Are there any children who are particularly clever in kindergarten and won't be skinned as soon as they get home?

Children are smart in kindergarten, and they are smart when they come home and listen to the teacher.

This situation is normal. The fundamental reason why some children are like this is that their parents, grandparents are used to it at home, but no one is used to it at school. The teacher is very strict, and the school has rules. If all the other children in the class do this, he will follow suit, so he will naturally be honest and obedient.

In fact, children's nature is not to play. In school, all kinds of rules have been fixed and suppressed for so long, and teachers are so strict that they can only sit up straight in class. So you must be crazy to go home! In fact, after returning home, let him play if he wants to, and develop his nature, which is also conducive to the child's brain and physical development.

I am a kindergarten teacher. There are also children in our class who are very smart in the class. They listen to their teachers and help them with their work. As soon as they got home, they began to hide. Every time a child's mother asks my teacher if my child is good at school after school, I say it's fine and I am very serious in class. She also actively answers questions and helps teachers do things. Another teacher answered in the same way.

Actually! This situation is normal. Everyone has this side in his bones. This kind of behavior can be understood as observing words and feelings, which is also a child's ability, as long as it is not too naughty at home.

The fundamental reason why the child is like this is that his parents get used to him at home, but no one gets used to him at school, and the teacher is very strict, so naturally he listens honestly. But this situation is normal, not in children, but also in many adults. You only care about your leader, and Nuo Nuo may be unfriendly to his family after returning home. In fact, this is not wrong, because home is a place where you can be unscrupulous, full of love and tolerance.

However, naughty willfulness must be guaranteed within one degree, not too much, and parents should take good care of this scale. If you are just naughty, some children learn many bad habits at school. Such children must be severely criticized and not perfunctory, because it is easy to form a bad habit, but it is not easy to get rid of it. Parents should pay more attention. If they are just naughty, it is understandable. Children are all the same.

The other is the nature of children, who have been suppressed in school for so long and the teacher is so strict that they can only sit up straight in class. So you must be crazy to go home! If it's just naughty, let it be. Children play with their hearts, so there is no need to contact education online. Only by giving full play can they learn fully. If a child is honest everywhere, it is wrong!

There are many factors behind this situation. In addition to the family environment, the reasons for the existence of children themselves cannot be ignored.

Family factors:

The reason why children are good at school is that the school has its own rules, and the teacher will teach every child to abide by them.

If there are no rules at home, they will regard home as a place where they can do whatever they want. This situation will appear more in families with "intergenerational education".

Elders are usually soft-hearted and will try their best to meet all the needs of children, thus encouraging children to "play tricks" and even using elders to suppress their parents.

Therefore, parents need to establish rules and regulations in the family, so that children can feel the essence and necessity of obeying the rules.

Children's own factors

I thought children were more relaxed at home because they were closer to their parents.

Children lose their temper to test their boundaries or try to act according to their own ideas.

But the child is still fine at school. Why did he collapse when he got home?

This requires recalling the scene when we were working:

The suggestions made by your colleagues are not good enough. Although you are very dissatisfied, you can only say, "I think there is still room for improvement here."

After a busy day, there are meetings and reports, and I am always nervous, and I have to deal with the greetings from my boss and colleagues. ...

I just want to have a rest on the sofa when I get home, but my family has been nagging you about doing this and that, which makes you very upset.

Even if no one bothers you, you are more inclined to read materials and brush your circle of friends at night than to continue to learn advanced knowledge.

Because your self-control is relatively weak at this time, it is easier to turn your attention to those things that satisfy our simple desires.

So are children.

When children are at school, they will work hard to maintain the image of "good children". For example, try to share, try to integrate into the group, try to be a good friend of others, try to be a good student of teachers and so on.

But maintaining this image, especially consumes children's willpower. Because in collective life, you can't do whatever you want, you may need to make concessions, and you may need to do something that you are not particularly willing to do. These are all pressures for children, and children's negative emotions can accumulate slowly all day.

Therefore, after school, his nervous mood will be unbearable. At this time, if parents are still nagging, his mood will be like an inflated balloon, which will burst completely with a bang.

