a result, the two brothers turned against each other for 50 thousand yuan and ignored each other.

In fact, through the above two cases, I think the money that should be returned must be returned. Even if relatives are rich and don't care about money, they have to pay back their feelings in order to have a long-term relationship. Once you are entangled in money, you will not only lose trust, but also lose your family.

Once you have saved enough money, please pay it back as soon as possible.