My husband laughed at him when he said I was nice to him.

First of all, I heard from the description that your husband should be in charge of everything and be very talkative. It's time for you to be nice to him. When you treat him badly. He started fighting again. I feel that this is a bit like a problem with unclear boundaries. It is also possible that your husband thinks that he and you are husband and wife and a family. The relationship is already very good, very close. He doesn't care much about some details and thinks you don't care. As you are the closest people, these questions should not be a problem. But this is an affront to you. It will make you very uncomfortable.

At the same time, I think your husband may have family and parent-child classes or something. Or have less knowledge and ideas about this. I don't know that a family also needs to operate with care. The relationship between families should also be improved and maintained, and upgraded at the same time. I feel that this is the problem.

Then let's sum up the problem together. First, the sense of boundary is not clear. Too casual, too casual. Offended others without knowing it. Second, I don't know how to manage family relations with care and enhance the feelings of husband and wife.

So how to solve these problems? You have realized the existence of this problem now. This is a prerequisite for change. One party knows the problem and tries to change the relationship.

First of all, don't expect your husband to change. The more you expect him to change, the more you will suffer, and the more you will suffer. But problems always need to be solved. It is you who suffer now. Then you need to change. Then I have some suggestions.

First, gentle and firm. When your husband makes unreasonable demands, or talks too much or cares too much. You should tell him gently and firmly that this is your own business and you can handle it yourself. No need for his intervention. At first, your husband may not be used to it or get angry. At this time, you should be gentle and firm. Slowly, your husband will get bored and he will restrain himself. Everything is the same. In the past, it may be because of your tolerance that your husband didn't realize your inner pain, so this situation has been repeated.

Second, you can listen to some lessons between family and parents. For example, there is a psychological. There are books and classes, and so does Fan Deng. You can also buy some books on psychology or family parent-child relationship. There are many kinds of questions in it, and there is always one that suits your family. Why? It is you who suffer. So you should first seek change and get rid of the pain. When you learn. Your family will know everything. At the same time, it is also very necessary for you to read more books and listen to classes in this field in the future.

Third. Don't try to change your husband. Nobody wants to be changed. This may worsen your relationship. Although the only thing to change is to change yourself. Find a way to better solve and handle the relationship between you. In this way, your husband is influenced by you and slowly changes. You have to accept your husband first. Understand your husband. Only when you accept him and understand him will he be influenced by you and change slowly. At the same time, one's change is a long process. So be patient.

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