Dr. Chen Baoren's common mistakes made by men

Because I once called on women to understand men in the interview program "What's wrong with married men", I suggested that female compatriots treat their other half according to the principle of "three wants and three don't", which caused widespread repercussions. In addition to some praise for fairness and practicality, most female compatriots have made a small roar, hoping to show men the three wants and three don't.

Under the pressure of public opinion, I wanted to be a shrinking violet and let Mrs. Chen reply to quell public anger, but Mrs. Chen insisted that "everyone in the artificial industry is responsible" and encouraged me to be a person with shoulders ... Hum ~ What's the big deal? Give me a knife and hold my head back ...

The following are the "common mistakes made by men in marriage" analyzed by psychiatrists and psychologists. In short, it is the most criticized behavior of wives ... compatriots ... we accept it with humility, change it if there is, and encourage it if there is no! (Actually, it's quite accurate. )

Crime 1: No empathy

Explanation: The idea of boys is to "handle things and fix things". In fact, it is difficult for most men to distinguish between their wives' complaints and coquetry. Making the other half feel that they have not been ignored is the first strategy. ..

The secret of the solution:

1. Nod, smile, say yes and watch:

This is the golden secret in the process of communication, but it is also an unchangeable rule in the relationship between husband and wife. Whether you are sincere or not, all men who want to survive in this dangerous marriage battlefield should perform …

2. Try to listen and agree with the other half:

There is really no need to deal with it in a hurry (in fact, it saves us some trouble if we don't solve it); In fact, most women just expect their other half to know her hard work and sacrifice, and "listen to her".

3. Maintaining a harmonious relationship is more important than solving problems;

Believe me, a woman's complaints or grievances don't necessarily need us to solve, she just needs comfort ... and see how other people's online scammers cheat those great and kind girls, and sometimes we can learn from them ... This can definitely improve family happiness.

Crime 2: Spending money recklessly

Note: men often scold their other half for spending money lavishly. Actually, men don't spend it. A flower is usually a lot of money (such as 3C products, cars, watches, dreams they want to realize, etc. ), but the reason that really annoys the other half is that "I didn't discuss with the other half before buying" …

This is more serious than how much it costs 100 times. In fact, many other couples are not complaining about spending money indiscriminately, because most reasonable wives can understand the hardships of making money, and sometimes they need to decompress and comfort themselves, but what she expects is to inform and discuss, because the so-called spouses are a couple (English-lovers) who support each other (Taiwan Province people-hand in hand), but men (should be replaced by men) are actually used to playing the role of leaders, no matter in the workplace.

Tips for solving problems:

1. Discuss first (even if you have booked first ...): Let the other party feel informed.

2. share:

Find out the benefits of this thing to the family and both sides (although it is sometimes difficult to explain the terms heavy locomotive and model). ), but in any case, your partner will understand your painstaking efforts to break these reasons …

3. To be useful:

Advise men all over the world to use things after they are bought, and don't pile them up in the warehouse, which will ruin our next transaction ... (So is the married wife at home ... This is what Mrs. Chen asked me to write to many smelly men who are addicted to A-level teaching films but neglect their wives ... There are 4D three-dimensional animations around them, and they can play roles at any time)

Crime 3: Being too selfish in * * * attitude-in fact, it may be ignorance …

Explanation: Boys may think that "* * * can increase intimacy", but for women, it is "love" that will increase intimacy.

Tips for solving problems:

1. Pay attention to foreplay:

Cultivate a sense of intimacy and interaction, and don't run forward with a gun as soon as you get on stage. Our training as a soldier is ok on the battlefield, but it is taboo in bed.

2. Pay attention to each other's feelings:

* * * is a double kill. Don't turn over to sleep after you feel refreshed. There used to be a beautiful girl around me who commented on the eight-character formula of "hard, shooting, soft and sleeping" for boys in sex, although it was true to see the comments of boys with medical background.

However, just like all people are born with old illness and death, we still need to add some elements to enrich the process, that is, "foreplay->; Hard->; Various schemes (changing posture and feeling …)-> Shoot-> After-sales (remember to hug and chat, in short, let the other party feel that they have accepted after-sales service)-> Soft (if you haven't been soft, you should go to the urology department)-> Don't fall asleep right away ... unless you are really old.

Crime 4: Listen to the wrong words …

Explanation: It is wrong to listen to each other without opening the bridge of communication, but it will be misunderstood, but it is a common tragedy.

