The best education Huang Lei gave Duoduo was not playing the piano or writing scripts, but these three words

I have always wanted to write an article about Huang Lei’s education of children. So whenever I have time these days, my mom is watching the second season of "Where Are We Going, Dad".

In everyone’s eyes, Duoduo is famous for his excellence. He wrote English scripts at the age of 7, translated English novels at the age of 8, and also played the piano well.

In "Where Are We Going, Dad", she is a sensible and kind-hearted big sister. On the stage, she became a talented little actress again, quite like her parents back then.

Originally I wanted to write about how Huang Lei trained Duoduo to be so outstanding.

But the more he learned, the more he discovered that what Huang Lei wanted to give his children was not success or excellence, but the simplest three words - happiness. Excellence is just a natural consequence of that.

Looking back at ourselves, in this era of competing for parents and mothers, before we rush to enroll our children in classes and create superior material conditions for them, perhaps we can learn from Huang Lei and ask first Ask yourself,

"What kind of life do I want my children to have?"

Maybe if we understand the answer, we don't need to be so tired, and we can use our strength on the edge of the knife. Give your children a happy life.

We all hope that our children can live happily, but what is happiness? Can I buy all the toys I like, or can I get first place in the exam every time?

In my opinion, happiness is not about giving your child everything he wants, but about helping him develop the ability to make himself happy. One of the most important things is to teach children how to face setbacks.

A very valuable point in "Where Are We Going, Dad" is that children will encounter many difficulties that they will never encounter in real life.

They have to walk a long way on the muddy mountain road. Even if they keep falling, they have to go on bravely.

They have to leave their father and complete the task alone with their friends. Muster up the courage to ask for help from unfamiliar uncles and aunts.

They still live in simple and dilapidated houses without even a decent toilet.

What do we usually do when children do not adapt to these situations and become emotional?

You may sympathize with the child and hope that he can be patient and get over it. Maybe you will be a little unhappy and think he is too squeamish.

However, Huang Lei neither pitied Duoduo nor criticized him. What he taught a lot is to see your luck in adversity and be grateful.

For example, when going to Fiji, Duoduo, his father and Grace lived in a local school.

Grace missed her father so much that she kept crying. Affected by her, Duoduo also became sad. She cried and said to her father, "I don't know why, but I feel very unhappy here."

Huang Lei handed his daughter a tissue and told her that he I particularly like this house.

Firstly, it’s because I haven’t slept in bunk beds for a long time, and secondly, I met many enthusiastic children here.

But the most important thing is the third point.

Huang Lei asked Duoduo and Grace to touch the bed where he was sitting. There was a soft cushion underneath. Then I touched the beds of other children in this school and found that they were hard and there was only a wooden board under the sheets.

It turns out that the children specially prepared soft cushions for Duoduo and Grace, hoping that they would sleep more comfortably.

Huang Lei said to the children, "We want to say thank you, thank you to the world for being so good to me."

Seeing this, I was particularly moved and admired Huang Lei's wisdom.

When our children are sad or frustrated, we always make them stronger. In fact, subconsciously, we still only see the bad side of setbacks.

But Huang Lei has a unique approach. He teaches children to find happiness when they are unhappy and happiness when they are unhappy.

When we see those buried shining points with eyes of discovery and a heart of gratitude, we will be more optimistic and have more strength to overcome difficulties.

In "Where Are We Going, Dad", we see that Duoduo is very sensible and takes good care of others. But if we are more careful, we will find that Huang Lei is also very willing to help others.

When walking on mountain roads, he would take the initiative to help other dads carry their backpacks and carry their luggage.

When looking for ingredients dropped by helicopters in the mountains, Huang Lei did not hesitate to search for the ingredients in the farthest place, so that other fathers could complete their tasks early and go back to take care of their children.

In addition to setting an example for Duoduo, Huang Lei will naturally look for opportunities to pass on this helpful value to Duoduo.

Once, everyone was rushing forward in the woods. The children all wanted to be the first to arrive, but Huang Lei said to Duoduo, "Don't rush to chase the person in front, but think about waiting for the person in the back."

This sentence The words made Duoduo silent for a while, and also made me think for a long time.

We always encourage our children to compete and be the best. However, blindly striving for first place may not be a good thing for children sometimes.

Think back to when we were in school, were there always one or two good students in the class who had top-notch grades but were not popular?

Such a good student is actually very lonely inside. When you grow up and enter the society, it is easy to be isolated and excluded, and it is difficult to develop your talents and gain recognition from colleagues and leaders.

Huang Lei once said, "Friends are the most precious gifts in our lives."

He named Duoduo and Duomei, the last word of the two children's names, one One is compassion, and the other is love. I hope they will have compassion and love in their hearts, and hope that such a life will bring them happiness.

Huang Lei does this himself, he is friendly to others and treats his friends like family. Duoduo saw all this in his eyes, so he grew into a kind, warm and well-liked person.

We often worry, what should we do if our children can’t make friends? Always worried about how to improve their social skills.

In fact, skills are secondary. If a child values ??friendship, is willing to share, and is willing to help others, even if he is not good at words and does not know social skills, he can still impress others with his sincerity and become a popular and blessed person.

The third thing that touches me about Huang Lei is that no matter where he goes, he will bring books to Duoduo and read with his daughter.

When they were in Fiji, he and Duoduo were reading with a flashlight on the bed.

In the Yellow River Stone Forest, Duoduo sat in the yard and read to his younger brothers and sisters.

When Huang Lei participates in other programs, he will also take books with him, get up early to make a cup of tea, grab a pen, and enjoy that quiet reading time.

Because she has a father who loves to read so much, when Duoduo was once asked "What items should I bring when traveling?", her answer was actually "books".

Reading has become as natural as eating and sleeping. No wonder Duoduo can write English poems and scripts at a young age.

I forgot which book I read, a mother said that no matter how hard we try, we cannot give our children the best influence in all aspects, but books can.

In books, children can talk to the most thoughtful and wise great people, experience situations that are impossible to encounter in real life, and explore everything they want to know.

So introduce books as a good friend to your children as early as possible. It allows children to live an interesting, rich and less lonely life.

There are many things we can learn from Huang Lei’s parenting style. For example, he has a happy marriage with Sun Li, his respect for his children, and the importance he attaches to having family meals together.

But what moved me the most was his interpretation of the three words "happiness".

In fact, comfortable living conditions, excellent grades, and the various abilities we want to cultivate in our children, in the final analysis, don’t we just want them to live happily?

As long as the child is rich inside, everything else will fall into place.