Experience is the best growth.

My good friend's wife Ying is an optimistic and cheerful lady. She is very good-looking, with long black hair, fair skin and petite figure. The only thing that bothers me is hunchback. Because I am an external expert, I specifically reminded her, and later I learned that she has a hunchback for a reason. )

There must be joy and joy in her place. Friends get together and everyone likes to sit at the same table with her. She is always telling all kinds of funny jokes, which are all kinds of embarrassing things in her life. I really envy this self-deprecating strength (I especially like people who laugh at themselves, they are all confident)!

But one day something happened to her. The cause of the incident was a normal examination of her. She took her father to the physical examination, and while waiting for the examination results, she also had an MRI of the cervical spine. Because her cervical spine has been bad, she often hurts, and later her waist hurts. She has also made a video film, always thinking that it is a strain of the cervical and lumbar vertebrae, and has done various treatments. But because of her busy work, she has never had an MRI, so I just have time to do one this time, so I can know what the problem is!

She was dumbfounded when the results came out. Her father was fine, but he was found to have a "spinal cavity". According to the doctor, the disease should be brought in the womb. There may be two cases of this disease, that is, it will never develop. There is also a more dangerous one, that is, it may be paralyzed.

After hearing the news, she was a little panicked. Before, she thought she was just a cervical vertebra problem. Recalling that her waist was uncomfortable recently and her feet were numb, she was a little scared. After all, I just got married and have no children. I'll tell you the story of pursuing love later. ) I found many experts and went to many hospitals, and finally decided to have an operation. This time she wants to solve the problem once and for all.

Before the operation, I went to see her, and she was still joking: "There is no need to light a lamp in the future." "Why?" I asked, grabbing my head. "Ha ha! The doctor will give me a haircut and a shave. My light is enough at night. " When she spoke, I saw tears in her eyes. Girls love beauty and have long black hair. If they say no, they will leave. It's hard for anyone to accept But at that moment, I could also see a glimmer of light in her eyes, which was a hope for the future.

Later, during that time, I happened to be pregnant with a second child, and the morning sickness was very serious. I never went to see her. I just called my good friend and told her that the operation was successful and she was discharged from the hospital. But not long after, my friend called again and said that she was in hospital again.

I went to see her when she came home again. She looks like a different person, with dim eyes and low spirits. People have also gained a lot of weight. A set of men's underwear that doesn't fit on the bloated body. This unkempt appearance is not embarrassing at all. She told me a lot that day. All I remember is that she kept saying that she was in pain.

I haven't seen her since, only vaguely heard that she is in a bad state. She went to Anding Hospital for several prescriptions and got depressed. Later, I heard that she went abroad, went to her mother-in-law's house, and came back this Spring Festival.

The last time I saw her was in Joy City. I happen to have something to do, and I haven't seen her for a long time. Some people miss her, so I invited her to have dinner there. I was very nervous before she came, and I still remember going to her house after she got sick. But when she appeared in front of my eyes, I was really a little surprised. I saw her: short hair, fair skin and a lot of weight loss. Although she dresses casually, she is full of energy, and the old style she talked to us is back.

She told me about her experience of going abroad alone. When she spoke, it seemed that the clouds were light and the wind was light. In fact, I just know the loneliness and melancholy of going abroad.

"Aren't you afraid to go out alone?" I asked her with a surprised face. We have discussed this problem before. At that time, she said that if she gave birth to a child, she might go abroad, because her mother-in-law was abroad and her husband had business and could not accompany her. It is estimated that she will stay abroad alone for some time. She is afraid of loneliness and being alone with her mother-in-law. After all, the cultural differences between East and West are quite big.

"What's terrible? I am like this. What if I get lost? At that time, I thought, as long as it doesn't hurt, anything will do! " What she said with a smile was so casual. I learned later that at that time, she was very ill. After the operation, because the wound healed badly, she had to do lumbar puncture again after many twists and turns. Maybe she hit a nerve when doing lumbar puncture, and the whole body pain has been with her ever since!

How painful is it? I asked her. It's like a knife cutting the meat on your ass, and it hurts to gouge it out. She looked at me and said casually, as if talking about someone else. But I know how painful it is, and I also know that because she didn't have a moment's rest, she couldn't sleep all night and pushed the whole person to a state of collapse.

Later, because of too much pain, she was simply cruel, packed her own luggage with all her energy, didn't send her husband or pick up her mother-in-law, and came to a foreign country alone with stumbling English. She still hurts, but she has been enduring, enduring, and even if it hurts, she will roll underground.

"How do you get along with your mother-in-law?" I know she is afraid to face her alone. "We get along very well! I often joke with her when I am in a good mood! She said that what I said most was "you farmer", haha! "

That's what people do. If expectations are lowered, people will be happier. She used to drive or take a taxi when she went out, but now she likes taking the bus and subway best, so she can walk more. She said that she practiced it abroad. At that time, she left when she was in pain, and the more painful she was, the more she walked. Sometimes she feels that she can't go on and can't go back, but she still grits her teeth and persists. Her physical pain is getting lighter and lighter.

"Does it still hurt?" I asked her. "Much better, sometimes the waist will be uncomfortable, especially when it rains on cloudy days. But I don't take it seriously! " "Look! I am in good shape now! " "Uh-huh!" I nodded at once.

We talked for a long time that day, and the illness made the old man not only come back, but also come back so well. More tolerant, more open-minded, stronger and more sunny than before. Sometimes, life really lies in experience. Only after experiencing can we grow, tolerate, be strong and be happy!

Thank you!

I would like to give this document to my good friend Ying.