How can a non-aggressive teacher establish prestige?

There are often students in the office. If my students don't come to me, I generally don't pay attention. During recess this morning, I sat quietly in my seat correcting my homework. At this time, I suddenly heard a teacher and a student yelling loudly from behind. Then the student stormed out the door angrily. When I went out, I didn't forget to turn back and yell into the office: "I fuck your mother." I was shocked when I heard this. This is our arrogant student. It looks like he is not afraid of the sky or the earth. I don't have time to go into the details of what the process is like. I just heard that his father came to the school in the afternoon to communicate with the teacher. His father called him to the office and apologized to the teacher. Unexpectedly, he refused to apologize and walked away angrily again. His father chased him out. I chased him in the corridor outside the classroom and tried to beat him, but was blocked by other teachers. Think back to the conversation this morning between another teacher and his students. Teacher: "You copied your math homework and I accepted it. Did I do it wrong? You yelled at me so loudly in the classroom." Student: "I don't want to do it." When the student spoke, his tone was disrespectful and he even He rolled his eyes, looking nonchalant. At this time, the teacher finally couldn't help it anymore, slammed the table hard, and shouted loudly: "You did it wrong, and you still make sense!" The student finally stood up, with a trace of fear in his eyes. Lowered his head. Both of the above cases illustrate that for some students, if the teacher blindly persuades them without deterrence, educating them will actually have no effect. They will only lower their heads when they see majesty. If they had not experienced strict education from their teachers when they were receiving education, they might have become more unscrupulous when entering society. Someone once said that people need to be afraid. In Journey to the West, Tang Monk blindly persuaded Sun Wukong not to kill. However, the funny thing is that Tang Monk was not able to persuade the monster once despite all the difficulties. And only when they see the powerful Sun Wukong, Guanyin, or Tathagata, they will tame them obediently. In fact, it is also the word "fear". How does a teacher establish prestige? Many teachers have a sullen and majestic face as soon as they enter the classroom, which is intimidating. Some teachers always have a smile on their face, but students have tremendous respect for them. As an ordinary teacher, you need to establish your own prestige. We all know that only with strength can you be charming. The same personal charm will undoubtedly affect the establishment of a person's prestige. A person should be knowledgeable but humble, courageous but not discouraged, and kind but not kitsch. In class management, only establishing your own prestige first is a prerequisite for all work. In more than ten years of teaching, I have also mastered some methods of establishing prestige. Listen carefully and remember carefully. This sentence seems to be for students. In class, students must listen carefully and memorize it carefully, so that they can read well. But in class management, you need to do this when you are in contact with students. No matter when and where, you must listen carefully to the students' voices, especially the constructive opinions and questions must be written down at any time. This will make the students feel that you respect and affirm them. For example, when arranging class cadres, the class teacher must focus on the overall situation of the entire class, and must take into account the students' personal expertise and arrange suitable positions for the students. Demonstrate determination to execute strongly. In class management, setting various rules must be done, but the difference is that some new rules will soon become a piece of paper, and the class teacher may lose his prestige. Some new rules quickly become popular and become true standards. When the class teacher formulates the system, he must make rewards and punishments and require "immediate implementation" as usual. When formulating the system, some teachers deliberately violate the rules themselves, and then immediately expose their "mistake" and punish them. The head teacher used his own sacrifice to set an example and serve as a warning to others. Adhere to principles from the perspective of students. Establishing prestige is not about making people fearful, but about making people consciously convinced. The same criticism will have different effects on different people. Therefore, understanding each student's personality and making students feel that you are a friend-like teacher who understands them will naturally make your management more effective. For students, a leadership attitude that is both strict and warm should always be implemented. For example: when a student makes a serious mistake, the rules must be followed, but beforehand, the student must be contacted for an in-depth discussion as soon as possible. During the conversation, we should stand more from the student's perspective, consider and help him solve problems, rather than blindly criticize, and always implement the principle of "treating the matter rather than the person".

