Why not fall in love during college?

1. I still remember the first time I fell in love in college. I chose my high school classmates and have a certain emotional foundation.

Then for a long time, I was somewhat ambiguous with each other. After the college entrance examination, I confessed and officially stayed with each other. At that time, I was a member of the high school basketball team. I was very good at sports and was very popular with girls. The other side is also more active than me.

As a result, we entered different cities. I am in the south and she is in the north, far apart. But at that time, our love together was particularly intense, and we naively believed that we could always be together.

On the first national day together, in order to return to the northeast, I spent more than two thousand air tickets from the south to the small cities in the north, and more than four thousand round trips. In a short week, in fact, more time was spent to see her. People are very hard when they fall in love for the first time, and they have a sense of dedication at a loss. Although there are some small quarrels, our feelings are very good and sweet, and we are full of confidence in the future.

The good times didn't last long. After the National Day, we quarreled more and more in June 165438+ 10. We are suspicious of each other. I said I cried her several times. Now I think I'm really not sensible enough. Although I will still care about her, coax her and buy her things, I still feel that the feelings between us have faded and there is a gap.

At that time, I fidgeted every day. I still remember one time I called my roommate for help. At that time, my girlfriend almost ignored me.

My roommate said that she kept crying on the phone and told her to take good care of me, which explained many things. For example, I like to drink cold food after exercise in summer, which is not good for my lungs.

At that time, I was particularly sad. I thought I lost her and regretted it, but she deleted me, and so did my phone.

Once I found out that I still had information about her roommate, so I sent a message to greet her and asked her about it. As a result, I didn't know that my roommate had been dating a boy until I spoke on the phone.

At that time, she told me that she wanted to be alone and concentrate on her studies. That's all an excuse, and the so-called making me wait for her for three years is even more a joke. At that moment, her roommate also told me to put it down, she just wanted someone around.

At that time, I knew that no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't compare with the greetings and companionship of others around her. When it rains, others can send umbrellas, but I can't do anything. At that moment, I didn't blame her at all. I felt a sort of surge of relief.

For ourselves, everyone's first love is incapable of managing love. In addition, in different places, the contradiction is even greater, and it is difficult for anyone to persist.

Then long-distance love has brought us a lot of time, energy and money. I also take my example to tell you that the first love in college is best not to try long-distance love.

2. Some people say that you should not choose to fall in love with love rat love rat. In fact, what I want to say here is that in our life, there are some things that we may not be able to escape completely. I don't want natural and man-made disasters. This kind of life will certainly ensure that we don't get sick and have an accident.

Why is love rat attractive? Here, I can assure you that no one likes slag, but love rat in disguise, positive energy disguised by love rat love rat, is a caring and single-minded person.

Faced with such love rat love rat, it is easy for college students who have never been in love to be recruited. As the saying goes, if you don't look back and experience this, you will never grow up.

3. Don't fall in love with people who are depressed and have negative energy.

I found an interesting phenomenon when I investigated my love view in college: what kind of partner you chose in college actually profoundly affected your future direction in the next four years.

If you choose a partner who is addicted to games, clubbing all day and telling you that it doesn't matter if you fail, then most of your four years in college will become …

However, if you choose a partner who is self-disciplined and positive, can enrich college time, but is not boring, then the meaning of your love is not limited to "finding someone to accompany you", but growing into a "better person" through mutual encouragement.

To be realistic, there are many people who can accompany you to play games to the king during college, but there are really few people who can accompany you to urge you to pass CET-4 and CET-6 and get straight A's.

Don't find someone who will only play with you and waste time and study. You will eventually realize that "the beating of society is to pay off the debts you once owed."

And those who accompany you to become excellent slowly are the ones you really should consider and choose.

Similarly, you can find a person who is not particularly good, but you must not find a person who is particularly poor and lacks self-discipline, otherwise such love will be exhausted and you will have nothing after breaking up.

4. On the other hand, those girls who look like money worshippers and always go to bars and nightclubs, those boys who look like hooligans, are obscene and flirt with everyone, and those who smoke and drink too much are "sex experience officers". So don't make a mistake at a glance. Don't choose such a person for your first love in college. We can be deceived, but at least these people can see the bad guys at a glance.