Collapse in tutoring children with homework? Read the advice from a master's degree dad, turning a scumbag into a top student

Tutoring children to do their homework is the most frustrating thing. Even if you don’t tutor, you must at least check it, otherwise the teacher will not be able to pay the grade the next day. There are many jokes on the Internet about parents helping their children with homework, which is a microcosm of many families.

My best friend’s child was originally a poor student. There were 56 students in a class. Her child took about 40 students in each exam. He was always wandering in the middle and lower reaches. He did homework every day like "killing a pig". Before the third grade of elementary school, No one goes to bed before 10 o'clock, and there is not much homework at all, but I keep writing and can't finish it. It takes five or six hours to write a 300-word essay.

Some people say that cleaning up the desktop can improve work efficiency. My best friend did as she was told. Her child is a little guy with a very rich imagination. Sometimes he likes to scribble on books, but after taking away all the other things, the child is still like this. Without books, the child is just like that. Create your own creations on the table, or even in the palm of your hand.

She also encouraged her children, but she said too much encouragement and the children did not take her seriously at all. One time, the child actually looked at his mother as if he were a fool. My best friend also talked to the child very gently, but she found that it was better to yell and give the child a beating.

In the second semester of the third grade, my best friend completely collapsed. After a family war, she turned to her husband to help her children with their homework. Her husband took a completely different approach.

1. Set bedtimes

Her husband said that the children must go to bed before 9:30, otherwise they will not be energetic in class on the second day. Besides, children always sleep so late, right? Your health is not good either. Whether you study well or not is temporary, but your health is a lifelong matter.

Anyway, you have to go to bed without finishing your homework, and the child will bear the consequences of the teacher.

2. Use encouragement and rewards together

My best friend’s husband said that my son is not stupid, so what’s the use of a few light words of encouragement? It's just like your boss praising you for working hard and being serious and responsible every day. It's just empty words.

Her husband really spent a lot of money on encouraging his children. In one year, he spent nearly 10,000 yuan just buying blind boxes. Real rewards give the child a taste of the sweetness. He feels that his efforts will pay off immediately, and he is willing to work hard.

However, I personally feel that we should pay attention to the frequency of use. Regular rewards and encouragement will also cause children to have a growing appetite and make more and more requests.

3. Accompany reading instead of doing homework

My best friend is always watching while her child does homework, while her husband does homework with the child and competes to see who can do it faster. , there is no guidance during the homework, and each other corrects each other after writing, and sometimes asks my best friend to help time the homework. The children are very enthusiastic.

He would "ask" his children for advice on certain topics and ask them to teach him the questions. My best friend's husband is a graduate student, and the way he listens to his children's lectures seriously is really funny. However, this method can help children clarify their thoughts. For slightly difficult questions, children may have given up directly before, but now they will not hesitate to spend time to study them in order to explain them clearly to their father.

4. Never interrupt

When my best friend is tutoring his children in homework, he puts his mobile phone in his pocket. Sometimes he takes it out to check the time. If someone calls, he will out of the child's room. In fact, this approach also affects the child.

Her husband doesn’t bring a mobile phone with him when he helps his children with homework. He and his children each have a watch, and he doesn’t answer calls from others. Once, the child's grandmother sent a WeChat video to her best friend. The best friend took her cell phone and entered her son's room and asked the child to video chat with her grandma. The best friend's husband was very angry and firmly disagreed.

5. Take out all the homework

When my best friend is tutoring my children in homework, I help them make plans and write the time on a piece of paper, but the plans never change quickly. Failure to finish the previous homework will affect the subsequent process, and her husband has no plans at all.

Before the children do their homework, he will ask them to take out all the homework for the day and put it aside. They can sort it by subject and pile it up one by one. , reference books in this order. Put the finished writing on the other side, and the child will have a sense of accomplishment and urgency.

6. Participation of the whole family

Although my best friend no longer helps her children with homework, her husband has set a rule for her. When the children are studying, they should wait in the living room or room where they cannot see them. You are not allowed to look at your mobile phone, you have to hold a book to read.

My best friend didn’t understand this approach at first. Later, one time the child took a break and came out to use the bathroom. He saw his mother sitting in the living room reading a book. The child was surprised and said: Mom, it turns out you are reading too. I thought you were looking at your phone! In this case, there is nothing unbalanced about me.

My best friend wanted to go into the child’s room and study with the father and son, but her husband said that this would put pressure on the child, so the best friend insisted on watching in the living room.

My best friend’s husband used these methods to turn his child from a scumbag to a top student. Now that his child is in the first grade of junior high school, he can get into the top 10 in the class every time he takes the exam. His homework efficiency is very high and he has free time. It’s not a lot, so I don’t feel tired from studying. Personally, I think the last method is particularly good, at least it can create a good family atmosphere.

Do you have a good way to supervise your children to do their homework? Feel free to write below and share with everyone.