Hello, Teacher Wang! I have just become a junior high school English teacher. I have encountered some problems and would like to ask you for advice. I would like to ask you how to establish authority. Can even a non-aggressive teacher make students obey him? At first, the students liked me very much and wanted to get close to me. They always came to my office door at noon to see what I was doing. Later, I heard an old teacher say that this was not possible and had no prestige. So I tried to be aggressive in class. It turns out that being fierce doesn't work very well. I'm born with a baby face and can't be fierce. The reason why I tried to be more aggressive was because I wanted to build prestige as the old teacher said. So what I’m confused about now is, can being kind to students also build prestige? Will students also be asked to observe discipline in class and do what I ask after class? If so, what methods can be used? Thank you for your help! Wang Bin Teacher Wang Bin: Hello! When I read your letter, my memory took me back to 25 years ago in an instant. At that time, I was 19 years old, short and with a baby face. Facing those senior elementary school students who were only 6 or 7 years younger than me, especially those naughty boys who were a head taller than me, I was helpless. Because I also made a "fatal mistake" and was too gentle with the students. Those old teachers pointed out unceremoniously: "You are too polite to them! You have to be more fierce and powerful, so that they will be afraid of you! Don't let them come to you when they have nothing to do. How could you smile at them?" Prestige! "To be honest, although I admire the old teachers' calmness and calmness in class, and I admire them as long as they stand at the door of the classroom and their faces fall into silence, I still don't take their advice seriously. I don't believe that teachers are used to make students afraid. Teachers should not let students get close to them. A teacher who is not fierce will definitely not have prestige. I believe that my mistake is not because I am not cruel to students, not because I am gentle to students, but because I do not know how to use my gentleness correctly. For a long time afterwards, I continued to insist on my position of "not being a vicious teacher" and continued to smile at my students. Although I endured a lot of hardships and was often angered by my students to the point of secretly crying, in the repeated setbacks, my childishness gradually faded away, I had more and more ideas, and my mind became more and more open-minded. Now, I am still a non-violent teacher, and this does not affect my prestige and teaching efficiency at all. So, what I want to tell you is: your current situation is nothing special. Many young teachers have encountered it. Every teacher has to go through a process of growth. You don’t need to be too anxious. Regarding prestige, I found that it seems to be a routine path from the idealization of being close to students and caring for students when I first entered the teaching world, to losing patience after long-term hard work and resorting to simple and crude methods to solve educational problems. Treating students harshly and even using some corporal punishment often has immediate results. Students are indeed "obedient", but they do not really respect and trust teachers in their hearts. Education is a career related to the growth of life. Our responsibility is not to use so-called effective models to squeeze and mold regular lives, but to lead lives to grow in a healthy direction. As the old saying goes: If you are close to your teacher, you will believe in his way. Not allowing students to get close to each other or not smiling at students does not establish prestige, but creates an insurmountable gap between the minds of teachers and students. What is prestige? Literally interpreted, prestige refers to fame and credibility. Throughout the ages, who has built his reputation and credibility by relying on "intimidation" and "viciousness"? What can really move and influence students is the charm of personality. It is teachers who use their words and deeds to gain students' heartfelt respect and trust. How to establish teachers' prestige in the hearts of students so that students can observe discipline and be willing to follow teachers' instructions? For young teachers, I think we can work hard from the following aspects: 1. Improve professional accomplishment and strengthen knowledge reserves. Looking back on our own student days, do we all particularly like those teachers who are particularly knowledgeable? In the classroom, not only can the class be lively and lively, but the field of vision is broad and the subject can be quoted from other things. Things outside the professional field can also be picked up at your fingertips. There is a joke that says: If you want to capture your husband's heart, you must first capture his stomach. Inspired by this sentence, I also thought of a sentence: If you want to retain the hearts of students, you must first teach the class well. When you make your class interesting, do you still worry about not being able to attract students' attention? Are you still worried that students don’t like you? A teacher who can attract and make students like him still worries that students are unwilling to follow your teachings? "Attracting" and "liking" are just a good start for establishing prestige.

2. Pay attention to your words and deeds, and establish your character and prestige. The famous Soviet educator Kalinin once said: "Teachers seem to be squatting in a mirror every day. There are hundreds of pairs of exquisite and sensitive mirrors outside, that is, they are good at peeking out the advantages of teachers. The eyes of children with shortcomings are constantly staring at him. "The words and actions that teachers attract students' attention will directly affect students' learning or life. Therefore, in addition to building a teacher's prestige on teaching work, it is more important that the teacher's personality and moral character can be respected and admired by students. If a teacher's professional prestige is an explicit factor that affects students' ability to listen to lectures, then a teacher's personality prestige is a recessive factor that affects students' ability to listen to lectures. It is therefore more important and more ignored by people. As a young teacher, you have your own advantages. Your youthful vitality, your serious attitude towards work, your strong sense of responsibility for work, and your heartfelt love for students will all influence and infect them. "If a person is upright, he will not do what he is told; if he is not upright, he will not obey even though he is told." 3. Good at learning and drawing lessons from, and willing to ponder ideas. From a macro perspective, there are two major categories of problems in education and teaching. One is among the student group. One type of common sexual problems involves special cases of specific students. There are two ways to solve these problems. One is to read more educational treatises by famous education experts. You can also read relevant articles and monographs written by front-line teachers to learn from other people’s successful experiences and theories. In addition, you must be good at thinking and adapting to your own problems. Come up with some good ideas based on the specific situation, summarize and reflect on it in a timely manner, and continuously improve your ability to deal with education and teaching problems in practice. Finally, what I want to say is that education is a slow art, and the growth of teachers is also a slow art. Don’t expect students to become good students in your eyes overnight, and don’t expect that education problems can be solved with just one strategy. After facing each educational problem and solving each educational problem with your true feelings and wisdom, students will make progress and you will grow. You must have such confidence! Your friend: Wang Wenfang