Tips for solving problems:

1. Let go of human instinct:

Men are used to hearing a problem and trying to solve it, so they start thinking about how to propose a solution halfway, but unfortunately, girls sometimes just want the other person to listen and don't have to solve it.

2. Learn to "solve without solving";

In fact, most women just want you to listen and stand by him. Many men think that "the wife has mentioned it, how can a man not deal with it and help his wife vent her anger ..." Believe me, many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems have arisen, so the social case of "adding salt and adding vinegar" has come. At this time, please order the song "Stand by Me"

3. Don't be a hero, but be a person who hears:

Historical stories tell us that life has been full of hatred since ancient times, and heroes have since put on their coats and wept bitterly; In social cases, the only winning feature of many ugly male worms is actually "listening+companionship", so many male compatriots, wake up, watch TV with your wife, listen to her complaints, and remember that "nodding and smiling is called+… eye contact, and the last one is particularly important, which will definitely make you have a happy family life, which will be impaired. ...

PS: Of course, female compatriots can also take advantage of the characteristics that men like to solve projects and deal with their own troubles ... Is it necessary to share a case of the Chen family's "flowers talking about marriage" and "taking out garbage"? I call it a garbage tragedy, and Mrs. Chen calls it a garbage triumph, which is decided by the name. )

Crime 5: Don't talk, don't express, and don't share feelings.

Commentary: Education at all times and all over the world tells us that men don't cry easily, but in this society that attaches great importance to communication and has great pressure, maybe … expressing pressure appropriately is what our heroes should learn. ..

Tips for solving problems:

1. Listen:

Sharp-eyed readers find that Dr. Chen, let's listen to the first item. Is it too complicated? Heroes, what I want you to hear here is … "your own voice"; There are many men in modern sandwiches. There are parents at home, wives at home, and children to support. In the workplace, there are officials who grab the credit and want you to take the blame (please refer to the Japanese drama Naoki Banzawa: "The credit of subordinates belongs to the chief, and the fault of the chief is borne by subordinates")

At this time, you need to release the pressure properly and forget that "men don't flick when they are in tears." Understand that according to the statistics of the top ten causes of death of the Ministry of Health 10 1 China, the average life expectancy of men is 6.8 years lower than that of women. I'm afraid the main reason is that we don't know how to relax and listen to ourselves, so although men should strive for self-improvement, let's have afternoon tea (have you noticed that all afternoon tea restaurants are 46xx).

2. Brave:

Some villagers want to comment again. Dr. Chen, didn't you say you should learn to show weakness and relieve stress? How can I bravely become an iron man again? Well, I really want you to correct the iron man's character, that is, "the responsibility is on the shoulders, the hard work is on the body, and the tears are in the stomach", but it takes courage.

Moreover, it is not impulsive courage, but "really facing your inner weakness and showing your weakness", which requires great "courage …", and please give your female companion the most affirmative and long-lasting support at the moment when your Iron Man partner changes. "It takes a lot of hard work ... patience to turn a hundred steel mills into soft fingers."

Recommended reading: "Dr. Chen Baoren" Women often make six big mistakes in marriage.

Crime 6: Don't treat the bed as a power wrestling field.

Description:

The story of Zhen Huan's biography of Hougong does not need to be staged in modern times. After all, it is a monogamous generation now. There is no plan to discuss the popular multi-family plan in the near future. Personally, I think it is necessary to "diversify" to form a family, because … it costs a lot of money to get married and maintain a family. Well, it's a cold joke.

Tips for solving problems:

Be a modern person who can get out of the hall, into the kitchen and into the gums. Tell everyone that it is just right to be in their place and seek their own politics; Men like to be masters, masters in the workplace, masters at home and masters in bed. In fact, sometimes it is an important lubricant for the other half to feel respected and participate in the leadership.

Conclusion:

In fact, men nowadays are really embarrassed, often in a sandwich-like situation and in a pressure cooker environment for a long time. However, in this generation, work, achievement, health, family, emotional handling and personal life satisfaction are probably included in our KPI. As an experienced man, I want to give advice to my male compatriots … "Learn to be soft", be soft in heart and mind, because … if it is too hard, it will only lead to cardiovascular sclerosis.

Men are willing to change these sad habits of the other half. Research shows that it can improve our health, and more interestingly, the health of the other half will also improve. Here, I wish everyone a happy family, enjoy life and stay healthy.