Learn how to sit next to the boss.

Whether it is a novice or a veteran in the workplace, whether it is a meeting or a light meal, in many cases, subordinates generally do not choose to sit next to the boss without a seat arrangement in advance, and in some occasions where they can "sit casually" (which can be regarded as a collective term for leaders, superiors and other organs). Sometimes the boss will take the initiative to greet his subordinates to get close to him, but subordinates, especially those with junior qualifications, are often afraid (or unwilling) to do so.

I have also attended many meetings without hierarchy. If "please fill the front row first" is not required, people who enter the venue will automatically vacate the first two, because they know that they are the "boss" and the leader's seat. A generation that has been educated since childhood to be afraid of teachers and authority, sitting next to the boss is really a kind of pressure and needs to be strong inside.

I think of myself. At the age of 65,438+08, he entered the society and worked in a state-owned enterprise. In the factory, I am most afraid of Director Lu Yu, and I am afraid of walking around the streets. I don't know how to say hello. I'd rather walk around against the wall. Now that I think about it, it's really childish. If there is an internet and a mother, I will definitely search for "What should I do if I walk face to face with the leader?"

Last Sunday, I went to a colleague's wedding reception. When I was taken to a single room, I found that I was the first to arrive. I asked who else was in that room, and my colleague said "boss". According to company practice, as long as the boss is at home and has no other important business, he will attend the employee's wedding banquet. I chose a safer "blame-free" seat, that is, the main escort and the auxiliary escort plus the "other" positions on the left and right sides of these two seats. When waiting for someone, I think it is most reliable to sit in the "other" position for the time being or not to serve the table first. Draw a sketch to explain the situation (the wine culture is different in north and south, this scene is Qilu style, and the boss usually sits in the main position).

Chinese food/ten people/limited to painting level, only one dish.

I draw this picture to show that if you are sitting next to your boss at the dinner table, the first thing to do is to find your own position. One year, the company organized shopping guide training in Jinan. At the end of the training, the boss invited us to dinner. We arrived at the hotel late. When I entered the private room, I saw a beautiful woman from a dealer company bragging, and the accompanying regional manager was embarrassed. He went over and whispered to the beautiful woman, "Please change seats." That girl is obviously not trained in business etiquette.

Even if it is not a formal business occasion, the seating arrangement of colleagues in the company actually has established rules, which are nothing more than the principles of "position, qualifications, closeness, honor (sitting with the leader)". I chose the "other" position because I knew that there were company executives or important customers attending the wedding reception, and sitting there also meant that I didn't have to take the initiative to toast or even drink, which was more "safe" and comfortable.

The second thing to learn to sit next to your boss is to be open to yourself. We should first break through the psychological barrier and tell ourselves that "I am qualified and capable" to sit next to the boss, cherish such an opportunity to exercise ourselves and give ourselves positive hints. There is no need to appear timid.

Once I attended a symposium for a new employee, the conference table was zigzag. The boss went to the meeting first, and many subordinates and newcomers entered the meeting room, vying to sit far away from him. The boss took the initiative to call all the people close to him and joked, "It's not hard for me to meet, is it?" ! "In this way, everyone filled the gap around him. Fear (or fear, unwillingness) of sitting next to the boss may have many psychological activities behind it, for example, fear of being told to kiss the boss's ass behind his back, which means that you may be asked questions by the boss at any time, for example, you are not confident ... In fact, sitting next to the boss with an open mind is a sign of self-confidence and self-improvement in the workplace.

Former British Prime Minister Margaret received a strict family education from an early age. Her father often instills in her the idea that no matter what you do, you should strive to be first-class, always stay ahead of others and never fall behind others. "Even when you take a bus, you should always sit in the front row." It is said that Harvard University has a follow-up survey (Harvard has many similar follow-up experiments).

Here's the experiment. The professor let his students enter a spacious auditorium and sit down freely. After repeating it several times, the professor found that some students always like to sit in the front row, some people sit around blindly, and some people seem to particularly like the seats in the back. The professor took down their names separately. 10 years later, the professor's follow-up survey shows that among the students who like to sit in the front row, the proportion of success is much higher than that of the other two types of students. Later, the professor said to the freshmen earnestly:

"It's not that everything should be at the forefront and always be the first, but this positive attitude is very important. In the long life, we must strive for the first place and actively sit in the front row! "

Sitting next to the boss is actually a reflection of a positive attitude. Dare to sit next to your boss and be calm and generous, so that you can have a chance to show your confidence through your manners and manners. Through face-to-face communication, knowing the leader can also let the leader know himself. Although "gold always shines", who knows if it is buried underground? Even if you are a swan egg, who will appreciate your beauty if you don't become an ugly duckling and then a swan? You know, you can learn a lot of new things by sitting next to your leaders and getting to know them at close range. The so-called "it is better to study for ten years than to study for ten years" is really true. The CEO who just changed in my original factory is a secretary. Because he often works around the big boss of the group, the so-called words and deeds must have "benefited a lot" from his career management.

The famous "Buffett Lunch" is an opportunity to have lunch with Warren Buffett in new york. The starting price of 20 12 has reached $3,456,789, and it will cost a lot of money to have a meal with Warren Buffett. Duan Yongping, the founder of BBK, has read Buffett's book and benefited a lot. He wishes to thank Warren personally. In 2006, he spent more than $600,000 to have a meal with Warren. It is said that he has a huge sum of money but can't find an investment target. He just wanted to ask Buffett, "What would you do if you had a lot of idle funds but no suitable investment targets?"

As a rookie in the workplace, I have no chance to have a meal with Warren for the time being. If I have dinner or a meeting with my boss, I want to take advantage of the opportunity to sit next to my boss. The boss is the boss, there must be something extraordinary. Learn to sit next to the boss, not because he is the boss, but because he is excellent. At dinner, I might as well ask "How can I become as successful (rich) as you". Of course, this sentence is a joke. If you can ask casually, you may need to eat many times and have many meetings. It will take many years.

In my opinion, the third rule of learning to sit next to the boss is to have a sense of service. Even five-star hotels sometimes have poor service. If you have the opportunity to provide tea, you should take the initiative to provide services as a young and junior, which will make people feel that you are more helpful, diligent and sophisticated, and you will be rewarded in the workplace.

In any case, "supporting your boss", "getting on well with your boss" and "thinking like your boss" are always the survival rules that people in the workplace must memorize.

PS: Some people are not afraid to sit next to their boss by nature. For example, the famous Ms. Deng Wendi happened to sit next to Rupert Murdoch, the news corporation tycoon, on the plane when she graduated from college, and got an internship opportunity, which successfully won the position ... but now she is divorced.

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