My mother-in-law often scolds her husband. What is her attitude? ?

First, understand the needs of mother-in-law and respect each other.

Many times, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is because each has an expectation for the other, and this requirement is based on their own interests. If the daughter-in-law can put herself in the mother-in-law's shoes, respect each other, treat each other as mothers and make serious reconciliation, these problems can also be solved.

Mother-in-law loves to intervene in everything. On the one hand, it is related to her personality and growth experience. On the other hand, with the growth of the child's body, the child and the mother are slowly separated. Especially after the son has his own small family and pays less attention to his parents, many mothers find it difficult to accept this separation and feel that they are not needed and feel lonely. Therefore, it is more of her own inner needs to take care of the child. Knowing this need of her mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law can guide her mother-in-law to develop her own life and find the joy of her own life. Or give her the part that her mother-in-law manages well and manage the unsatisfactory part by herself. Both sides can learn from each other's strengths and let her mother-in-law find her own sense of value.

Second, put yourself in the husband's shoes.

Mother-in-law is hard on herself everywhere, and taking care of her son means taking care of her husband too much. It is understandable that you are angry with her. What makes you most wronged and helpless is that as your closest relative-husband, I can't give you any support at all.

If your husband can give you some support, maybe things will be much better. But many times, the son doesn't realize his role as a husband and just wants to be a good son. In other words, the son also wants to be a good husband, but his mother won't let him, so he has to go back to his mother. For a man, these two roles are in conflict with him, even when they are in opposition, he feels very painful and tired, but this kind of pain has not been seen yet.

Daughter-in-law wants to find her own way to survive in this family and try to make this family accept herself. First of all, she must understand her husband's difficulties as a man in the cracks. As two women who have nothing to do with their mother-in-law, just because they love a man together, they become a family. Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not a relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but a more complicated triangular relationship than a love triangle. In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, both women are loved, and neither woman can quit, so they should live in harmony. However, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in China has been enduring for thousands of years. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have almost become "natural enemies", and the man who should have the love of two women is caught in the middle, which is unbearable.

Third, help her husband grow up and win her support.

It can be seen that the boundaries of this family are not clear. The mother forced her son to make a decision and intervened in his married life, which led to the escalation of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Unless the mother-in-law is willing to let go of her son, or the son grows up and is strong enough to be out of her mother's control. Otherwise, the daughter-in-law will always be hostile and excluded in this family. If the daughter-in-law doesn't want to, she must fight to the death with her in-laws, and in the end, she may lose both sides.