My newly-married mother-in-law asked me to pay my debts with dowry money, but I refused, saying that I was disobedient! Am I wrong?

I come from the countryside. My sister and I got married a few years ago. My parents opened a supermarket in the town, which has been in operation for more than ten years, from the small gables of more than ten square meters at first to the present. I have been working in a supermarket since I graduated from high school, and my income is ok. I can't make much money, but I can feed my family.

My parents are old, and their energy is not as good as before. Now I am doing supermarket management and purchasing. In this way, I met my current boyfriend, who works in a food company and is responsible for delivering goods to supermarkets. My boyfriend is two years older than me, tall and strong, with a good figure and a simple and honest look. Unlike other deliverymen, my boyfriend always helps me move the goods into the house and put them neatly.

We dated for more than a year, and then we started talking about marriage. Only after we got together did I know that he grew up in a single-parent family. My boyfriend's father died when he was very young, and it was not easy for my boyfriend's mother to raise him and his sister alone. My boyfriend's sister got married, and her boyfriend worked for several years. It was only in these years that family conditions improved.

I understand their family's situation very well. As long as you give me 30 thousand bride price, the wedding room is also a small two-bedroom house that our family bought a few years ago. The bride price of 30 thousand yuan is estimated to be the least on our side. Now girls get married for more than 65438+ 10,000 yuan. Mainly because my parents also took a fancy to my boyfriend, thinking that he is honest and reliable, and I will not be bullied if I marry him.

Boyfriend and mother are very happy. She took my hand and told me that she would not treat me badly. Under the witness of both parents, I got married in style, and the whole wedding cost a lot of money, including more than 10 thousand from the wedding company alone. The hotel is also high-grade, my mother-in-law said, it doesn't matter to spend some money, so it can save face. I feel a little extravagant.

Life is good after marriage. Husband continues to deliver goods and comes to the supermarket to help in his spare time. Some time ago, I suddenly received a short message from the bank, and my card was transferred for 30 thousand yuan. I called my husband immediately, but he said faintly, Oh, my sister just called and said that she was in a hurry to use the money, so I transferred it to her.

I'm not happy when I hear it. Why didn't you discuss with me when you transferred money from my bank card? It's almost the end of the year, and the supermarket has to stock up, so there must be no less water on the account. My husband got bored when I scolded him a few times. Red-eyed and said it was his own sister. What will happen if you are in trouble?

I am speechless. I know it's your own sister, but you should have discussed it with me beforehand, right? My husband was angry with me for several days. I gradually feel that this man doesn't have me in his heart at all, but only thinks about his parents and his sister, and doesn't care about our small family at all.

After a while, my mother-in-law suddenly came. After being married for so long, my mother-in-law seldom comes. This must be something. Sure enough, my mother-in-law said that my sister wanted to buy a house, but the money was not enough. How much can we afford? Isn't that a strange question? No, how much can we lend her? My mother-in-law saw my doubts and told me the truth.

When we got married, my in-laws couldn't even afford the wedding. My in-laws have a lot of face, and my family is better than his. If the wedding is not decent, then my husband has no position at home. So I borrowed 65438+ million from my sister, including 30 thousand bride price. Now my sister needs money to buy a house, and my mother-in-law has come to urge us to pay back the money quickly.

After listening, I was a little dumbfounded. Instead of asking my husband and wife to pay back the money, let me pay back the money directly. My husband only pays that little salary every month, and he also subsidizes his in-laws. How can he have money in his hand? I told my mother-in-law angrily that our supermarket needs liquidity and it is impossible to pay it back as much as possible. Our whole family lives on this supermarket.

My mother-in-law gave me a look and said angrily, what about your dowry? Where's your private money? Your sister helped you a lot when you got married. Now that she needs money, can't you share it with her? When I was angry, I asked her directly that I could pay back the 30 thousand bride price, but my private money and dowry were my private property. I will keep them for my children in the future. If you share difficulties with your daughter's family, you will ignore your son's family.

I told her that except for the 30 thousand bride price, the rest of the money would not be returned to me. My mother-in-law was very angry at my words, and even said that I was disobedient, hehe. My husband quarreled with me when he came back at night. I don't know what my mother-in-law told him.

In a word, I told him clearly that I had already paid the bride price of 30,000 yuan, and you can do the rest yourself. Don't think about my private money and dowry money, otherwise it will be a divorce and you will move out of my house. My mother-in-law said I was rebellious, and my husband said I was unreasonable and didn't understand family ties. what do you think? Can I return this money?