Many couples have lived their whole lives. Why do you get divorced when you get older?

In fact, in our cognition, husband and wife can go hand in hand for more than ten or twenty years, which is inseparable.

On the bright side, along the way, I have experienced so many ups and downs and tests, and established very deep feelings and strong relationships. Even if there is no passion or even love, there is affection and kindness honed year after year.

There is no longer an inappropriate statement. After all, in the most difficult running-in stage, no one has given up on each other.

On the bad side, even if two people have been living as "strangers under the same roof", since they can survive most of their lives, they can survive the rest of their lives.

However, the phenomenon of divorce among middle-aged and elderly couples is increasing.

Have you ever wondered why they divorced at their age? What's the problem? Let's summarize the possible reasons for divorce.

Why do middle-aged and elderly couples divorce and spend most of their lives here? There are four possibilities!

1, contradictions are most afraid of accumulation. With the passage of time, the relationship between husband and wife is getting deeper and deeper, or the contradiction is getting deeper and deeper.

For example, the contradiction between husband and wife is like a seed, which is not too big at first, so it is the best solution and can be solved fundamentally, but if it is ignored by husband and wife, it is equivalent to letting this seed take root.

When this seed grows into a towering tree, there is no possibility of shaking it.

Then the relationship between husband and wife will break down immediately because of a little thing (introduction), and it will get worse and worse in the future. So you will find that middle-aged and elderly couples are almost impossible to mediate if they have contradictions, and they hold their own opinions. When divorcing, they are much more determined than young people.

Some couples are like this. When they were young, they didn't take details and contradictions seriously, and at the worst, there was nothing they could do.

At that time, few people knew how to manage intimate relationships and didn't understand what intimate relationships were. They think that two people are just living, and they don't know how to control their temper and their emotions, which makes each other feel chilling again and again.

I'm beginning to feel it. In the past, people were poor and lacked material resources, but if they want to live after marriage, they must work hard for daily necessities and human relations.

It may be that all their energy and time are devoted to making money, so the husband and wife will form a goal, but this is only temporary, or just forced by life.

Moreover, when couples put all their energy into making money, they will more or less ignore their feelings.

As we all know, feelings need to be managed and maintained. At least husband and wife should always have spiritual communication, heart to heart, and be honest with each other, so as to become more and more Qi Xin, more and more single-minded, and truly.

So at that time, because life was hard, I didn't care about my feelings, I was busy making money, and I didn't care about those little things.

However, when the living conditions are better, people gradually start to care about their feelings, put their feelings first, and their pursuit begins to change. Once they can't get each other's understanding and support, it is the beginning of contradiction.

There are also differences in consumption concepts.

3, young and big. There are two possibilities. The first is that he was a playboy, but when he was young, he had no conditions and no capital. Then when his living conditions were good, he began to indulge his desires and do whatever he wanted.

Second, he feels that he is old, and he will be really old if he doesn't toss, so he wants to seek excitement while his energy still allows.

Because it doesn't matter what psychology, what matters is that there are really many such situations.

The older you get, the less you respect yourself. Do something ridiculous for the elderly and make children feel ashamed. Others can't persuade him, and he is selfish and stubborn, which directly leads to the fact that life can't continue and he has to choose a divorce.

Betrayal is the bottom line of marriage, no matter how big it is, it cannot be changed.

Especially at a certain age, I have seen through many things and don't want to force anything, just want to make myself happy and comfortable. Since being together will only torture each other, it is better to leave early, which will help you and myself.

4. Until the child grows up. As many people know, there is a wave of divorce every summer vacation.

In fact, a long time ago, both husband and wife have reached a tacit understanding, or have communicated well. They don't want to affect their children's growth and delay their studies, so they pretend to be respectful in front of them.

Especially for the older generation, their marriage is more the words of matchmakers and the fate of their parents, and few people choose their own marriage partners after a long-distance relationship.

So there is a high probability that it will be inappropriate after marriage, but there are already children. Then considering the children, I had to compromise and submit to humiliation, hoping that the children would grow up as soon as possible, so that I could get rid of myself and not be so hard on myself.

Not only every summer vacation, many couples divorce, but also many couples choose to divorce after their children get married, so that they can really feel at ease and feel that their children have their own families, and the impact and harm will be minimized.

I won't hesitate when I divorce, I won't regret it after divorce, and I can't even wait. Finally, I can pursue the life I like and want.

These are the four possibilities summarized.

There are actually objective reasons. With the progress of the times, people's thoughts are also progressing, and they are no longer as feudal and pedantic as before. They think divorce is a big deal.

After divorce, people will talk about it, laugh at it and be looked down upon. So in a sense, this is also the right given to them by the times.

To tell the truth, there will always be contradictions between husband and wife, which has nothing to do with feelings, but the difference of living habits and the collision of spiritual thoughts and three views. Even with deep feelings, it can't achieve the perfect adaptation effect, which is almost the same. You can only accept it, you can't try to change it.

It's normal to have problems, and it's interesting to have no problems.

Just don't take a natural attitude towards the problem. If it can be solved in time, don't delay. Rome was not built in a day, and it was never the last straw to crush camels.