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Why do children behave well at school and not at home?

Learn from Teacher Ye Zi.

20 19- 12-26

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Many parents often share the phenomenon of "two-faced" children with me. Obviously, he did well in school, but when he got home, he became a "bully", playing tricks on others, not listening to advice and being unreasonable.

There are many factors behind this situation. In addition to the family environment, the reasons for the existence of children themselves cannot be ignored.

If this is the case with your child, parents should ask themselves: Have family rules and regulations been established?

The reason why children are good at school is that the school has its own rules, and the teacher will teach every child to abide by them.

If there are no rules at home, they will regard home as a place where they can do whatever they want.

This situation will appear more in families with "intergenerational education".

Elders are usually soft-hearted and will try their best to meet all the needs of children, thus encouraging children to "play tricks" and even using elders to suppress their parents.

Therefore, parents need to establish rules and regulations in the family, so that children can feel the essence and necessity of obeying the rules.

I thought children were more relaxed at home because they were closer to their parents.

But in the recent study survey, I found that this kind of "two-faced" behavior of children is not just a simple mischief, but a kind of "self-control collapse after school"

Children lose their temper to test their boundaries or try to act according to their own ideas.

The "collapse of self-control after school" has no purpose, it is a pure collapse, and the child is completely crushed emotionally and can no longer maintain a peaceful mood.

But the child is still fine at school. Why did he collapse when he got home?

This requires recalling the scene when we were working:

Because your self-control is relatively weak at this time, it is easier to turn your attention to those things that satisfy our simple desires.

So are children.

When children are at school, they will work hard to maintain the image of "good children". For example, try to share, try to integrate into the group, try to be a good friend of others, try to be a good student of teachers and so on.

But maintaining this image, especially consumes children's willpower.

Because in collective life, you can't do whatever you want, you may need to make concessions, and you may need to do something that you are not particularly willing to do. These are all pressures for children, and children's negative emotions can accumulate slowly all day.

Therefore, after school, his nervous mood will be unbearable. At this time, if parents are still nagging, his mood will be like an inflated balloon, which will burst completely with a bang. This is the so-called "self-control collapse after school".

The breakdown of children's self-control usually occurs at the beginning of school, which is what we usually call "holiday syndrome", and may gradually disappear after a few months. But for some children, it may last a whole school year.

Therefore, no matter whether the child will have this phenomenon or not, we should help the child to relieve the depression in his heart at ordinary times, even though the child may not know that he is under pressure.

So what can be done to help children ease their nervousness?

Hug and greet before meeting.

When receiving children, don't ask "What did the teacher say today?" "How much water did you drink?" Instead, greet him with a smile and a hug, and ease the child's nervousness with a positive attitude.

Cater to sb.' s tastes/tastes

We don't always say, "There is no problem that a hot pot can't solve. If there is, it will be two meals. " So are children.

Giving children some healthy snacks they like after school will help to relieve their nervousness at the end of the day, so that they can devote more energy to the next thing.

Don't do your homework after school, play first.

Try to decompress the child so that he can do it as soon as school is over. For example, riding a bike, telling jokes and listening to music. We can take these daily stress-reducing activities as a ritual, and practice for half an hour after school every time, which can help you and your children get through the tension.

Keep in touch often.

You can put a picture of you in his schoolbag, so that the child can feel that although you can't see you, you are always with him.

Keep calm and don't be angered by children.

Don't be angered by the child's performance, and don't take it personally. Let children release their energy and emotions as long as they don't hurt themselves or others.

Let's work together and wish our children can grow sturdily!

Some family members always threaten their children with their teachers.

The children are all naughty when they come home from school. Most of them do. Didn't you do the same when you were young?

My son is like this, helping teachers and classmates in kindergarten, doing well, and going home is another way!

My family is very small. In kindergarten, we can eat, dress and do many things by ourselves. We were all cheating when we came back. Anyway, we just got back from kindergarten.

I am sure it is. The children are in charge of the kindergarten. Who cares when they go home? That's the stray dog that escaped [laughs] [laughs]

That's what I was. When I was in kindergarten, a boy was still shy [covering his face] and ended up quarrelling with two friends at home.