What are the common thinking differences between boys and girls in love? What are the differences in thinking between men and women in love?

Introduction: There is a huge difference in the thinking of men and women, but despite this, there are still many lovers who get along happily, and there are many couples who sing in harmony. So amidst the huge difference in thinking, what should two people do when they are in love? As for getting along, the secret is actually very simple.

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The beginning of the story when a man and a woman meet and fall in love is like Mars hitting the Earth. The difference in their thinking is even more separated by a galaxy. Excluding physical differences, it may be more about personality. Different from the way of thinking, how to seek common ground while reserving differences in life is nothing more than a strong desire to survive.

Speaking of this, I can't help but think of a story that happened to me many years ago.

It was when I was just starting to work after graduating from college, and I shared a room with a female friend and her sister Xiangxiang.

Xiangxiang’s boyfriend went to college a year later than her because of repeat studies. The two of them confessed to each other when Xiangxiang was about to graduate.

Because of the long-distance relationship, Xiangxiang’s boyfriend did not have a mobile phone at that time, but he still promised her to be online 24 hours a day on the landline and be available at all times except during school hours.

The first winter after working was very cold. One weekend, we had a party with friends in a rental house. We drank too much in the middle of the night. When the topic was getting intense, Xiangxiang seemed even more lonely and began to drink heavily. She was already drunk when we realized she was drinking, so she kept dialing her boyfriend's phone number, dozens of times.

She started to cry a little and kept repeating: "You said you were always available. Did you dislike me? Did you lie to me?"

We watched her crying and heartbroken. We helped her call her boyfriend’s dormitory phone number and her boyfriend’s roommate’s phone number, but to no avail. She cried for more than two hours and fell asleep slowly with tears on her face. go.

Before six o'clock the next day, Xiangxiang's cell phone rang in the living room. It was from her boyfriend. The voice sounded urgent and nervous, and he asked me to give her the phone to wake her up.

I asked him angrily, "What were you doing last night? She waited all night and didn't get a call!"

As a result, Xiangxiang's boyfriend said that he was in a bad mood yesterday, and his classmates shouted He went there all night, played games and forgot about it. He and Xiangxiang spent most of their time online on weekends, and he thought she would go find him online!

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Men and women have natural physiological differences, but they also have psychological and thinking differences. They have very different views on things and feelings, and their methods of solving problems are even more different. It is easy to Many contradictions arise, just as men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

Such as this, the difference between men and women is particularly obvious when they are in a bad mood.

For example, when a woman is depressed, she thinks, "I just don't want to pay attention to him. Why is he ignoring me? Does he not love me anymore?" And the man's mood at this moment is: "I met a pig teammate." , the game is lost again! "

When men and women are in a cold war, when they don't reply to each other's messages, what the woman thinks is: "I don't want to take the initiative to contact him, but he still doesn't contact me, is there someone else?" The man's state at this time is: "Working overtime, playing games, sleeping..."

When men and women are together, there is no topic or the conversation becomes less, what the woman thinks about is, "Does he have other interests?" Don't you love me anymore? "The man was probably watching the football match, and he was thinking: "Damn, the Italian team played too badly!"

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The differences between men and women in their understanding of things and ways of thinking lead to differences in results. Men are big men, rational and intuitive, but they hide a rough man in their hearts; women are little women, cautious, sensitive, and intuitive, but they hide a little rabbit in their hearts.

The differences in the thinking of men and women are often as far apart as the sky and a galaxy apart, which often makes love confusing.

There is a joke about the difference in thinking between men and women:

In a psychology class, the teacher said: "Generally, men are better at abstract thinking and have more developed vision than women; while women are better at abstract thinking. Image thinking and hearing are more developed than men.

Who can give examples to prove this phenomenon? "

A classmate raised his hand and replied: "Because men have developed vision, they always like to look at each other's appearance when looking for a partner; while women, because of their advanced hearing, always like to listen to sweet words when they are in love. . "

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Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. When they are tired of local life and appear in front of each other, they are so relaxed and excited.

Men’s minds are single-minded and broad-minded, but women’s minds are like a racetrack, with wild thoughts, sensitive and insecure. Their psychological mechanisms and needs are different.

Human thinking is divided into logics. Thinking and intuitive thinking are the same, but the difference is the way men and women think. Due to the influence of physiology and personality, the results of thinking are different. First of all, in life, whether it is about work or love, men have different opinions. Rational and focused on the overall situation, women are emotional and pay attention to details.

Men regard love as investment and entrepreneurship, with more ambitious goals and responsibilities; women regard love as emotional support, and they can be devoted to each other. Give everything, but look forward and backward, and consider the details repeatedly to seek the greatest sense of security. Secondly, men and women have basically different attitudes and understandings of relationships and partners.

Men and women have different attitudes towards love. A man's love is separate, his career and feelings are both important, and even career is more important than feelings. If he feels that they are in love, they can unite them; a woman's love is all-encompassing, and her feelings are her life, and she can give everything for it, so she is prone to worrying about gains and losses. . Furthermore, when men and women get along, when they encounter conflicts, men like to make big things into small matters, while women like to make big things out of small things.

Usually when there is a conflict, men think that it is a trivial matter, and even comforting women is hasty. He also thinks it's normal. However, women are sensitive and worry-free. They want to find a sense of presence and security, and they often need to be coaxed patiently by men. Although it is not to make men surrender, it is also to make him understand themselves.

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The thinking of men and women in love is very magical. Men are excited and fascinated but rational and calm, and women are longing and persistent but have great imagination. But they can only understand and understand each other. Tolerating each other's differences in thinking and sharing your inner thoughts in a timely manner can lead to a long-term relationship.

When men and women cannot understand, appreciate, and accept each other's differences, the bond of love disappears.

The difference in the thinking of men and women in love is very small, like two parallel tracks, because they both look forward to and longing for a better life.

The difference in the thinking of men in love is very big. It's like there is a galaxy separated by it, that's because they need to be more understanding and tolerant of each other, seek common ground while reserving differences, and complement each other.

The secret of happiness in love between men and women is that each other should be able to fully appreciate and respect each other's differences. It is not an attempt to change the other person.

There is no right or wrong in thinking differences. Only when both parties understand that they complement each other and strengthen and enrich themselves in life and relationships can they walk side by side towards a harmonious and happy life. Endeavor.

This article is derived from "The Story of Flower Shadows". The story of the flower shadow, the story in your heart, accompanies you to wake up in the morning light, and accompanies you to sleep at night.